[Shiva] Whats HappenedFollow

When i joind the worrd of Vana'diel in Nomber last year (6 months ago) i couldnt believe how helpful everyone was, now as i stand in Jeuno /shouting for help i find myself in dispare, the only time i can ever get any help is if i add a little 6 letter word to then end of my /shouts, "Reward".
I find myself spending an equal amount of time a week helping other players out (free of charge) to leveling my own character.

Anyways this is just my opinion
and as noone ever listens to me anyway . . .

Could it be that, in all that time of getting help from others, you never took the time out to repay anyone in return? I know that sounds harsh, but it could be the reason behind it.

My LS has something called the "1 gil" philosophy. In a nutshell it says that, to get what you want, you need to be willing to help others. If you constantly take and take, but never offer help, people will eventually stop wanting to help you. In other words, you run out of "gil" to spend with them. Conversely, the more people you help, the more gil you get...and the more they are willing to help you.

To get what you need, maybe you should try helping others as well? It can get you a long way.

well to things first off re-read my post it says



so i do help others ...



well actually i have a thing againts emos so nochance bro.


Monsterzero

yes you are probably right ToAU did happen and it has made a big difference to the game. most people are leveling low Lv. jobs atm so they well cant help.

ill stop my moaning a very nice 75 pld help me just a min ago ^^

Dawn, I didn't mean that you personally don't help others. However, many often confuse helping others with helping themselves.

For instance, say that someone needs a promyvion. From here, let's also assume that you also need that same promyvion. In this instance, you aren't actually "helping them." Yes, your presence may be of help to them...but you you are actually helping yourself. That's not to say that there's anything wrong with this example; that's the best way to get things done. However, it's easier to tag along because "I need this too" than to do it simply because someone else needs it.

The opposite side would have been helping this person regardless of whether or not we needed it. When you gain no personal reward by helping someone, that's also when you earn the most respect from them. By helping others unconsequentually, they are more likely to do the same for us.

I don't know you personally, and it could be that you are doing the latter more. However from personal experience, I can say that those who can't get the help they need...also aren't giving the help they should.

Well then give it time. The people you are helping will get up there eventually, and when they do they will hopefully remember your kindness and generosity. :)

I love the new areas ... even though I have those reindeeir freaks lookin at me all *****-faced and a bunch of rotten money grubbin mercenies that seems to be everywhere... i dig on al-zahbi. Now I just need a fancy turban so I can fit in like the rest of the wierdos