how do i get my GF to play WOW!Follow

My suggestion? I thought MMO's were really stupid until I tried my own. Needless to say I was hooked.

What got me? Leveling up, in-game goals, emotes and chat, and picking my own character.

Picking a character is probably what will get her to stay or not. Make sure she picks what she wants; be encouraging, but let her make the decision, and answer any questions she might have before getting started. Make sure she knows what to expect before starting!!! If I were to be placed on an MMO w/PvP and not know anything about it I'd be instantly turned off the moment someone came up to me speaking a foreign language and whacked my character. As far as classes? Just make sure she knows what priests/paladins/warriors are all about if she chooses one, worry about the details later. At this point she only really needs to know the basics, controls and some basic text commands usually.

Secondly, help her learn about the money and inventory system as well as questing and leveling. Explain about how having good gear is important but having the very best isn't always necessary. Once she gets towards party level, explain a bit further about partying and her role, manners and terminology. Intruduce more commands and party actions/calls/terms.

Finally, once she has a handle on how the basics work, maybe level 20ish, explain a little more about enhancing her character through skill points and crafting, and why it is that she's leveling.

I'd try doing each of these three things seperately so she doesn't feel overwhelmed. You've played an MMO, she hasn't, and knowing how to move around will be more important at first than the "uber-1337" piece of gear she could acquire in later levels.

I became hooked on MMO's when a friend of mine let me wander around with one of his low-level characters. He just kinda let me go at it. This was when I realized it's cool seeing other players running around with their own goals and gear and character, and thought it would be cool to get to know it well enough that I would actually know what I'm doing on one.

Long story made short: Most girls don't know what MMO's are all about. They don't know why guys are so addicted to them. It's getting her to see those addicting factors that will have long-lasting effects, as well as having a pleasant introduction to the game.

The LAST thing you want to do is alienate her by making it complicated or trying to get her to understand everything at once. Also, try showing her the more aesthetically pleasing races first, I myself still don't know how anyone can stare at a troll for days on end and still have fun...

Like I said, "'Nuff said."

= )

hmmm maybe the reason I'm into gaming is because I was raised in a family with 5 brothers hehee

I hate shopping, getting my nails done, getting my hair done ( all that crap is boring plus way too much money)

But gaming and working and umm well you men know what else is nice LOL


OMG I might just be wierd :(

Well at least my husband like me gaming with him :)

Well I have been a gamer girl since I was 4, hell nintendo helped teach me how to read. The playing dress up thing is what first got my attention to SWG and had to much fun with my dancer on there, how it got me sucked in. I would say to make her an alliance character and let her play around with it for a while, like make a priest and let her start some tailoring. Never know she might like the character :) The reason I suggest an alliance character is because we love things that look cute or pretty and a girl normally would not want to play a troll.

This is the exception, but wanted to relay a story that happened to one of my close friends - for the record, I am 33, female, married 10 years, and hubby does not play any online games. We have plenty of fun together when our hobbies are the same, but it's ok to have separate hobbies; in fact, it helps a relationship, if you treat each other, and each other's hobbies, with respect.

Anyway, some friends and I played EQ for about 3 years - None of our spouses played, and none of us had any issues with it. When DAoC came out, one of these friends talked his wife into playing. Since it was a fresh game, and he had no history or guild that she would have to contend with, she agreed - It went fine at first - she had fun, but over time my friend stopped being so excited about her being there all the time - He kinda let her go do her own thing, and stopped paying so much attention to her, so he could get back to his own play style - Well, she hooked up with a "saint, who is very patient with me, and helped me learn more than you ever did, and he's much nicer than you, and I feel like I'm in love with him, and you and I are getting a divorce." That's paraphrasing, but the outcome was the same. She left him and moved to another city, where this "saint" dumped her three weeks later. This all took about 4 weeks, from the time she started playing until she left him. She and my friend had been married for more than 11 years, but obviously had a weaker relationship than they thought.

