I really love spears, lances, and polearms, but the battle stances in FFXI made me so angry. Most of them pointed the pointy end away from the monster you were trying to poke. Mithra was the only one I thought made sense. I'm all about aesthetics so a poor battle stance could keep me from making my main and lancer and instead go with a Gladiator, since I've seen gameplay of some of the stances.
I agree on some level, though it's not always necessary to have the blade end forward. That's especially true in FFXIV because Dragoons/Lancers in the Final Fantasy universe use a variety of polearms, not just spears, and many have their own unique methodologies of wielding. For example, I believe that it's correct to have a spear's blade forwards, but it's perfectly acceptable to have a halberd's blade back. At any rate, I'd prefer to see some traditional spear/poleaxe stances displayed. This site
has some examples about 3/4 of the way down the page. Here are some videos
of a Lalafell Lancer going at it. Unfortunately, the stance seems very casual, and the blade is left sitting up in a pretty useless position. Hopefully you weren't planning on going with Lalafell : /
I do like the "casting" stance with the spear though, where it is held in front with both hands, like a prayer. Looks pretty appropriate for casting.
Here's to hoping that the Hyur combat stance is more traditional/practical looking! IIRC, the Hume Dragoon stance in FFXI resembled the traditional "Reverse Guardant" stance. PS: If an admin feels that the linked video violates the ZAM policy on NDA material, I'll scrub it. One of the videos in the playlist was removed, but the other two were left up, so I'm not sure where it stands. Plus with SE allowing the posting of videos by certain players, I can never tell what violates the NDA anymore.