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Children never, ever, need to be hit. Let me amend that. If the child burns your neigbors house down, killing all inside and runs about your house dragging the charred remains, hit them. Othere than that, though, there's simply no need.
I maintain that only those who are mentally ill beyond any normal means of social interaction would do that if raised with an understanding that socially unnaceptable behavior is punished (by whatever means).
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I grab him and prevent him from touching it. If he keeps trying, I keep grabbing him. If you can hit him, you can reach out and pick him up.
That's an excellent sounding piece of advice. But it just sounds good. It doesn't really apply. Children are not adults in smaller bodies. They don't have an adult's perceptions or understandings of some things that we take very much for granted. If no mental connection is made between 'hot iron' and 'pain', then sooner or later when you are NOT there to pick the child up, you may wind up peeling his face tissue off the hot plate of that iron when he pulled it off the ironing board onto himself.
Any sort of punishment should be instructive. Otherwise it's pointless. It doesn't matter if it's a pop on the hand, a whipping, restriction, timeout, whatever. If no guidance is imparted, then the method has failed.