I sincerely ask, why should we females have to constantly brush off the constant "jokes" in games or on forums that tell us to get back to the kitchen, or that we don't even exist?
So which is it? You want special treatment or equality? If you want equality, all that sh*t talking is pretty much par for the course. We do it on everything from Call of Duty to Uno.
There's a difference between smack talk (something I excel at) and derogatory comments made in general chats or gaming forums (not here, but other sites I see it constantly) when a female gamer speaks. Smack talk I am down for. But when the go to comeback when dealing with a female gamer is about getting back to the kitchen, or that girl gamers suck, it goes from being smack talk to something else.
I don't feel like my competence as a gamer, when in groups/raids etc has ever been questioned because of my gender.
Elinda I have also been lucky in that regard... for the most part. The guildies I raid with know me as a competent gamer, who can get the job done without complaint or issues. But, in my history of gaming, I have also seen a lot of females not given the chance that I was from other guilds. There was actually a huge thread not long ago in the official WoW forums, where a female gamer mentioned that when she was interviewed by a few raiding guilds, the moment they heard her voice on vent, they said they didn't take females. She wanted to know if this was common. Now, it's NOT common, but it isn't unheard of either. And a lot of players posted on this thread that they would seriously do the same thing for the reasons: that they were female, that females are known to not play as well, that females cause issues with the male gamers, that they didn't want to take the time to teach their male guldies how to both concentrate on the raid progression AND deal with a female. It wasn't trolling as we know it, these guys were genuine in their belief that girl gamers were not worth their time. And while it may not be happening to you or I, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen, nor should we wave it off.
I've seen this kind of crap in specifically two games: WoW (no surprise there) and Rift. I don't even bother with gen chat in WoW, as it is junk. Rift has better chat, yet I've watched some female gamers adding input in chat and being mocked by guys. It happens often enough, that I've actually just stopped helping any players asking for it in chat, because the potential for it to erupt is just not worth my time helping anther player. And frankly, that blows.
We femmes are strong enough to deal with it, and have done so for a long time. We will continue to do so for as long as it takes. But why the @#%^ is it so hard for you guys to just take a moment and put yourself in a female players shoes, and realize that this kind of sh*t, whether trolling or not, is not cool on any freaking level?! I'm not asking for you to shoulder this alone. All I am asking is that you step up and help a sistah out when it's appropriate