Forgive my musings here, something that came to me after rereading the article. On the topic of fighting "rape culture" I'm not so sure it's something that's going to really succeed.
Why would you say such a thing?
Well, I think it's pretty hard-wired into the male mind.
What? That's sick. Obviously men should be able to control themselves, I'm sure they can.
I agree, and I would have whole-heartedly agreed with the statement a few years back, but I don't think self-control is the issue we should be looking at.
Humor me for a second...
I think the ability to ignore the pain and suffering of another is just part of who we are. Not only in the 'must kill to defend ourselves' mentality of nature, but also as part of ensuring reproduction.
Huh? You're @#%^ed up...
Probably, but it's not like what you're thinking.
Consider this: have you ever watched someone go through a particularly painful childbirth? How did that make you feel? For myself it was horrifying. Knowing that a moment of passion could nearly cost another their life. Especially someone you care deeply about. Now imagine you lived in an era before things like drugs, c-sections, etc. where the process was often much more painful, and the risk of death from complications was much higher.
For myself, even today it was hard enough to get back into the swing of things afterwards so to speak. I mean, goodness gracious that was traumatic. Makes other suffering seem minor in comparison. Frankly if I wouldn't have been able to put the wife's pain out of my mind, we would have never had more than a single child, and I probably would have written off sex altogether. Not worth the risk, even with all those hormones pushing me.
Along those lines, why was it customary for men not to be present in the delivery room for many years?
Anyway, yes, icky stuff is icky. Not meaning to condone assault, make excuses, whatever, etc, just sharing a random perspective. Hopefully with the comparative ease of modern life, men can evolve away from that survival tactic picked up years ago. It'll take time though, I'd wager.
Anywho, it's probably all been said before, but it's something I didn't appreciate until more recently.
Random thoughts are done, and I'm headed home for the night.