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#52 Dec 13 2010 at 7:17 PM Rating: Good
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If they thought guilds were leveling too fast, I don't understand why they don't just make the caps lower, instead of cutting XP gained.

That way, Large Guilds still level slower, but yet, small Family guilds still actually have a chance at gaining a few guild levels.

25% is absolutely retarded.

No family guild is ever going to get up there, even if you leveled a bunch of alts.

Hopefully, enough people complain about this, that they reconsider.
#53 Dec 13 2010 at 7:35 PM Rating: Decent
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I was taught, many years ago, by an old Sioux sitting cross legged in a tent (really) that if you are part of a group, and everyone in the group has too many 'problems,' then maybe you're evaluating the wrong part of the group.
#54 Dec 13 2010 at 8:30 PM Rating: Decent
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[Also, most of us generally ignore RAWDEAL, his posts hover around the border between default and sub-default for a reason.

And now I broke the first rule about karma; don't talk about your karma.

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#55 Dec 13 2010 at 10:47 PM Rating: Default
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Lyrailis wrote:
If they thought guilds were leveling too fast, I don't understand why they don't just make the caps lower, instead of cutting XP gained.

That way, Large Guilds still level slower, but yet, small Family guilds still actually have a chance at gaining a few guild levels.

25% is absolutely retarded.

No family guild is ever going to get up there, even if you leveled a bunch of alts.

Hopefully, enough people complain about this, that they reconsider.

Er, you don't lose guild exp. Nor are they requiring things like having all of the legendaries for certain guild rewards as they planned.

I don't understand why people have a problem with them changing how guild leveling works. If you're so casual that you can't level your guild (which takes literally NO extra work), maybe single-player games are more your speed, or perhaps a Wii game would be about right.

If your guild never hits level 2, you don't play the game enough for it to matter to you. That's simply a fact.
#56 Dec 14 2010 at 12:06 AM Rating: Good
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The fact that they essentially nerfed it so that even the most casual guild will get to level 25 the same day as the most hardcore guild.

I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I just didn't see the point in it. Might as well just make guild rep and limit that rather instead of having guild levels, if every guild is going to get a level at essentially the same time.


Right. As it stands, we don't really get anything out of this structure as a way to dispense rewards - there's no point having a fence at ankle height.

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I'm not sure why you would be unwilling to interact with random people, they really are mostly ok.

Because nobody likes me. I haven't had a friend since high school-and they died.

I've faced the fact that I have no clue how to make friends and I never will. I try to interact here, but I really just don't fit in anywhere.

Or maybe I'm just having a nervous breakdown and don't have anyone to talk to and this is the only place I post because WoW is absolutely the only thing I do all day because my life sucks and I'm taking out my frustration here. I'm sorry, just ignore me from now on.
Quit WOW and go do RL stuff, they do have cooking, Archaeology and some exploring also. You will meet REAL peoples and it will help you to get your life together. You have bigger problems than the guild nerfing thingy. Wish you the best.

Thanks Rawdeal, you showed exactly why I DO want to leave the game. Oh and because it seems like most of HUMANITY out there is just like you, I think I'll pass on meeting new people anywhere.


Have you considered people might be friendlier if you were a little more considerate? Take, for example, how you've made a dicsussion about Guild leveling into a discussion about yourself; can you see how someone who came here to discuss the game might take unkindly to this?

Aside from that, it's not exactly healthy to rely on an internet message board for your emotional validation and interaction. It sounds to me like you've got some problems, but I don't think this is the right place to find help.
#57 Dec 14 2010 at 1:53 AM Rating: Good
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When I join guilds on my alts, I often do so because it's fun. I practically troll them - but I troll them with good information. I've been in guilds where someone was discussing dungeon runs and how their tank sucked because they died. The convo went like this:

DPS: GD, what a nub tank, I just died, he can't keep hate.
Me: Did you focus fire on his target?
DPS: No way, I just AoE sh*t, a DPS's job is to do DAMAGE
Me: How much damage did you do while dead?
DPS: STFU, the healer should have healed me, I was outdamaging the other DPSers.
Me: Did they take aggro though?
DPS: No way, they don't do enough, they're not boss like me
Me: So you didn't focus fire, stole aggro, died, blamed the tank for not keeping hate, the healer for not healing, and the others DPSers for not being as good as you, but ended up most likely with less damage overall?
DPS: F*ck you man.
-You have been kicked out of (Random Guild)-
In my guild, back before the mass exodus to the new guild, you would have been given high fives for that convo, but only if you had talked more trash.

