in most ways i'm still a new player, as my highest job is only WHM 34 atm. i have four other jobs at 20, including PLD, so i have seen the dunes, and the stark face of the PL issue, many times.
as 32 WHM the other day, i was invited to a pt in east altepa. cool, i said, a real pt at last. i had snuck out to rabao at lvl 25 (after getting invisible to get past the gigas in korroloka), so i had my gate crystal. i spent my last gils on food and a teleport, only to find that the pt i was joining was a ragtag assortment of DD accompianied by a lvl 70+ taru RDM on /anon. i asked in /say what the point of my being there was, and could i do my job, please? i got no response and the RDM continued to tank/heal.
/partycmd breakup
/seacom 3 I will not party with PL. {Thank You.}
/sit
/invite
later that day, i get another /tell from the same pt leader asking if i want a pt at east altepa.
/tell ptleader no.
i get a tell a few mins later from a NIN tank i had pt with in kahzam, would i like to pt at east altep? ok, i say, are you with that other ptleader? yes, she says, i am in that pt. ok, i say, since you are tanking and no PL, i will be healer. pt before with this NIN was a really good time, like a JP party where we pt for several hours, and breakup after someone says {i'm sleepy} - then we check and two ppl are 800 tnl, so we get that xp and {disband}. i get to altep, the NIN disbands, i tell ptleader i'm not leaving, let's build a pt. so we do. it rocks. we are getting chain 4 on beetles for 125-150 xp everytime and having no downtime. we only have to stop when we run out of mobs. the bard, at lvl 32 is asking us if we can find better xp than that. is this normal xp for us? so we take a dhamel, at request for better xp. at this level it hits for about 100 on our PLD, and i have to use all of my MP and half of the BLM mp to keep him alive. five minutes resting MP, but 250 xp. we could have had 4 X 125 xp in that time doing beetles. and still been chaining.
my point in this story is that people who play the first 30 levels with a PL holding their hand have no idea what good experience looks like at any particular lvl. they get used to chain 6 250 xp with a PL and think that getting 184 is somehow gimped in {Garliage Citadel} with a WAR/MNK for a tank. i'm sorry, but given our poor excuse for a tank, who should have been a perfect DD to a PLD or NIN, 184 on chain 1 before downtime was the best we were going to get.
all i can say at this level is: if you can do better soloing EM go ahead.
i have pt'd with a PL in all of my jobs, and everytime i've had to quit, with one exception. that exception was with a lvl 70 RDM when i was leveling WAR/MNK. i was able to hold the hate off of her in the dunes, and the fact that i could do so meant incredible skillups and unending chains. i see the appeal here for DD class to be PL'd. still i think it's a bad idea, and i will no longer participate.
that's my two gil. sorry it was so long.