Well, I've been going through my WAR for a little time now, and I ALWAYS run into this problem:
Holding hate on Warrior is easy. So easy infact, I perfer tanking on warrior over paladin. So why am I losing hate so freakin' easy? Let me give you a scenario:
I'm in Qufim on my WAR/MNK (you can check my gear in my profile down below) along with 2 BLMs, a WHM, a THF, and a MNK.
When the thf goes to pull, I lock onto the target, hit attack, provoke, and boost all right away. My damage per hit is 'roughly' 40dmg a hit with Fish Mithkabobs and 50dmg a hit with Meat mithkabobs. I'm doing more than my fair share of damage at this level, not to mention spamming boost and provoke every 15 and 30 seconds repeatidly. So I ask you, WHY am I losing hate when I'm hitting so hard and not giving my boost and provoke a rest? I'll tell you:
Orden uses Provoke
Orden uses Boost
THF uses Sneak Attack
THF hits for 100+dmg
BLM1 uses Thunder
BLM1 hits for 80dmg
BLM2 uses Thunder
BLM2 hits for 80dmg
Orden hits for 45dmg
Orden uses Boost
WHM uses CURE III (yes, Cure 3)
Pugil uses Water splashy type move
WHM uses Divine Seal
WHM uses Curaga
Okay, normally, I wouldn't have a problem with this, if you've partied with my WAR before, you know I can hold the mob from even looking at a power leveler. But when I ask you THREE times to hold off til my second voke before going out, for god's sake listen to me. T.T
I realize this is already a high damage team, and thankfully things evened back out when I got Sturmwind (I was nailing these things for 125dmg, which is awesome considering my lack of Sneak Attack) but I was still having a hell of a time with 2 BLMs chaincasting Blizzard and Thunder.
Now, this leads me to the point of my post. Am I spoiling these guys by going all out on my tanking? I know it sounds completely absurd, but I'm in a sense allowing these people to continue their hate sprees when they would normally learn by now from a one shot screwdriver NOT to chaincast, NOT to DS+Curaga, and NOT start the fight with Sneak Attack.
Any suggesstions?

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