I miss those ********
#58 Dec 14 2010 at 5:26 AM Rating: Default
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Overlord Theophany wrote:
Lyrailis wrote:
If they thought guilds were leveling too fast, I don't understand why they don't just make the caps lower, instead of cutting XP gained.

That way, Large Guilds still level slower, but yet, small Family guilds still actually have a chance at gaining a few guild levels.

25% is absolutely retarded.

No family guild is ever going to get up there, even if you leveled a bunch of alts.

Hopefully, enough people complain about this, that they reconsider.

Er, you don't lose guild exp. Nor are they requiring things like having all of the legendaries for certain guild rewards as they planned.

I don't understand why people have a problem with them changing how guild leveling works. If you're so casual that you can't level your guild (which takes literally NO extra work), maybe single-player games are more your speed, or perhaps a Wii game would be about right.

If your guild never hits level 2, you don't play the game enough for it to matter to you. That's simply a fact.


The day before yesterday, right after the nerf, I quested for six f-cking hours and got five percent of the daily cap, which is roughly 1/3 of Level 2.

One-third of 5% is barely 2% of a level.

So basically, you're trying to tell me that it is fair that it should take a small guild of 2 people 150 hours of playtime to get one level?
#59 Dec 14 2010 at 5:35 AM Rating: Decent
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Will a 2 person guild need ANY of the stuff which comes from rep rewards any sooner than they'll get it?
#60 Dec 14 2010 at 5:37 AM Rating: Good
Lyrailis wrote:
Overlord Theophany wrote:
Lyrailis wrote:
If they thought guilds were leveling too fast, I don't understand why they don't just make the caps lower, instead of cutting XP gained.

That way, Large Guilds still level slower, but yet, small Family guilds still actually have a chance at gaining a few guild levels.

25% is absolutely retarded.

No family guild is ever going to get up there, even if you leveled a bunch of alts.

Hopefully, enough people complain about this, that they reconsider.

Er, you don't lose guild exp. Nor are they requiring things like having all of the legendaries for certain guild rewards as they planned.

I don't understand why people have a problem with them changing how guild leveling works. If you're so casual that you can't level your guild (which takes literally NO extra work), maybe single-player games are more your speed, or perhaps a Wii game would be about right.

If your guild never hits level 2, you don't play the game enough for it to matter to you. That's simply a fact.


The day before yesterday, right after the nerf, I quested for six f-cking hours and got five percent of the daily cap, which is roughly 1/3 of Level 2.

One-third of 5% is barely 2% of a level.

So basically, you're trying to tell me that it is fair that it should take a small guild of 2 people 150 hours of playtime to get one level?


With respect, that's like complaining it's absurd that it takes your hunter 6 hours to solo Azuregos.
#61 Dec 14 2010 at 6:03 AM Rating: Default
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With respect, that's like complaining it's absurd that it takes your hunter 6 hours to solo Azuregos


Azuregos was meant to be a raid boss. Of course, soloing him would take 6 hours.

But where was it written that guilds should ONLY be large?

I've read many o-board posts saying that even guilds who routinely have 10 players online in a given day are having troubles hitting the daily cap.

MANY people have Friends & Family guilds.

All of them are being unfairly punished, and will take months, if not a couple years, to ever see Guild level 20+.

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Will a 2 person guild need ANY of the stuff which comes from rep rewards any sooner than they'll get it?


We're not talking about guild reputation here. We're talking about Guild XP.

