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#277 Mar 15 2013 at 1:37 PM Rating: Excellent
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That wasn't the question though. The question was a pretty plain one and you're obviously dodging it.
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#278 Mar 15 2013 at 2:00 PM Rating: Good
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That wasn't the question though. The question was a pretty plain one and you're obviously dodging it.
Labeling people may be plain but it's certainly not straight-forward. Alma's question was leading and unnecessary as all the salient points surrounding why a person with a ***** can't use the a bathroom that is labeled 'girls' have been covered.

I'd ask why someone needs a label before they're allowed to pee in a public restroom, but that's really about where this debate started.






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Restrooms or not, the statement has been made that referring to someone by their obvious biological gender is "bigoted" and "hateful", yadda yadda. And that a biological, physical male is a girl if he decides he is and no quotes or other indication that the standard definition of "girl" isn't being used are acceptable in reference to this person. That's not a decision that some etymologist made.

Asking exactly WHO is making these decisions seems perfectly reasonable under the circumstances.

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#280 Mar 15 2013 at 2:22 PM Rating: Excellent
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Ideally we all make the decisions for ourselves, vote on it, and go with whatever the majority decides.
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Ideally we all make the decisions for ourselves, vote on it, and go with whatever the majority decides.

Safe to say that wasn't the case here.
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True, but I'd wager it'll come to that at some point.
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#284 Mar 15 2013 at 2:39 PM Rating: Decent
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That wasn't the question though. The question was a pretty plain one and you're obviously dodging it.
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so the best answer i can give is "that's just what it means".


I couldn't really tell you how any word came to mean what it means.

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And that a biological, physical male is a girl if he decides he is and no quotes or other indication that the standard definition of "girl" isn't being used are acceptable in reference to this person.
The "standard definition of 'girl'" includes such people.
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I guess I don't see what the argument is here. If somebody presents themselves to the world as female, why would there even be a question when they use the women's restroom? I mean, as a male, I sure don't scope out the bathroom to make sure everybody has the same equipment. It would raise more eyebrows if somebody who looked like a woman came in to the male side.
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I guess I don't see what the argument is here. If somebody presents themselves to the world as female, why would there even be a question when they use the women's restroom? I mean, as a male, I sure don't scope out the bathroom to make sure everybody has the same equipment. It would raise more eyebrows if somebody who looked like a woman came in to the male side.
It obviously depends on how well they present themselves as female. With any luck, no one will question it, because no one will even know the person is trans. Unfortunately that's not always the case.
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Asking exactly WHO is making these decisions seems perfectly reasonable under the circumstances.


Interestingly it's the WHO. And the APA. I guess you could argue they don't get to decide and you can still call kids with Down's "mongoloids" if you want to until social pressure gets to you, but really, they sort of decide.
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I'll keep that in mind when SCOTUS goes 7-2 in favor of codifying the right of gay folks to marry in June.


Which would indicate just how far away from the founding principles of this nation we've gone.

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I'm lazy, but there are about 72,000 examples of how the US system doesn't and wasn't intended to function the way you describe.


Pointing to 72,000 examples of liberals insisting that our system should work differently than originally intended doesn't really prove what you're claiming. What it proves is that we've moved away from that original intent. So much so that there are people like you who today think that this is really what that original intent was all along.

You're mistaken though.
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Pointing to 72,000 examples of liberals insisting that our system should work differently than originally intended doesn't really prove what you're claiming. What it proves is that we've moved away from that original intent.


The original intent was that white land owning men would get the vote and slaves would count as 3/5th of a person. We moved away from that? How??? The idea that "founders intent" has any value at all is an amusing joke people play on idiots who don't understand the Constitution. It hasn't since about 1820. To genuinely thing otherwise is laughable. Ha.

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Yes. But one way is @#%^ed up to about .01% of the population , while the other way is @#%^ed up to the other 99.99% of the population. Neither hang up has any more legitimacy than the other, so any sane society should go with not inconveniencing the larger group.
lol, get out. Not all cis people hate trans people. You're also vastly underestimating the number of trans people.


Er? So you either agree with someone 100% and go out of your way to give them whatever they want or you hate them? There's no room in your world for anything in between? People can't just treat each other as people?

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Transgendered people who can't handle using a restroom with other people of the same physical sex as themselves are just as phobic.
No, i don't think so. I don't know about anyone else, but personally, i am not afraid of using a men's bathroom. I did it just fine for the first 20 years of my life. I'm simply not comfortable in one. Not because i'm afraid of men, but because i'm in the wrong @#%^ing bathroom.


Are you demanding that public schools change their policies to suite you though?

