Kalivha wrote:
Actually, how do people go about telling their parents that they want to get married? Under any circumstances.
Funny story about that. When Ray and I got engaged, I already knew my parents were going to flip out for a number of reasons, so I hid the engagement for a couple of weeks until my dad asked me point blank. I told him we were engaged, but I didn't want to say anything until he and my parents got to know one another better. He got really upset (which was completely my fault since I was such a wuss about the situation). And then my mom noticed that my dad was sad/upset so she badgered my dad until he told her.
Which turned into a massive Filipino family melt down. Lots of eating, lots of crying, lots of yelling, lots of eating again.
Should have had the sackage at the age of 22 to be upfront with my parents to say "Hey, I met this guy, he's great, we've already talked marriage, even though it's only been a month of dating. I want you to meet him and I know that you think we're rushing things, but I'm really happy and I want you to see how happy I am when we're together." Instead, I did it in a really dumb way that really hurt my family and took awhile for healing on all sides.