Let's see, off the top of my head...

1). Fast Track: 5/10% faster leveling across the board.
2). Cast Deposit: 5/10% of looted gold being added to Guild Bank.
3). Bountiful Bags: More Mining/Herbs.

All of these are made for casual players, but yet casual players will take a very long time to see any of these with this change. Before this retarded nerf, a casual guild had a chance at getting it sometime. After, not so much.
#62 Dec 14 2010 at 7:32 AM Rating: Excellent
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Don't check a thread for a day or so and you miss a whole lot eh?

Rawdeal, while abrasive, often uncouth, mildly moronic and partially incoherent, wasn't trying to be mean. He usually means well, I think he does at least, and tries to be a decent forum member. He just like a drunk throwing darts, sometimes he goes on hot streak and sometimes he's throwing things in peoples eyes, spilling drinks and just making a mess. It's fun to watch, don't lie to yourself.

No reason to get angry over him or any other poster here. They are after all just tiny pixels on a screen. Sure when you look at them they may seem bigger, angry, scarier or what ever but when it comes down to it all they are is tiny little dots of color that can be ignored or valued as much as you want.

Guild leveling is like regular leveling, you will cap it eventually. Do you need to rush if you aren't competing for e-peen reasons? The perks are nice but so are new spells when you are leveling. Would I love to have Thrash on a bear tank before level 81 and Lacerate, the only non-CD attack we have, before 66? **** ya I would. Is it possible to get to those levels with out said skills, of course it is. It might not be as pretty, you may have to hustle a bit more but it can be done. The end result is the same, you get to the cap and all is good.

Anyway, that's all I have to say.

If any one disagrees, this is a bear on a camel tanking a boss, so your post is invalid.
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#63 Dec 14 2010 at 7:42 AM Rating: Default
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Guild leveling is like regular leveling, you will cap it eventually.


Did the math, some 2-person guilds could take 2+ YEARS to get GL25.
#64 Dec 14 2010 at 7:47 AM Rating: Excellent
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Azuregos was meant to be a raid boss. Of course, soloing him would take 6 hours.

But where was it written that guilds should ONLY be large?

I've read many o-board posts saying that even guilds who routinely have 10 players online in a given day are having troubles hitting the daily cap.

MANY people have Friends & Family guilds.


I don't know about only, but it's written somewhere in the grubby sheafs of Blizzard design philosophy that people should be rewarded for making substantial guilds, in line perhaps with the fact that WoW is an MMO - I remember reading them saying so explicitly, but in lieu of a citation I'd say it's pretty self-evident that that's their intention. It's not made with guilds of two in mind.
#65 Dec 14 2010 at 7:58 AM Rating: Decent
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The fact that they essentially nerfed it so that even the most casual guild will get to level 25 the same day as the most hardcore guild.

I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I just didn't see the point in it. Might as well just make guild rep and limit that rather instead of having guild levels, if every guild is going to get a level at essentially the same time.


Right. As it stands, we don't really get anything out of this structure as a way to dispense rewards - there's no point having a fence at ankle height.

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I'm not sure why you would be unwilling to interact with random people, they really are mostly ok.

Because nobody likes me. I haven't had a friend since high school-and they died.

I've faced the fact that I have no clue how to make friends and I never will. I try to interact here, but I really just don't fit in anywhere.

Or maybe I'm just having a nervous breakdown and don't have anyone to talk to and this is the only place I post because WoW is absolutely the only thing I do all day because my life sucks and I'm taking out my frustration here. I'm sorry, just ignore me from now on.
Quit WOW and go do RL stuff, they do have cooking, Archaeology and some exploring also. You will meet REAL peoples and it will help you to get your life together. You have bigger problems than the guild nerfing thingy. Wish you the best.

Thanks Rawdeal, you showed exactly why I DO want to leave the game. Oh and because it seems like most of HUMANITY out there is just like you, I think I'll pass on meeting new people anywhere.


