any advice for a broken marriage?Follow

Stop playing mmorpgs. I know, it's a big assumption, but look where you're posting this at. Delete every game off your computer (after closing down the accounts), and go to the movies with your $15.00/month.

If you truly care about someone then you will want them to be happy. You can worry all you want about not getting back together but that is selfish. Selfishness inevitably ruins relationships in one form or another. Just leave him and let him live with his decision. If you dont then he will resent you. If you let him have the time he asks for then two things will happen
a> He will begin to miss you and see his mistake
or
b> He will realise he is happier without you and you two will go your separate ways.
Either way both of you will be happy because you should want him to be happy. I can tell you what would happen if you stay though....
A> He will resent you mroe and more until you get into a huge fight and hate each other.
I know this isnt easy to hear but it's just the way it is.
::edit::
If indeed you have contributed to the household tell him to leave. If he pays all the bills don't tell a man to leave his own house.

Edited, Tue Apr 27 20:47:57 2004 by Lefein

I think the answer to this is simple..

You are playing WAY too much FF XI if you are a summoner :)

Smileys are the key to happiness. Don't knock the smileys dammit, remember they'll always get you in the end

Aww, Grady. How does it feel to be a case study?

There can only be one Crosscontinuum Copulation Diety of The Great Enigma though, of course.

Plenty of juice in me yet...

Good luck on your pending divorce and I hope you never marry again. Both you and your immature spouse have no idea what the word commitment means. I really hope you two don't have kids. I feel so sorry for them if you do.

Am I perfect? No, but I will never divorce my wife because I feel "it just won't work". If I felt that way about the marriage, I would have never entered into it.

Is this enough negative feedback for you?

When you walked out that door you made another commitment, to release your husband from his vows of fidelity to you. Don't be hurt or surprised when you see him with another woman.

Be his friend if you want, but if you take him into your bed again, your are more of a loser than you already are. You are opening yourself up to whatever other sexual contacts he has had since the time you have walked out. Remember, if you sleep with him again, you are sleeping with every other woman he has slept with since you split apart.

It's rather obvious he is already got someone else on the side, and you are fooling yourself if you think he doesn't. He's a man, he won't stay celibate any length of time at all, if he ever was. Which I doubt. Otherwise there would have never been a reason to ask you to leave.

I hope you get some sort of counseling, and I don't mean with him. You need it on your own, otherwise you will be another statistic in the hard road of life. I wish you well, please get some help for yourself.

All compassion I see Vaanan.

Did you even bother to read her original post? She's not the one checking out of the marriage. She happens to be the one physically vacating the residence.

Actually her story sounds a bit familiar to me, since it's about exactly what my husband and I went through a couple years ago. Moving out and doing my own thing was the best thing I could have done to save our marriage. And yes, I released him (for the duration of our separation) from all bonds of marital fidelity (I had the same freedom). We still went on dates with each other and no, I didn't shut him out of my bedroom. The only demand I made was that he not take any legal action to dissolve our marriage until 6 months had passed.

Nobody has the power to force their partner stay in a marriage they don't want. I knew divorce was a bad move for us. I knew my husband loved me. I also knew that he didn't know these things at that time. Nothing I could say would change his mind.

Sometimes one has to let someone go in order to allow them to discover, on their own, that that's where they want to be.

We'll be celebrating our anniversary next month.

mutters under her breath about judgemental, self rightous, ingorant bastards

I wonder if Vaanan holds the same contempt for all divorced people? In 2000 in the U.S. there were over 21 million divorces. That's a lot of pent up anger.

Oh the memories...

Take it from me, your better off without the *******. Second, take everything!!! Burn his clothes.. pawn anything of his of significant value that cant be traced back to you. Trash the joint. We are talking graffitti walls, and trash everywhere. Take all the toilet paper, all the lightbulbs. Leave him one DIRTY fork, spoon, butterknife, and a BROKEN DIRTY glass. Change the locks and dont give him the knew key. You will thank me later.