i just got dumped...Follow

**** 5 days is nothing....

you will survive....

suck it up and chat up her best friend A La Hippo....

:)

Yes, lay the smack down (figuratively speaking) on that trick *** *****!!! Tell her you ain't talking jive, and you ain't going out like dat.

Awww. It'll be ok. In a couple months, you'll have wondered what you were so upset about.

holy sh*t i just realized but my typing skills suck ***

i should really learn to shift and sh*t...

Hey look!!! its Kao Shatner!!!!

Have a good sulk, or temper tantrum, or whatever you need to do.

Then find someone else to focus your attention on soon. Since you're in school you're in a good position to start chatting up some other gal. You're all in school all day together.

I know, one shouldn't jump straight from one relationship to another, but in the case of one so brief I think he's safe here.

If it's hard for you to talk to her right now it's completely okay for you to say "yeah, I'm mad and I don't want to talk to you right now." and walk away. It's honest, it's not mean, and you're not torturing yourself by trying to act normal when you may want to shout and call her names.

Anyway, yelling at her would only make you look bad to the other girls who may be in the area.

It's hard to remain gracious in the face of rejection. As much as people here tease you, we've all faced rejection in one form or another and it's no fun.

Buck up, little buddy. There's lots of nice girls out there and you'll find one for yourself.

Yup - getting dumped hurts (even if it's just been five days!).

The good - you'll get over it and it relly won't take too long.

The bad - until you do get over it, it hurts like a sum'bich.

The ugly - it'll probably happen again.

The beautiful - the fact that it hurts shows that you CARED! This is a quality sorely lacking by many people. If it didn't hurt, then it meant you hadn't put out any investment, and without that, a relationship isn't worth squat (actually, less than squat).

Sure - it was "only" five days... but any relationship worth having starts off with Day 1, followed closely by Day 2, only to be succeeded by ... well, you get the picture.

How should you treat her now? How would you want her to treat you if, after 5 days, you realized that SHE wasn't right for you and you took the first move? Just 'cause she doesn't want to go out with you doesn't make you or her any different - it just means that things didn't mesh the way she (and you, now) thought they would. That's all.

I HATE the "let's just be friends" line - but in all reality, it's really better than the alternative (i.e "You're an idiot and I'd never, ever want to be seen with you!"). If she was nice enough to go out with, she's OK as a friend. And if people see that you're not some whacko freak, you actually become more, uh, "marketable". She may actually be able to link you up with somone more compatible than she is. Things like this do have a habit of coming around.

This is contrary to some of the advice you'll be getting, but take a moment and look inside... you'll know how to handle it.

im inclined to agree with aadyn. get all bent out of shape over it. resolve never to talk to her again. get wasted. have a psychiatric "episode". start boning her best friend 3 months later.

well, okay, i havent boned her friend yet, but im well on my way. im confident i'll finally get past second and on to 3rd base on valentines day. i was tipped off to this when she said she'd prefer to stay at her house instead of going out. she didnt want to go to the school valentines day dance, didnt want to go to a movie, and when asked what she wanted to do she said she just wanted to stay at her house and rent some movies. watching movies in her room tends to have alot more to do with making out than enjoying the movie.

anyways... the easiest approach would be to remain civil, but just never talk to her again, or until you cool off. so far i havent said anything to tara in 2ish months, with the exception of a week ago when she was standing where i needed to sit and an "excuse me" was warranted. i said it in a tone that implied that i really ment "i hate you, *****."

I may have overmuch pride, but I always made it a point in situations like that to act like it was no big deal, and maybe even confide in a close friend or two, that I am kind of glad it happened, since I didn't think we hit if off too well, but wasn't real sure how to break off so soon without hurt feelings, etc.

Then I would be polite to the person, not overly friendly, but not hurt or mad, just kind of "we know each other, but not well" sort of thing. That way you haven't closed doors, you don't get pity from anyone, and other girls think you are classy about it.

I'm with Kelti on this. Don't try so hard to act like you don't give a damn, just do what you need to get over it and be done. A nice guy, the kind other girls go out with, would take one on the chin, say she was a very nice girl but things didn't work and you wish her the best (while not being her friend so folks don't think you're pining and know you're open for business, and girls will think "Damn, what a decent guy."

The measure of a person isn't in how you deal with your sucess but in how you handle failure. Quit focusing on her and take this, trite as it sounds, as a growing experience. It's more pride than anything, and once you realize that, you'll feel better.

And yes, I refrained from a scathing response to his original post.

Totem

Better wear shades.

Totem

All joking aside, I find the best way is the one that makes me feel better. I have a damned low self-esteem IRL, and I've taken some breakups very badly. Mind you, most of my relationships were at least 5 months, not 5 days, but hey :P

You'll go through phases. I find the funnest phase to be the "f*** her, I deserve better than her. I'm better off without her, and can do better than that. It's her loss." Although it tends to be a very angry phase, it's also a good one to rebuild your ego.

Another good one is to just accept that she didn't see you for who you are, or she'd still be with you, and realize that if she couldn't see the real you, she's not worth the trouble.

i second that, but without the poor grammar. really, the best solution is to get another girl. its especially satisfying when that girl is one of your ex's friends.