Have you considered people might be friendlier if you were a little more considerate? Take, for example, how you've made a dicsussion about Guild leveling into a discussion about yourself; can you see how someone who came here to discuss the game might take unkindly to this?

Aside from that, it's not exactly healthy to rely on an internet message board for your emotional validation and interaction. It sounds to me like you've got some problems, but I don't think this is the right place to find help.


At start I really don't want to reply on this since its a discussion about guild leveling. But ehehe curiosity kills the cat sorta speak :3

I do agree with kavekk to a certain degree but I am also curious why you "seem" so biased in meeting or interacting with other people in WOW. I say "seem" because that's the impression I get when reading some of your post in this topic.

As I understand you have a small guild which is fine of course.
but you say as reason you don't want other people in because of your daughter(I have no clue how old she is) and I can understand as a mother you want to protect your girl. Or that you want to prevent people from influencing her in giving them stuff out of the guild bank which I can understand too. But that can easily be fixed with ranks or guild permissions.

you also say that you don't want your daughter to go dungeons with random idiots?
Not everyone is an idiot you know. Yes this community has his Idiots,E-peen strokers, Mouthbreathers,Windowlickers, Elitist and Noobs. But so are pretty much all the other online communities as well.

When I read that it sounds to me that shes pretty limited in only interacting with you and your husband? when playing this game. Forgive me if I am wrong and feel free to correct me.
But why? Are you afraid she's going to be harassed? or going to be taken advantage off? or perhaps she's going to be confronted with the bad side of the online community? Perhaps she's quite young and you just want to keep an eye on her, like I stated before I have no idea how old she is so I am just guessing here. Maybe you just want to play with the 3 of you?

But in that case whats the point in playing a MMORPG. they are build/setup to be played by bigger groups of people and communities to keep them alive. or to meet up people you don't even know and make friends on the way. of cource in case of WoW you can do some stuff on your own but comparing to some other MMO's I played people should glad that WoW is still quite solo friendly.

An alternative if you guys really just enjoy playing together and you don't want to worry about other people did you ever thought or considered getting a console perhaps? (like an Xbox or Wii or even a PS3)they have great games on those :) especially in case of the Wii they have lots of party games so you can team up together and play at the same time.

Ofcourse I still hope you run into some good people who you can befriend and do group stuff with them :)

edit: fixed typo :>






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Edited, Dec 14th 2010 9:25am by Malackia
#66 Dec 14 2010 at 8:24 AM Rating: Excellent
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Malackia wrote:
But why? Are you afraid she's going to be harassed? or going to be taken advantage off? or perhaps she's going to be confronted with the bad side of the online community? Perhaps she's quite young and you just want to keep an eye on her, like I stated before I have no idea how old she is so I am just guessing here.


I can't speak for Geo, but my daughter will have to be pretty far into her teen years before I let her play WoW with the public channels on, or group with strangers, or for that matter do any online activity without supervision. And even when she's allowed to do these things on her own, for as long as she lives in my house her computer will be in a common room, not in her bedroom with the door closed. "The bad side of the online community" can be a dangerous place to test developing judgment.

To bring that back to topic, a lot of smaller/family guilds are small because they're parents playing with their children, and for parenting reasons they have no desire to expand their guild to include people they don't know well. Yes, it's an MMO, and I completely agree that the best rewards should be for activities that require teamwork, but I also agree with others that the lower level perks (mount speed, rep gains, etc.) are useful for people who play solo or in very small groups, and they should be reasonably attainable.

Edited, Dec 14th 2010 9:27am by teacake
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teacake wrote:
Malackia wrote:
But why? Are you afraid she's going to be harassed? or going to be taken advantage off? or perhaps she's going to be confronted with the bad side of the online community? Perhaps she's quite young and you just want to keep an eye on her, like I stated before I have no idea how old she is so I am just guessing here.