What I'm saying is be careful what you wish for. If you're going to get her involved, you better be prepared to lavish more attention on her in game than some other guy will. There are plenty of guys out there who will pick up where you fall short, who will be patient where you can't, and who will tell her how much more he would appreciate her than you do, and none of them mean it. If she's the least bit gullible or emotionally immature, she might just fall for it.

I like to think that most women are not going to fall for this crap, but some do, and so do some guys. Just make sure it's really what you want, and if you decide it's not, play your games, support her hobbies, find some common hobbies, and let it be :) Good luck!

I think you should let her play without watching you, if she wants. Just have her make her own character.

And there's nothing wrong with dropping the idea of her playing and making a character as an option she has.

-Drachasor

Thank You Kiaku ^_^'

I got sucked in by my boyfriend, and i too hated mmorpg's; a boyfriend a few years back basically dumped me for counter-strike, he was way too addicted. So video games = devil for me. My current significant other though agreed to drive me to Ikea...if i played WoW with him for the amount of time it took us to go to Ikea and back. I thought OK, hey, no problem, stupid game, i can tolerate it for a few hours. We started playing around 5 or 6 pm i think, stopped at 4 AM. And then played it the next 5 days after that.

Quite.

This all sounds like good advice, but hwat happens when there on line, and come across this forum, what then will u say?

I agree that couple gaming can be a great relationship bond. When I started dating my boyfried, I had never been any sort of gamer before. Before he got me into WoW, I would sit on his bed playing games on his cell phone while he WoWed. A little boring. Then he let me play, and within about 2 days I woke up realizing I had been dreaming about the game. Instant addiction, lol.
Yes, keeping a character to level up with her is a great idea, though that doesn't mean you have to skip through Azeroth holding hands. My BF would group with me sometimes, but most of the time he'd play his main while I learned on my own. If I got confused, I'd ask him for help. Do keep the volunteered help to a minimum, so it doesn't feel like you're trying to tell her how to play, but offering *information* (vs. advice) is a good idea. A few times I had done something pretty dumb because I had no clue how certain things worked, which led me to ask him why he couldn't have told me that before. (Gee, honey, couldn't you have mentioned falling off this tree would kill me before I had to spend 15 minutes walking back to my corpse?)
Let it be fun. Let it be romantic. (Send her a rose in game. :D ) Hopefully, she'll do what I did- fall for WoW almost as hard as I fell for him. But if i doesn't work out that way, well, find another hobby together. Two people with enough in common to be getting married surely can find something they'll both enjoy! Good luck and congrats on finding someone special enough to want to share WoW with. :)

Afterthought: And as far as mixing gf with buddies, my bf and I met through our mutual friends, which is great because I never have to feel all left out when he's out with th boys. There's a 50/50 chance I'm out with them too. And I just remember that I spent about half an hour after I started playing tickled pink, killing chickens and rabbits. It's good to start off killing stuff that won't kill back. That let me get a feel for my weapons and spells, and then I got started on the Goretusks and all.

Edited, Tue Nov 23 03:30:12 2004 by AmiAthena

Couldn't disagree more. Any close bond in a long term relationship will benefit immensely by sharing interests and hobbies. Some of the best time I've spent with my girlfriend of 5 years was playing FFXI, with her as a White Mage and me playing Paladin. Since we live together, we have plenty of time where neither of us are occupied with other activities, like late at night, after work, etc.. Playing an MMORPG together can actually be quite romantic, as someone pointed out earlier.

As for getting her started, I wouldn't recommend having her watch you play. As fast-paced as WoW can be, it can be quite intimidating to watch someone else play, especially if you arent already an avid gamer. Let her start off by customizing her own charachter, and she will quickly realize that the game moves at the pace of the player, which is important when you're trying not to feel overwhelmed by a completely new environment.

The appeal of WoW isn't generalized towards one specific age/gender which is what makes it great.. There is an aspect of the game which will appeal to almost anyone, it's just a matter of them finding it out for themselves. The sense of satisfaction you get from seeing the charachter you created grow over time is something anyone who plays will appreciate.

Good luck playing together, I'm sure you'll enjoy yourselves :)