Cancelled my sub :(Follow

Not to creep in on your life since we're not really acquainted, but I had to make the same kind of deal with my significant other. 1-2 hours during weekdays (enough time for 1-2 CT runs or a high duty roulette plus dailies), spam like hell on the weekends. My weekend play hasn't been a point of contention, however, I am saddened that an entire day could go by where I am playing and don't see her very much. So I'm going to start limiting my weekend play time to spend more time together, so that she won't feel lonely (...okay okay it isn't for her; I miss hanging out with her given enough time away. There I said it.).

Speaking as a guy who's been single for 3 years, yes, holding on to your woman is for more important than a game.

Unless you signed a pre-nup or whatever preventing that.

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Edited, Feb 10th 2014 12:15am by chomama

Essentially marriage is about finding the right balance. When we were first married I was playing FFXI a LOT and the Mrs didn't like that at all. It got quite bad at one point but we managed to work out an understanding. 12 years later here we are. Good to get through some of this stuff before you actually tie the knot, kind of helps you know if you're really ready for it or not.

We're practically married already, been together for going on 6 years now...

I never had to limit playtime on FFXI really because I played that mostly before she and I got together while I was divorced... then she started playing with me so I never had to really cut back at all... this whole situation is pretty new to me.

Well I cancelled it too late, she left me this weekend... I just deleted my character so I won't ever be tempted to log in again. The game consumed me and now I hate it... I hate it like nothing else.

This is goodbye for real this time. This is permanent.

Let this be a word of warning to all... There's nothing more important than your spouse or significant other. Pay attention to them, hold them, play this game less often if you're addicted like I was and just focus on what you can do to make sure that relationship is a source of happiness for you both.

The only thing in the world I cared about is gone, and I played FF all weekend because she wasn't here with me and I was miserable because I know this game destroyed my home. I hate myself rright now and I can''t stand the game anymore because of what it did to me..

Don't do what I did... You may end up deleting your character in tears and moving on to a life of regret.

Edited, Feb 9th 2014 9:14pm by Hairspray

I'm not one to speculate on the affairs of others, but I'd venture to say that FF wasn't the only problem. If you've been together for 6 years then you know each other well enough that there should have been something you could work out. Relationships take a lot of work and maintenance. To be fair, you can't really blame the game because keeping your fiance happy is your own responsibility. The game was simply the vehicle used to bring you where you are right now. Guns don't kill people, people with guns kill people.

It's a really unfortunate situation, but you seem to understand what went wrong and what you need to do to keep it from happening again. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you have a better experience in the future.

Very sorry to hear this Hairspray.

Edited, Feb 13th 2014 4:16pm by Gnu

Wow this thread didnt turn out like I thought it would.

This is my biggest issue. Everything you have here is how I operate but for the BOLDED. Well, let me clear that up. I always go up with here or come up shortly after. Then I rub her back, talk a little, and read. Once she is asleep or basically asleep, I go back down for some more game time. She is sleeping, what does it matter? If you can wake up when you need to and you don't take naps when you shouldn't, the there is no harm. That's me.