I can't speak for Geo, but my daughter will have to be pretty far into her teen years before I let her play WoW with the public channels on, or group with strangers, or for that matter do any online activity without supervision. And even when she's allowed to do these things on her own, for as long as she lives in my house her computer will be in a common room, not in her bedroom with the door closed. "The bad side of the online community" can be a dangerous place to test developing judgment.


exactly! that's why I am so curious about her age it seems shes really young perhaps even to young to be even playing online in a game like this if I see geo's response that's why I was wondering.

If I would have a daughter or son I wouldn't go without complete supervision either but on the other hand I would not be breathing down there necks either. I most likely just turn on a filter in the router that only allows then to browse certain sites and the Pc will still be placed in the living room.
But it really depends on how wise my child is for his/her age. If i think he or she is old enough to play WoW or any other MMO then I most likely will talk it over with them and set some rules. Then I would let them play as long as it doesn't interfere with there school and grades.

Most likely similar like my own parents did. They were pretty laid back when it came to the internet and playing games online I guess they trusted me to have enough common sense to alarm them if something strange came up.
I always have been a pretty sober kid even from a young age so it really depends on how your child is I guess ;)


#68 Dec 14 2010 at 10:29 AM Rating: Excellent
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Malackia wrote:
Most likely similar like my own parents did. They were pretty laid back when it came to the internet and playing games online I guess they trusted me to have enough common sense to alarm them if something strange came up.
I always have been a pretty sober kid even from a young age so it really depends on how your child is I guess ;)
From what I've seen on this board, american parents seem to be really restrictive on what their children are and aren't allowed to do.
It could be just because my parents were really laidback in how they raised me and in comparison what I read here looks exteme to me.
The only thing I can really remember my parents specifically telling me not to do was cross the street without looking.
#69 Dec 14 2010 at 10:42 AM Rating: Excellent
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His Excellency Aethien wrote:
From what I've seen on this board, american parents seem to be really restrictive on what their children are and aren't allowed to do.
It could be just because my parents were really laidback in how they raised me and in comparison what I read here looks exteme to me.
The only thing I can really remember my parents specifically telling me not to do was cross the street without looking.


American parents specifically? What, you mean dinner conversations worldwide don't go like this?

CHILD: "Can I use the computer tonight? I have to do research for a project."

PARENT: "Look, just because someone posts a picture of a cute kid your own age and says it's him, does not mean he isn't actually a fifty-year-old psychopath sicko. There is, in fact, no foolproof way to verify that anyone is who they say they are. You are therefore to assume that at least one, if not dozens, of fifty-year-old psychopath sickos are watching every single thing you ever do, say, or put online, and protect every shred of personal information accordingly."

CHILD: Um, I was just going to google "The French Revolution."

PARENT: What, you think that just because Google is a big name that they're protecting your privacy? Google is not looking out for anyone but themselves, missy! And google is not a verb!

CHILD: ...

PARENT: Oh fine go. But Dad will be checking on you every three minutes!


Other countries are so weird.
#70 Dec 14 2010 at 2:38 PM Rating: Excellent
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His Excellency Aethien wrote:
Malackia wrote:
Most likely similar like my own parents did. They were pretty laid back when it came to the internet and playing games online I guess they trusted me to have enough common sense to alarm them if something strange came up.
I always have been a pretty sober kid even from a young age so it really depends on how your child is I guess ;)
From what I've seen on this board, american parents seem to be really restrictive on what their children are and aren't allowed to do.
It could be just because my parents were really laidback in how they raised me and in comparison what I read here looks exteme to me.
The only thing I can really remember my parents specifically telling me not to do was cross the street without looking.

Not all American families are like that. My parents pretty much took a sink-or-swim method to teach me about stuff. They never really sheltered me from anything, but the one time I muttered a swear as a teenager, they let me know that it wouldn't be accepted in their house.

Frankly, most parents are too worked up about the internet. Kids are going to see ****, swearing, etc whether they monitor their kids' use of the internet or not.

The best you can do (which is what my parents did) is make sure your kids understand what's appropriate.

Barring them from doing something only makes them curious and ignorant of the dangers. Same thing with alcohol, the more you know, the less likely that you'll be a @#%^-up.


