Sexuality and ChildrenFollow

How is that little hot tamale doing?

Ok with changing times childern should be told about sex as soon as possible. This is going to be different from child to child depending on their level of maturity. Girls mature faster than boys (not sure if this is a fact or just a very popular belief)so they can probablly handle the information at a younger age without snickering and laughing everytime their parent says the word *****. When you have this talk with your children dont think for one second that this is going to be the first time they have ever talked about this subject, so basically what you are doing is weeding out all of the incorrect and or corrupt information they have already recieved from their peers. The concequences of not doing this can be too great and just because you feel uncompfortable in no way brings any justification to stds or teen pregnancy. When my father attempted to give me
"the talk" he said,"son do you know about sex?" To which I replied, "yea dad my cousin already explained everything." He then retorted, "Good boy." This ,although acceptable for him and myself at the time, is an example of what not to do.

On a side note: Anyone ever notice that humans are the only species of animal that can defy the laws of natural selection? Other animals dont have "teen pregnancy" because they natrually mate with the male that seems the most powerfull, or is displaying his colors the most. This keeps their offspring filled with his genes and in some cases lables him as a decent provider. Humans however, have discovered that sex feels good and adopted the everpopular theory of, if it feels good do it! This leads to overpopulation and a lower rate of evolution of the human species thru gene pool quality. Sooooooo when I am elected supreme ruler of earth I will require a breeding license in order to reproduce. Any reproduction without said license will be punishable by death!

Actually, yes, I did practice abstinence. That might make me a minority, but I'm glad I did it. All of my "firsts" were with my husband and I'm glad that I was able to share them with him.

Well, good for you. I did say "most".

I think you are pissing him off because you are refusing to see that he is right.



This one hurts my head.

I would love to disagree with you. But the god~awful truth is that I have no idea what's going to happen in High School. All I'm saying is that I don't "plan" to have sex until I am married, because I was taught that sex is important and should not be abused.

The reason it can't even be compared to running is that you are sharing sex with another person. You are inside another person's body, and that totally alters a relationship.





I agree whole~heartedly that sex education should be taught in schools, but also understand why religious groups would want it out.


Since the Bible and other Holy Books make such a huge deal about pre~marital sex, religious adults are scared for their children. They misunderstand the bible's meaning and see sex as an evil, vile thing. So the mentality is, the less their child knows about sex, the better off they are.

Unfortunately for parents who don't want their children to know about sex, it happens anyway. As early as Elementary school, sexual jokes are thrown around, as well as songs.(I remember coming up with a ditty about President Clinton and Monica in the 3rd grade >< I won't repeat it though)

I'm not trying to sway anyone's views or anything (As a matter of fact, it's been proven to be impossible to change people's opinions on Forums), I'm just saying I see where everyone else in coming from.


(P.S. I <3 Cross Country.)

I realize all this is a personal decision... but why in the world would anyone want to wait until they were married until they have sex? Or, marry the first person they had sex with? If I had done that, I'd be currently in jail for killing my gay, psychotic husband. This is hypothetically speaking, of course.

Calm down sinistrd....
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that keeping a child as a teenager will typically result in a lower standard of living than your parents had.

Is there exceptions? Of course, you're obviously a good example.

http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=poverty+teenage+parents

I don't normally send people on google hunts, but seriously... Is it that hard to believe?


Sex education works, pressure for abstinance is quite counter productive. However there are reasons for doing both and that was all I was trying to state...

http://www.cnn.com/2004/HEALTH/parenting/03/09/abstinence.study.ap/index.html

I read about it recently, the abstinence part is fine, its the pressure part that goes awry.

i]It's difficult to simultaneously prepare for sex and say you're not going to have sex," said Peter Bearman, the chair of Columbia University's Department of Sociology, who co-authored the study with Hannah Bruckner of Yale.[/i]

This is really the only thing that really contradicts my point a view. It's difficult, but not impossible, naturally it is highly dependant on what kind of relationship you have with your child.

The question is, what percentage of kids that pledge abstinence in this study, were also taught to have sex safely. If all the kids recieved the same education on how to have sex safely, I think the abstinence group would then exhibit the appropriate decrease in the numbers, since as this study states, they are having less sex.



I didn't see where it talked about pressure in this article.

When I approach my child about sex, if they were to say, "Don't worry about that dad, I am not going to have sex until I am married". I would start to worry. Furthermore, I would say something like, well that may change so I want to be very clear on the implications and responsibilities of having sex. Wherein the responsibilities section would contain a good talk about condoms, and let them know that condoms are not100% effective, and that there are risks involved even when you are acting responsibly. The only 100% method is abstinence, and thus the best choice, but it is a long way from 100% to 0%. I was taught that condoms were 77% effective, looking back on this now it seems low.

I know a girl that got pregnant when she was on the pill and used a condom. Crazy!

It's about as important as taking a ****. Sex doesn't equate to love for either gender and really, lust doesn't either. It's two seperate things entirely. Trying to glue them together is what causes most of the problems our society has with sex. I have sex with my wife because I lust after her, I don't have sex with other women because I love her.

Two diffrent things.

could you print me off a copy of your complete population of the world survey and show me the 100% saying "no my first time wasn't special"?

if not then i repeat: Who are you to tarnish their views? If they want to do that let em, and shut up

Edited, Mon Apr 26 10:55:22 2004 by Dracoid

as far as "In your world they are just as likely to be true as not." then yes i completely agree with you, im not sure about teh "your world" part, but still. and as far as the "disgusting masognistic **** pedophile", thats like me saying "if anything you say is right regardless of wether you've looked it up, you can express your views and everyone else should take them as fact", so here goes, smash is stupid, i dont care what he says or what he thinks about it, i said it so its right. i dont actually think your stupid, youre many things, but not stupid, but that dosent stp me saying it and expecting people to believe it if i had your attitude towards personal views