My wife and I broke on what is probably the best terms I have heard of in a divorce. I supose it is because we still love each other and our primary difference was that I didnt want to leave Arizona and she needed to live in Mississippi. Its a hard thing, I dream about her often. I hope you are well in this, and hope that it is in fact a move for the better for you. BTW for those of you who know who I am talking about she is turning 30 soon be sure and give her grief for me=P
She is pretty secure about it though so =) For some reason this is a big step for a woman for me it was like oh well supose 40 will hit me harder maybe.
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I dream about her often.
Meee too.
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To make a long story short, I don't take any responsibility for anything I post here. It's not news, it's not truth, it's not serious. It's parody. It's satire. It's bitter. It's angsty. Your mother's a *****. You like to jack off dogs. That's right, you heard me. You like to grab that dog by the bone and rub it like a ski pole. Your dad? Gay. Your priest? Straight. **** off and let me post. It's not true, it's all in good fun. Now go away.
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trickybeck the Stupid wrote:
I wonder if Vaanan holds the same contempt for all divorced people? In 2000 in the U.S. there were over 21 million divorces. That's a lot of pent up anger.
Sure, and there were that many broken families with children that are wondering why mommy and daddy don't live together anymore. Sheesh what a stupid comment to make. And I guess that it makes it ok because there were that many?
In the words of another (in)famous poster on this forum, you are a moron for making that post.
Get a clue and think about what you are saying before you type.
Hmm, I guess because there were 42 million deaths in World War 2 that makes dictators like Adolf Hitler ok, too.
You sound like Joseph Stalin. He said that 1 death is a tragedy, 1 million is a statistic.
You also sound like a typical bleeding heart liberal, trivializing a tragedy because there are so many.
Ya can't see the forest for the trees.
Edited, Thu Apr 29 02:19:23 2004 by Vaanan
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Sure, and there were that many broken families with children that are wondering why mommy and daddy don't live together anymore.
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And I guess that it makes it ok because there were that many?
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Hmm, I guess because there were 42 million deaths in World War 2 that makes dictators like Adolf Hitler ok, too.
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You sound like Joseph Stalin. He said that 1 death is a tragedy, 1 million is a statistic.
Either way, my post made no statement about whether or not I approved of divorce, or whether I thought it was ok. I simply wondered if you had anger directed toward all divorce, in which case that would be a lot of anger, due to the large amount of divorce.
In the words of myself, you are a moron. And hitler.
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A walk-out is still a walk-out. You walk out, you give up on the marriage.
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My parents never walked out on each other and gave each other a six month breather from the marriage
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But you obviously have no idea what I'm talking about when I mention love, respect, commitment, and those other big words. You are right there along with all the other little immature kids who are getting married so they can play house.
Oh, but when the going gets a little tough, you decide you can always go home to mama for six months while you test those waters with other folks to decide if you really want to stay with the hubby. You need to grow up and gain a little maturity
Oh, but when the going gets a little tough, you decide you can always go home to mama for six months while you test those waters with other folks to decide if you really want to stay with the hubby. You need to grow up and gain a little maturity
I'm not a "little immature kid" and I didn't get married to "play house". There was no safety net waiting for me. I never gave up on my marriage, which is exactly why I moved out for a time. I never stopped fighting for my marriage. If I had stayed I have no doubt we'd be divorced now. Guess what? Whether or not we were living in the same house, we were still married.
I know that this thought would never occur to you but you really have no idea what you're talking about. Every one of your assumptions is wrong.
Wild assumptions and blind judgementalism are really poor debate tools.
It's funny but through this whole thread the best advice is probably this.
Nothing compares for showing your man how much you love him.
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Give him ****
Nothing compares for showing your man how much you love him.
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I find it troubling you only post on the thread about bad marriges. Surely everythings ok with the Englishman?
I doubt you'd find it troubling, but yes, everything is delightful, thank you. We should all get together in Acadia sometime this summer (not in August though, I'll be in England). I actually have a car now, so I expect to be down that way semi-regularly to go to the park and take photos.
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“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
Alright, I skipped a lot trying to get more info on what happened Kristal, and I saw that you two are taking a break. Then I read the last post by Vanaan which I agree with in this area here:
These three words are so looked down upon in todays society. But let me get to what I see with the little information. It stems to three possiblities. Start with the worst.
a.) He's cheating on you. He found someone whom he feels that he can be with without an actual commitment. Us guys are truly afraid of that word. No matter how mature we are, it it a very large responsibilty. And by cheating on you, he's getting rid of a commitment to you as well as not having to "bear" with a commitment to a fling with another woman.
b.) He's scared. Depending on how long you have been married, if it's a short while, then maybe he still hasn't accepted the fast that he will be with you for the rest of his life, and needs some time to clear his head, regroup, and come back to you renewed or with a decision in his mind.
c.) He wants to simply clear his head, have some time to figure some problems out that he doesn't want to share with you. This is common among men. I for one, like my alone time, and if I don't get it, I get very hostile :P But really, it is needed, so this may be because of that.