Lyrailis wrote:
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With respect, that's like complaining it's absurd that it takes your hunter 6 hours to solo Azuregos


Azuregos was meant to be a raid boss. Of course, soloing him would take 6 hours.

But where was it written that guilds should ONLY be large?

I've read many o-board posts saying that even guilds who routinely have 10 players online in a given day are having troubles hitting the daily cap.

MANY people have Friends & Family guilds.

All of them are being unfairly punished, and will take months, if not a couple years, to ever see Guild level 20+.

FnF guilds don't need guild level 20+. Past guild level 10 or so, you start to see PvE- and PvP-oriented guild perks, which are completely worthless to guilds that play as an extremely small group.

And if your guild is big enough to do 5 mans, guess what? You probably don't have to worry much about guild leveling.

This attitude that "this can make my game easier and other people have access to it" is what's made the game worse until now. People have a feeling of entitlement when it comes to gaming, regardless of what they do to earn things. It's what spawned welfare epics in TBC (badge items on par with T6), and what dumbed down raiding to the point it got dumbed down to in WotLK.

In all frankness, shut the **** up already. Stop your whining. You'll see the guild perks when you earn them, like every guild is doing.

If your guild has 10 people in it and can't hit the guild cap, then good, the system works. You shouldn't be capping out your guild exp every day if you play this game casually in a 10 person guild.

I'm sick and tired of casual players (I'm a casual too) whining that they should get something because they feel entitled to it. How about you earn something?

Arg. Smiley: motz

Edited, Dec 14th 2010 12:46pm by Theophany
#71 Dec 14 2010 at 4:26 PM Rating: Excellent
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Not all American families are like that. My parents pretty much took a sink-or-swim method to teach me about stuff. They never really sheltered me from anything, but the one time I muttered a swear as a teenager, they let me know that it wouldn't be accepted in their house.

Frankly, most parents are too worked up about the internet. Kids are going to see ****, swearing, etc whether they monitor their kids' use of the internet or not.

The best you can do (which is what my parents did) is make sure your kids understand what's appropriate.

Barring them from doing something only makes them curious and ignorant of the dangers. Same thing with alcohol, the more you know, the less likely that you'll be a @#%^-up.

Same here. They were conservative about things that might cause lasting damage, while giving me free rein to learn lessons from minor scrapes and dings. And they didn't censor my reading at all, figuring that if I was old enough to comprehend something that I was old enough to handle wrapping my head around it. And by not demonizing alcohol, they didn't put that perverse glamour on it that it seems to have in so many parts of the country.

Probably the hardest thing was making me understand that this attitude wasn't universal - probably the most important lesson was when to speak and when to keep silent.
#72 Dec 14 2010 at 4:43 PM Rating: Good
If we're talking about awesome families, I'd like to share that I have a peanut allergy -- the swell up and die kind. My family did a lot of work to not only keep be safe but also educate me, rather than sheltering my fragile body. Even when I was too young to look out for myself they kept me informed about what they were doing, so that when I got older I could do those things myself. It made adjustment to being on my own a lot easier than another kid I met in college, who grew up being denied wheat but not being told why; the first thing he did was to try it for himself, and while it wasn't fatal he was NOT a happy guy.
#73 Dec 14 2010 at 4:49 PM Rating: Decent
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Overlord Theophany wrote:
Not all American families are like that. My parents pretty much took a sink-or-swim method to teach me about stuff. They never really sheltered me from anything, but the one time I muttered a swear as a teenager, they let me know that it wouldn't be accepted in their house.

Frankly, most parents are too worked up about the internet. Kids are going to see ****, swearing, etc whether they monitor their kids' use of the internet or not.

The best you can do (which is what my parents did) is make sure your kids understand what's appropriate.

Barring them from doing something only makes them curious and ignorant of the dangers. Same thing with alcohol, the more you know, the less likely that you'll be a @#%^-up.

