I have to say that this post definitely got me thinking about how people play this game that just don't care that there are others controlling the characters that they play alongside. When you see people posting/playing that use these terms, I find it completely unacceptable. I've had to warn 2 people in my linkshell that these types of terms will not be tolerated by my linkshell or any of the alternate leaders if I'm not on or around.
I have to say that I've always had to be on the defensive, being an unmarried white male. I've been lucky enough to learn about other cultures though, to be able to find the history of terms that have been stated here, and to KNOW that they are completely unacceptable under ANY circumstance. When I read people using those terms, I just want to slap them. They get yelled at time and time again, only to use the same term and insult people and make themselves look like a closeminded fool.
I've never used the abbreviation "J" or "JP," I've always used the country code, JPN. I encourage people who are going to talk about Japanese players to use the country code. It's the same amount of letters, and will make you look a lot more mature of a player in my eyes and many others as well.
Hopefully SOMEONE has actually bothered to read all of the posts like I have and will take the chance to rate up people who have provided very valid points in this conversation.
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