I have a quandry, and it involves my guild.
I've only been in a few guilds- the first being my only guild for just under a year, and another was a guild I was invited to but didn't fit in well in, so moved on. I found a guild that had a lot of ex-guildies from my first guild, so joined it.
However, several have moved on, and a number of new people have joined. I'm finding not only am I not liking some of the new players' attitudes we've taken on, but I'm finding that there seem to be a "cliquish" attitude within it.
I don't have a lot of time to do instances most of the time, but try to help the guild in other ways when I can. I look up information if someone needs it, and when people ask for help, I often go to assist. I just can't always guarantee that I can devote 2+ hours to an instance without having to leave the group at some point, and I do not like inconveniencing others, so I don't do them unless I'm confident I can run the whole thing.
However, I've noticed on several occasions now that people will whisper each other in the guild rather than do a general guild invite. I can understand this sometimes, but it seems to be almost exclusive, and that bothers me. I've even asked if anyone's running instances when I have free time, only to get a wall of silence. About half an hour later, I'll look at the online list, only to see one group in Strat and another in Scholo, or an LBRS run, when I know they hadn't organised it prior to me coming online. There was one time that I actually got mad, because I asked if anyone felt like an instance, and everyone said they were busy. Ten minutes later someone who's in the "in" crowd came on and asked if anything was going on, and a couple of people responded. I looked at the guild roster a little later, to see what everyone was doing, and sure enough, he and a few others (who had been too busy to join me) were magically in UBRS. I hadn't seen any invites at all via guild chat.
I guess I'm wondering if I've done something. There are only a few people I'm really staying in the guild for now, since I like their company. However, I feel like the only time I'm wanted is when they're short on DPS. I have a couple of options for guilds if I choose to move on, but I'm wondering if I should mention the problem, stay shut & move on, or just find some alternative solution. I always felt that the whole reason for guilds was to have a feeling of belonging and so you don't have to PUG- and I'm really feeling like a redheaded stepchild these days.