Same here. They were conservative about things that might cause lasting damage, while giving me free rein to learn lessons from minor scrapes and dings. And they didn't censor my reading at all, figuring that if I was old enough to comprehend something that I was old enough to handle wrapping my head around it. And by not demonizing alcohol, they didn't put that perverse glamour on it that it seems to have in so many parts of the country.

Probably the hardest thing was making me understand that this attitude wasn't universal - probably the most important lesson was when to speak and when to keep silent.

Yeah, definitely. Especially about the lessons from scrapes and dings. I've broken my nose six times or something like that. Apparently I still haven't gotten the message that I need to protect my face. Smiley: grin

I'm definitely in the camp that censoring your kids is bad. If they understand and think something unacceptable is okay, then you step in and educate them. That way they know about it, and know why it's wrong, rather just that it's wrong.

Sheltering kids doesn't help them, in fact I believe it hurts them in high school and college.
#74 Dec 14 2010 at 4:54 PM Rating: Excellent
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Overlord Theophany wrote:
In all frankness, shut the @#%^ up already. Stop your whining.


You sure you didn't mean this as a response to the parenting part?

'Cause I swear I was having flashbacks to my childhood there for a moment... Smiley: lol
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#75 Dec 14 2010 at 5:16 PM Rating: Good
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someproteinguy wrote:
Overlord Theophany wrote:
In all frankness, shut the @#%^ up already. Stop your whining.


You sure you didn't mean this as a response to the parenting part?

'Cause I swear I was having flashbacks to my childhood there for a moment... Smiley: lol

Could be used for that, too.

Yep, I remember those days. My dad's favorite phrase: "stop crying or I'll give you something to really cry about." Smiley: lol
#76 Dec 14 2010 at 6:46 PM Rating: Good
Overlord Theophany wrote:
someproteinguy wrote:
Overlord Theophany wrote:
In all frankness, shut the @#%^ up already. Stop your whining.


You sure you didn't mean this as a response to the parenting part?

'Cause I swear I was having flashbacks to my childhood there for a moment... Smiley: lol

Could be used for that, too.

Yep, I remember those days. My dad's favorite phrase: "stop crying or I'll give you something to really cry about." Smiley: lol


Yeah... my mom's favorite anytime I was upset about anything she thought was stupid was "Get happy!" I still think that's a stupid thing to say, because honestly telling someone to get happy is not going to make them get happier any faster.

My parents sheltered me in odd ways. Granted we practically lived in the woods, our nearest neighbor was far enough away that I could scream at the top of my lungs outside and they probably wouldn't have heard. As a result, I wasn't allowed to stay home by myself until I was almost 13 years old. I think part of it was also that they were overprotective and didn't give me enough credit though. They didn't want me cooking anything and burning the house down. So yeah, I had a group babysitter (kind of like day care, but ran by one woman out of her house) until then, which had it's perks as that was where I got introduced to video games. My cousins had a game boy that they played too, and I asked my parents for some sort of video game something, but they never let me because they thought it would ruin my grades. Back then I didn't have the knowledge or foresight to point out that it wasn't any different from TV, but oh well.

Then when I was 13, my mom told me that if I ever wanted to try any drug, any drug at all, to let her know and she would find some way to get ahold of it so that I could try it in the safety of our home with their supervision, so I would be safe. Likewise, when I was 16 she started letting me experiment with alcohol (my boyfriend and his best friend too). My dad wasn't overly thrilled with that though. She also gave me sex tips and stuff around the same time too.

They bought me a computer when I was 16, and we finally got dial up internet at the house, and my parents made sure to give me a big old talk about internet safety and not abusing privileges and stuff. Despite the fact that my school had been doing the same thing for the last 5 years during computer class.

So yeah, my parents were weird. Drugs, alcohol, sex were all okay as long as I was safe about it, but keep her away from the video games and internet creeps! Oh, and I never had an allowance growing up either. I'm not going to blame all my issues with money on that, but I think that's a large part of why I suck at saving or managing my money in general.
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