Conservatives prefer to try to create systems in which people are less likely to end out in a state where they need help in the first place, thus actually treating the problem itself. More married heterosexual couples means fewer children born to single mothers, and thus less need for social programs to help single mothers raise their children. That's the idea here.
I agree that more married heterosexual couples may indeed translate into fewer children born to unwed parents (why are we singling out mothers and ignoring a father's responsibility?), but this only works in a black and white world. There is a very small subset of humans that marry just for these benefits, and the larger group marry for reasons that don't last. Aside from that, if we are going to use marriage as a 'tool' to ensure that the next generation is adequately cared for, shouldn't we also use that tool to ensure that the next generation is a solid and viable one, free of defects? Persons over a certain age shouldn't be allowed to marry because they are at higher risk of producing children with down syndrome. People should also be checked for undesirable genes so we don't pass those down. No one with a disease should ever be allowed to marry, no one who has survived cancer, because they might pass that tendency on. And certainly, no one who has had a vasectomy, is on birth control, or is infertile should ever be allowed to marry, because marriage is all about procreation, after all.
The way that some conservatives are framing marriage is absurd.
I have a little news for you. This may come as a shock, but I think you need to be told.
Even if (and it's a very remote 'if') you manage to convince enough of the population to support these bans, nothing is going to change about human relationships.
Homosexual people aren't going to wake up one morning, look at the partner they have loved for years and say, "Wow, golly gosh those conservatives are so right
! Sweetie, we have to split up now because, because... MARRIAGE!"
Heterosexuals aren't going to suddenly decide that life was better a hundred years or so ago when they stayed in horrible relationships that died FOR THE CHILDREN!!!
The world will continue to turn, humans will continue to be produced because I have more news for you, and this is really, REALLY important:
Allowing people who are already ***
to marry isn't going to turn people who are already straight
, ***! Straight people aren't going to wake up, look at their partners whom they have loved for years and say "Honey we have to get a divorce RIGHT NAOW because, because... *** MARRIAGE!!"
Now. let's divorce all this emotional bullsh*t from the issue and look at it from a taxpaying American's point of view.
Tell me, in a coherent and logical way, why my tax dollars are less valuable than yours, and why, under American laws, my choice for a life partner should be less important than your choice. Why shouldn't I be able to say, "I trust this person to make my decisions when I am incapacitated, to care for my estate when I am gone, and to share my life and my bed while I am here"? I pay the same taxes, to the same government, the same way you do, year after year. I deserve the same respect you get, and I shouldn't have to lie to myself, my family, my friends, and especially, my children, just to get it. I am an American, and I believe that my country is above asking me to do that.
Fortunately, it seems that more people are starting to agree with logic. It is a sign of the growing enlightenment of the human mind, and good gravy, it makes me proud of us. Edited, Mar 14th 2014 9:26am by Torrence