** Caution**Slightly off topic opinion ahead:
I for one believe that if two people are meant to be together then they will be...for eternity. This does not come without kinks or twists in it, but because they are determined to stay together, they will find a way to. This has to do with the association with love in it's truest sense, hence true love.
I also believe that too many people jump into marriage while lust is the motive and not love. This differention is very necessarry.
Oop time to go, I want to write more, but I'm at work and must leave. I'll clarify and expand on many thoughts I have if you want Kristal. If you would like to share any info, it would be greatly appreciated.
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when I mention love, respect, commitment, and those other big words.
These three words are so looked down upon in todays society. But let me get to what I see with the little information. It stems to three possiblities. Start with the worst.
a.) He's cheating on you. He found someone whom he feels that he can be with without an actual commitment. Us guys are truly afraid of that word. No matter how mature we are, it it a very large responsibilty. And by cheating on you, he's getting rid of a commitment to you as well as not having to "bear" with a commitment to a fling with another woman.
b.) He's scared. Depending on how long you have been married, if it's a short while, then maybe he still hasn't accepted the fast that he will be with you for the rest of his life, and needs some time to clear his head, regroup, and come back to you renewed or with a decision in his mind.
c.) He wants to simply clear his head, have some time to figure some problems out that he doesn't want to share with you. This is common among men. I for one, like my alone time, and if I don't get it, I get very hostile :P But really, it is needed, so this may be because of that.
** Caution**Slightly off topic opinion ahead:
I for one believe that if two people are meant to be together then they will be...for eternity. This does not come without kinks or twists in it, but because they are determined to stay together, they will find a way to. This has to do with the association with love in it's truest sense, hence true love.
I also believe that too many people jump into marriage while lust is the motive and not love. This differention is very necessarry.
Oop time to go, I want to write more, but I'm at work and must leave. I'll clarify and expand on many thoughts I have if you want Kristal. If you would like to share any info, it would be greatly appreciated.
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Sure, and there were that many broken families with children that are wondering why mommy and daddy don't live together anymore.
Is it inconievable that not everyone marries the person they think they did? or that over a period of 20 years people can't grow apart or to hate each other even?
As a child who's parents did divorce i have to say a peaceful divorce is better than a marriage of ill-ease growing to Hatred that can lead to violance and resentment. My parents where smart enough to realise that if they carried on the way they where someone was going to get hurt so they took a step back and made a desicion that was best for ALL parties.
Not everyone who divorces is a bad person on either side, and young people do make mistakes you know.
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You also sound like a typical bleeding heart liberal, trivializing a tragedy because there are so many.
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Aww, Grady. How does it feel to be a case study?
Shouldn't that be, "How does it feel to be a case study for something other than ***** enlargement pills?"
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Grady
I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness, starving hysterical naked, dragging themselves through the negro streets at dawn looking for an angry fix, angelheaded hipsters burning for the ancient heavenly connection to the starry dynamo in the machin ery of night.
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Good luck on your pending divorce and I hope you never marry again. Both you and your immature spouse have no idea what the word commitment means. I really hope you two don't have kids. I feel so sorry for them if you do.
You ******* self righteous prick. It's quite obvious that she doesn't want the divorce, but she can't MAKE her husband change his mind. The only person to feel sorry for is asswipes like you that think that they know all the answers. The truth is the decision doesn't have to be from both parties... only one has to decide they want it to be over.
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Am I perfect? No, but I will never divorce my wife because I feel "it just won't work". If I felt that way about the marriage, I would have never entered into it.
Again, ******** SHE isn't the one who wanted the divorce. Is that plain enough for you? She also stated that she wants to work on the marriage but he is unwilling. Who exactly is the moron here? I'm seeing only you raise your hand...
Grady
Edited, Thu Apr 29 09:02:04 2004 by Grady
I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness, starving hysterical naked, dragging themselves through the negro streets at dawn looking for an angry fix, angelheaded hipsters burning for the ancient heavenly connection to the starry dynamo in the machin ery of night.
Hehe, this thread has made me smile:) And for clarification: There is no divorce or even hatred or bad feelings between my husband and I:) Amazingly we have been getting along better in these past couple days than we have in a long time. We have been talking and laughing about our good memories and the memories we will be able to make once we have some time apart and he finds out what he wants and what is important to him:) We don't give up, me leaving is just another way of accomplishing our mutual goal:)
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Im sorry but , what kinda ball-less coward ask the woman to leave him ? If my man was going to go , he damn well better be putting on those adidas and getting the f-out his damn self .Maybe youre staying in his home or the lease is in his name whatever . Check with youre attorney , i dont know if the circumstances i.e. who leaves who would help to determine alimony or child custody( if you have kids) . Make sure you mention as youre leaving youre on youre way to see a ruthless blood sucking attorney who going to make a gay porno staring youre soon to be ex. That might make him listen to reason :)
Paragraphs man, use them!
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Im sorry but , what kinda ball-less coward ask the woman to leave him ? If my man was going to go , he damn well better be putting on those adidas and getting the f-out his damn self
If I own the house, your *** is gone!
That's tough talk, Reinman! 
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