Cancelled my sub :(Follow

I do the same stuff. I tell myself "Who needs sleep" but 5 hours a night for 6 days straight gets to ya eventually. Come Thursday night I find myself nodding off in dungeons and totally falling asleep while while crafting

Pick-up-sticks? Do you play bridge in your downtime at the retirement home?

Hey dude. Good luck and everything's gonna be fine.

This might sound rough but if you felt like you needed to give up stuff you enjoy to please her she probably wasn't the right girl for you anyway.

I want to offer some advice even it comes late. This is just my opinion.
There may or may not be something more important than your significant other. But you are just as important. If you are not loving yourself, you can't fully love another person. The problem comes in when you try and get someone to love all the things you do or don't appreciate or accept where they are at. Always remember you are two separate people with similar and opposite desires or dreams.
(Catwho and GNU spoke of hobbies,etc.)

Forgive me if this part sounds rude, not my intention. It seemed her telling you to quit or cut back significantly was what is referred to as testing.You pass any test by not posturing(getting aggressive or defensive) or by not collapsing(giving up, running away, or quitting). You absolutely never, ever give up your passions under any circumstance. It's part of what attracted her to you in the first place, it's what makes you unique. Like any addiction, practice some restraint. It's not healthy to indulge in any addiction.

It's not how much time you spend together, it's the quality. She would rather you light her world on fire for one hour than live with a faint flickering candle for ten years.(not speaking of you personally,just my experience).Anyways looks like you're doing better.

It can't rain all the time. My heart feels for you and I know things will get brighter.

While I did not enjoy FFXIV, I followed this thread for awhile. As this guy seemed popular. But he clearly has low IQ. He quits the game because his girlfriend tells him its the game or her. He unsubscribes. Then he resubscribes, thinking she would like to join him. For her this was clearly a test if he could give it up for her. he couldn't. Later he goes off and says how she leaves and he had a horrible Vday and deletes his character and would give anything to have her back. Then he reopens his account and plays with real life friends. All the spam of a few weeks. You guys can backtrack in all his post to follow up on what he said. The fact he relies on his virtual friends means he needs to get out more and delelop himself more. What will he lose or not get next a job? Yes MMOs are addictive.

Sure he could perhaps find a new girl assuming he got out of the house and could devote time to himself or her. But he puts the game first. Over and over. I have no sympathy for this guy and FFXIV overall is a WOW clone, excluding crafting. Get a hobby outdoors or learn something new at school. Get out find new great women and motivate yourself to new heights.

You shouldn't spend double or tipple the time on a MMO then you do with your partner. If you do that they just a bed warmer or house maid or roommate with privileges.




Edited, Feb 17th 2014 12:27pm by kimjongil76

Not quite.

It is, however, bad writing to switch from a personal insult to insulting the medium in which the individual participated mid-sentence.

Ultimatum's are silly. It's a tool you use to help facilitate a break-up, a poorly conceived exit strategy.

How can I make this not my fault?

I know! You! You have to pick between me or water. Oh, you like water more than me, do you? Well that just proves that this isn't going to work.

And then you have to spend the rest of your life wondering if you should have just said, "f*ck water, that sh*t is all wet anyway."

And the award goes to.....

Congrats on Douchebag of the Week. You've earned it!

I feel sorry for your future girlfriend/wife.

It's not altogether unimportant though. The two biggest sources of conflict in marriage tend to be over money and sex.

I did not say it was unimportant. I said it wasn't the primary factor. It's actually #3 or #4 on most lists of marital conflict,
with money, communication (or lack thereof), and kids all in the top.
I think this is getting OT, and probably painful for the OP to read. He doesn't need us to tell him what went wrong.