You may wish to have a look at Cynosure (cynosure-online.com/forums). We're a larger-than-average social shell, but just because we are "social" doesn't mean we don't DO stuff, sometimes big stuff. We are a helpful bunch indeed, but will not spoil you; we will say to helping on tasks better done solo.
We HAVE had a "delay in new pearlings" for awhile (I mean 5-10 days tops), due to lots of new members lately. This doesn't mean that you don't get in, but we may ask you to wait a few days as we get to know our other new members a bit. This way, you are likely to be the only "new guy" and (thus) get to know us better when you arrive, instead of just being one more new face out of several.
In-game, I am Grommet, and you can look me up if you have questions, whether or not you are "pearled" yet and even if you do not join us.
____________________________Grommet Taru male San d'Orian
95 WHM, BLM, RNG, SMN, WAR/ 64SAM/ 52DRK/ 51PLD, THF/ 49NIN, SCH, RDM, DNC
100 Woodworking and Fishing; 80 Synergy
60 in all other crafts
(Updated November 12, 2011)