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She should be arrested.

That's fine, raise your kids however you want. If I want to let my kids say "donkey raping **** eating pig ******" I will. If that violates a school rule, punish them accordning to the school rule. Putting a toxic substance in my childs mouth is just going to make want to put the barrel of a pistol in your mouth so you can empathize.

It's not a toxic substance? It's ok to ingest soap? No harm done?

What planet do YOU live on. Since when is soap NOT toxic?

Hitting children teaches them to use violence to solve every problem.

Not wise.

What a crock of *********

Violence is never, EVER, the correct answer. If you think that it is, well..... guess you're a typical American.

While I don't think what she did was dangerous, I'd be mad as hell if it were my child. When I send a child to school, it will be under the expectation that the staff will be following their own rules. Discipline of that nature is up to myself and my husband and I would be as angry with that type of discipline as I would be with her spanking my child. Whether or not it is something I would do at home (which it isn't) is not even the issue. It was not her place. If the rules call for a suspension, suspend him and let further punishment come from the parents. I can sympathize with her, I really can, but it was incredibly inappropriate and I would expect better judgement from a teacher.

Nexa

If they're going to remain children forever (mentally retarded) or if you use that method beyond a certain maturity level, agreed.

However, there's nothing wrong with using corporal punishment properly.

In my previous words, I stated what my parents would have done. Personally, I am sure they could have raised me better if there were fewer episodes where I got whipped. I vividly recall several incidents where it was simply the wrong method to use. But that's hindsight.

I have seen abusive parents who actually beat children. It's not pretty, and it's not right. There is a very real difference between a beating and properly used corporal punishment. In many cases, these parents are lashing out and using the child as a target to vent their own anger. It tends to run in families, too.

Corporal punishment is not a solution to the world's woes. But it has its place in raising a child. There are exceptional parents who raise their children so well that a child may never need a whipping. There are exceptional children who always try so hard to do the things that their parents consider acceptable that they never get whippings. These are, by definition, exceptional.

If a child reaches for a hot iron, do you just say, 'No' and wait for him to touch it anyway? Or do you pop his hand and say 'No'?

Striking a child to LITERALLY stop them from further harm is far different from striking them as a form of punishment. That's like saying that if you push a child out of the way of a car that you are trying to punish them for walking into the street. Pick a better example.

Nexa

Actually Nexa his example is very good, where as yours is outlandish.

But lets be a little more simplistic in examples, what if the child was reaching for a $1000.00 crystal figurine in a store and you have already told them not touch anything several times.

If they're going to remain children forever (mentally retarded) or if you use that method beyond a certain maturity level, agreed.

However, there's nothing wrong with using corporal punishment properly.


There is no way to "properly" beat your child.



In my previous words, I stated what my parents would have done. Personally, I am sure they could have raised me better if there were fewer episodes where I got whipped. I vividly recall several incidents where it was simply the wrong method to use. But that's hindsight.


Look, I understnad why adults hit kids. They get frustrated with them, they feel like other methods just aren't learning, they can't communicate the severity of what the child has done, whatever. It's still a faliure on the part of the parents. My parents hit me on more than one occasion and it didn't scar me for life. I don't hate them. I don't think they were bad parents. I think they failed in administering punishment and taught me that violence was a good way to deal with problems.

Growing up where I did you'd have to have been Ghandi not to have been in thirty fist fights by the time you were twelve. I don't think parents are going to beat their kids to death, I just think it sends the wrong message and is a failure.



I have seen abusive parents who actually beat children. It's not pretty, and it's not right. There is a very real difference between a beating and properly used corporal punishment. In many cases, these parents are lashing out and using the child as a target to vent their own anger. It tends to run in families, too.


Right. It runs in fammilies where the parents were hit by their own parents. Maybe their parents were doing it "properly" too. Perhaps they can't moderate it as well as their parents did, and beat their own children. They feel justified in doing it and likely think they are doing it "properly" as well. Had they never been hit it's much less likely that they'd be beating their own children.


Corporal punishment is not a solution to the world's woes. But it has its place in raising a child. There are exceptional parents who raise their children so well that a child may never need a whipping. There are exceptional children who always try so hard to do the things that their parents consider acceptable that they never get whippings. These are, by definition, exceptional.


Children never, ever, need to be hit. Let me amend that. If the child burns your neigbors house down, killing all inside and runs about your house dragging the charred remains, hit them. Othere than that, though, there's simply no need.


If a child reaches for a hot iron, do you just say, 'No' and wait for him to touch it anyway? Or do you pop his hand and say 'No'?


I grab him and prevent him from touching it. If he keeps trying, I keep grabbing him. If you can hit him, you can reach out and pick him up.

I don't. The words don't bother me. The ideas might bother me, but have I ever told someone not to say something?



I'm not side stepping it, I just find it hard to believe that the people discussing this on this topic aren't aware of alternative punishments to hitting a child. If that's really the case, if your litterally that narrow minded in your thinking that the only option you can see is hitting a child let me kow and I'll suggest some alternatives.

No I am not that narrow minded, I am wondering what your opinion is, considering your educational back ground.

Just remember though violence does not always beget violence.