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I'm going to make this as short as possible so I don't bore the crap out of everyone. Basically my Uncle remarried and his new wife is very controlling and wears the pants in their relationship. Its very obvious that her kids come before his own, but that's a story for another time. I like the woman, but stuff like this turns me off to even wanting to associate with that part of my family.

So basically myself and another family member got invited to a Raclette party by my uncle. A couple hours later he calls to say un-invite us because more people are coming and there isn't enough room. The other people are his wife's kids girlfriend and boyfriend.

When he called the second time you could tell he wasn't comfortable doing it. (i.e. she made him do it.)

Obviously his wife is important to him and what she wants, she gets. I'm not going to say anything to them about it, but I think its extremely rude to do that to family. Its happened before and I have no reason to think that it won't happen again. Is there anyway to get your point across to this family member short of alienating that whole side of the family because that person has control issues?



Edited, May 24th 2009 10:16pm by Araxius

I would feel vindicated, but would probably end up never talking to them again.

Put a dismembered horse's head in their bed.

Is she hot?

Not really. She might be a ********** though.

I doubt that would work. I think even doing that is going to strain the relationship more. Besides she needs to hear it, not him. I doubt him telling her even sugar coating it is going to change things.

Edited, May 24th 2009 10:39pm by Araxius

She is his spouse and thus his immediate family now. You can't change the dynamic of their family any more than they can dictate to you how to behave with your girlfriend.

My mom will walk out of a building, get into her car and drive away if she sees Ginger.

Mom used to hang out in Cancun with Amy/Ginger 2 weeks a year in the pool at the bar, in their resort.

Mom isn't taking my divorce well. I have actually had to tell her to shut the **** up about it.

I am calm. Jim and Amy are stuck with Con's dog. I am pretty happy about that. If Stitch lives, it will give the kids something that bonds them to that place. I don't like how they feel like they have nothing to make them feel like they belong there. Stitch will help this.

I read that as "a ginger" and thought "Damn, she really hates red heads."

Obviously she wants to prevent the spread of gingervitis.

Bribe her.

Unless the uncle is fairly wealthy, f*ck it, he's not worth the time and effort.

My opinion is close to Belkira's, except that I'd frame it a little differently. Next time he invites you, tell him to ask you again closer to the time of the event in case there are any last minute shuffles. If you're free at that point, well and good; if not, then you weren't counting on it anyway.