AlexanderrOfAsura wrote:
I could never get into the attitude of, "Well people are going to do it anyway, we might as well show them how to do it right". There are quite a few natural behaviors humans have, not all of them have a place in modern times.
If the children were taught that they shouldn't have sex before marriage, that bad things would result from it, then they go ahead and do it without any knowledge then they are f-ing stupid. If "Dont @#%^" is too difficult of a concept for them, how do you expect them to be able to handle buying/using condoms and birth control?
May I respectfully suggest that perhaps you have a very low libido in comparison to a lot of other people? Especially the sort of libido that flares up like a conflagration of holy fire when you fall desperately in love for the first time, at an age when it would be idiotic to get married?
I don't have a set age that I think children should be educated that they wait for, but I would very gravely suggest to any friend or relative of mine that they don't get married until the age of 25.
Also, given that I think you can never truly get to know the "real" person until you live with them (you can only get to know their theoretical ideals, you don't get to know their actual practical personal living habits) I also advise people not marry someone without living with them first. I think that is super-important for upping the chances of a long-term happy and successful marriage. If some-one is a "no sex before marriage" person, I would STILL seriously advise them to move in and live with their beloved before they married them, in a house-mate type arrangement, for at least 6 months.
AlexanderrOfAsura wrote:
If the children were taught that they shouldn't have sex before marriage, that bad things would result from it, then they go ahead and do it without any knowledge then they are f-ing stupid. If "Dont @#%^" is too difficult of a concept for them, how do you expect them to be able to handle buying/using condoms and birth control?
Walking is a human instinct. We hold the hands of small children, and say: "Don't go anywhere near the road without Mummy and Daddy." But then we recognise they need some personal freedom and space, and teach them how to cross the road safely. It takes some stopping and thinking, about using traffic lights, and looking both ways, instead of charging blindly ahead. But kids grasp it, and parents can give their children more and more leeway and personal freedom in going off by themselves.
Having sex is also an ingrained human instinct, a very strong one. Instead of trying to cap a raging flood, it's ever so much less traumatic to channel it safely. With road-safety ou can impress on a kid the importance of not letting their impatience override waiting for the traffic light to change. With sex-safety you can impress on them the importance of planning ahead, and taking a small pause in proceedings to put a condom on. You can impress on them that it's just polite behaviour, (and it makes things MORE relaxed because it takes away worries) to say to a new sex partner: I've been for a check-up since I broke up with my ex, and I don't have any STDs.
Frankly, I think the handling buying and using contraception and protection is a truck-load less loaded, complicated, stressful, and full of responsibilities (half of them LEGAL) than
getting married! If some-one can't handle contraception they sure shouldn't be walking down the aisle!
Edited, May 17th 2008 7:43am by Aripyanfar Edited, May 17th 2008 7:45am by Aripyanfar