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Okay guys this is a long story, and I want advice if what I did was right. I went into FFXI at first playing a male Hume because the number one reason was boys. I know these MMORPGs are full of them. Some boys are just plain creepy, others really cool. But after test-driving my male Hume for about three weeks I decide the water's safe enough to raise a female character.

Boy was I wrong.

So somewhere along the line I PT in Qufim, and this Elvaan guy gets friendly, we talk. We share common interests, ideas, and about a day later when we're PTing inside the tower he offers to trade with me. I go, "What's this?" And a little later I see his attempt to trade 40K. I tell him, "What's this for? I can't take it."

"For the wedding dress," he says.

I'm like, "Whuh?!?!?!" But then I think it over; maybe it's not so bad. He seems like a nice guy, and he kneels down and proposes, yet I haven't had the time to catch my breath or recooperate what just happened. I nod. That was a mistake. I later find that he buys gil.

A day after I think it over, test the ground, and find myself extremely uncomfortable with this dude. Maybe it was because he bought gil, or maybe because he smothers me, or maybe it's because he just plain creeped me out. So I tell him to hang back, and eventually I call it off. I made a decision to marry at LVL 60 or above, because by then I'll know which guy stuck to me most, and someone I'm most comfortable with. He said he'll manage, and it didn't sound like he was too hurt, and I'm glad because it was in a span of less than a week.

Slowly we don't talk at all, and I get the occassional, "What LVL are you now?" I lvl up quickly because I love PTs, and soon he's a 30 WHM and I'm already on advanced jobs at 40 before he sends me a /tell "I'm engaged to a lovely girl!" I'm happy for him, and a little relieved on my part from all that pressure.

But today was something I totally didn't expect. I see him in Giddy with his fiancee trailing along, and I wave at him as a sign of friendliness. He doesn't respond. I walk around looking for NMs and I hear the girl shout, "LEAVE HIM ALONE!" Then I get a slap from her and a "HA!" and then various /tells how much of a B@#TCH I am for leaving him and breaking his heart and how much I didn't deserve him (usual high school blah), and how much she loves him. I'm a little bit in shocked because all I had done was wave to the guy.

I make the conversation short, "You don't know me. I have no idea what's going on, but I do get the idea that you're not friendly with me. Congratulations on having him as your bf/fiance/etc. Goodbye, I'm blisting you."

And I did it. I didn't include names because I didn't want to get a whole mob against them, but seriously...what do you guys think? I feel terribly bad because some guy felt so emotional over a 2-day thing.

don't misunderstand me, i think in-game weddings are great, but he needs to remember one thing: This is just a game. I realize that there are RPers and all that, and thats cool, but IMO he went overboard. I mean, it sounds like some high school drama (i have to admit i chuckled when i read what that girl said to you). All in all, it is a good idea to wait till higher lvls to marry, cause those are the people who know what commitment is (lvling a job 50+ at least takes quite a bit of time). I would just shrug this off and go on with your life.

wow.. bizarre..

You have my sympathies for such.. screwball treatment.. I mean that's just messed up..

some people REALLY need to pop a little prozac before logging in..

*chuckling*..funny, but very true. Arlenis, I am sorry for the situation that happened, and understand I'm not faulting you for his childish actions(or his dim-witted online gf), I will, however suggest that maybe you get to know someone for longer then 2-3 days befor you agree to marry them online, wise to hold off as you put it. There are indeed alot of children that play these games that are not equiped to handle adult situations/relationships-even if they are only online. You never know the the age of the person your dealing with unfortunately. You seem like a very sweet girl that doesn't need to rush into ANYTHING, there are plenty of really nice guys to goof off with if you enjoy the full roleplay thing. No harm, no foul. More power to you. Be well and best of luck.