The point of the video was to demonstrate how differently experience is as different genders. I was shocked the first time I walked through NY with a female friend at how much attention she attracted just by being there. She's attractive, but she's not a model. And her look generally wouldn't be called approachable. All she wanted to do was walk from point A to B, not having strange men constantly going out of their way to put themselves in her consideration.
It's called a microaggression.
These are usually unintentionally given, but they are constant reminders that a marginalized group are supposed to be subject to controls that others aren't. When I walk through the city, I don't have to give it a second thought that people aren't going to be paying much attention to me at all. Women don't have that luxury, because they're constantly the subject of focused attention by men.
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I need to re-examine my life, because I apparently harassed something like forty-five people yesterday alone(many of them guys!). I mean, it's normally not that many, but I went to the grocery store and it was kinda busy.
It's the same as holding the door for someone. Hold it for everyone? No problem. Only hold it for women (or biased in favor of women)? Creepy and belittling. Unfortunately, the woman has no context for whether or not you'd hold it for everyone, and that sucks, but I'd still say that holding the door for people is a praiseworthy act.
Generally speaking, things that are associated with manners are just things you can keep doing, as long as you treat both genders the same. Decide that for yourself, because there's no good solution here.
Caveat: If asking a stranger where they need to go on the elevator, ALWAYS press your button first. Elevators are really common places for assaults, and being followed by a stranger on the elevator is another poignant fear (particularly in residential buildings). By indicating where you are going first, that can be a big comfort. Particularly if you're going to a lower floor than she is.
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If you knew even 10% of my life
Oh, please, regale me with the tales that prove it's impossible for you to be sexist.