Pensive the Ludicrous wrote:
Okay, then I'll ask as nicely as I can what you could have been meaning by that, seeing as how a forum is an extremely large group of people. Well I guess technically it's a declaration of a question but whatever. I was really not sure if you were trying to poke fun at yourself or at the administration
The OOT regulars aren't a very big group of people and I think all the time about managing groups and dynamics between members. It applies here. That's all I was saying.
I work with alot of adolescents but these rules apply for adults. All these powerful feelings and dynamics occur among any groups of adults. It's human nature. I choose my battles with them. It makes my job easier and makes the enforcement of the rules more comprehensible for both parties. I think, as a piece of advice, that they might consider thinking structurally going forward and doing less disciplining of past transgressions. Like the admins don't weaken their position by admitting they might have erred. They are just honest to us and themselves.
In the end, it's not a big deal. Sure. I can understand their frustration. I'm just saying, based on my experience and training on group work, that's my advice. And I think it's clear. When it becomes this issue of us being bad kids, I think it just creates alot of easily avoidable tension and ill will.
I figure they won't listen to me, that's why I said what I said. People don't like hearing that if something is unmanageable, usually that's a problem of management who are more culpable than the people they are managing. If the kids in my groups act out or violate rules, that's my responsibility. It's not meant to blame, but more like I hope people will think about their roles and what will be helpful in improving the situation.
Edited, May 6th 2009 12:56am by Annabella