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I'm sure i probably feel similar to how you would feel using a women's bathroom.


Which I think shows just how poorly you understand the issue. My biggest concern if I were to find myself in a women's bathroom would be that I'd make a woman uncomfortable because I have a different set of genitalia than she has and I'm not supposed to be in that restroom. It would not at all be about my own discomfort because "I don't belong" or something.

Which I guess is what I'm getting at. The transgender argument really is selfish IMO. It's about how you feel in a given location or a given role, and whether you feel good or bad, or comfortable or uncomfortable. The rest of us are thinking about how we make other people feel. I really think that's a key difference to this whole deal.

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Well the thread is about "Transgender rights". Everyone else has in fact been talking about those things.


It's been mentioned once or twice, but always by someone arguing against this assumed imposition on what transgendered folks can wear or how they can act. No one has once actually argued those things in this thread, so it makes me wonder why it keeps getting brought up.

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Also, you don't need quotes around girl. That just makes it seem like you're implying she's not really a girl.


She's not really a girl. I'm sorry, but I refuse to refer to someone who is biologically one sex but feels like another sex by the other term. I think that's incredibly stupid and childish. I honestly despise the whole "gender not sex" thing as well (for similar reasons). I think it makes people sound stupid as hell when they talk like that, and it makes those who go along with it look even more stupid. Those terms apply to the sex of the person.

You want to fight for transgender rights? Stop playing stupid word games. Fight instead for the idea that there's nothing wrong with a man wearing a dress, or wearing makeup, or having bows in his hair. And there's nothing wrong with a woman wearing pants, work gloves, and a short haircut. I don't care if you think your gender is something else. Act like how you want to act, and stop playing stupid labeling games. You are a "he". You are a "man". If you like wearing rose scented perfurme, wearing dresses, and swinging your hips when you walk, that's great. And it makes you no less a man.


That's what you should be fighting for. Not over stupid words and labels. But then, maybe I look a bit farther at issues like this than most.
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I guess I don't see what the argument is here. If somebody presents themselves to the world as female, why would there even be a question when they use the women's restroom? I mean, as a male, I sure don't scope out the bathroom to make sure everybody has the same equipment. It would raise more eyebrows if somebody who looked like a woman came in to the male side.


You might not. But if I slap on a dress and walk into the woman's restroom, it's a good bet that the women using it are going to be made far far more uncomfortable by that than the men would if I wore the same dress into the men's restroom. Guys would be like "hey. There's a guy in a dress. Whatever floats his boat, I guess". Women would be like "WTF? There's some creepy guy peeping at the women and wearing a really crappy disguise. Call the cops!".

That's why it's an issue. It's a bigger issue at a public school, where children are involved and overly protected sue-happy parents. I suppose this is where I inject my "let's privatize all schools and fund with vouchers" argument. It would solve everything, since the school could decide how to handle the restrooms as they wish and the parents/children could then choose to attend a school based on that policy if that's what they care about most. Yet another great argument for privatization! ;)
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Er? So you either agree with someone 100% and go out of your way to give them whatever they want or you hate them? There's no room in your world for anything in between? People can't just treat each other as people?
That's generally about the only reason someone would be upset about being in a bathroom with a trans person.

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Are you demanding that public schools change their policies to suite you though?
If their policy is penises go in the men's bathroom, and vaginas go in the women's, then yes.
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Which I think shows just how poorly you understand the issue. My biggest concern if I were to find myself in a women's bathroom would be that I'd make a woman uncomfortable because I have a different set of genitalia than she has and I'm not supposed to be in that restroom. It would not at all be about my own discomfort because "I don't belong" or something.

Well, i think it more shows how poorly i understand you. I am still confident that most people feel similar to me on this.

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Which I guess is what I'm getting at. The transgender argument really is selfish IMO. It's about how you feel in a given location or a given role, and whether you feel good or bad, or comfortable or uncomfortable. The rest of us are thinking about how we make other people feel. I really think that's a key difference to this whole deal.
That's ironic.

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That's what you should be fighting for. Not over stupid words and labels. But then, maybe I look a bit farther at issues like this than most.
No, it's not what i should be fighting for, and it's not what i want. Fuck you. I think i will go further contemplate if i even want to live in a world with people like you. How's that thinking about how other people feel thing working out for you?

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#293 Mar 15 2013 at 4:04 PM Rating: Default
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I'm not an etymologist. If you're interested in the subject, I'm sure your local college can explain better than i can.


This has nothing to do with the origin of the word, but who decides to label who what. If you're not concerned about that, then why are you upset for calling a ******* a male or using quotes?

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#295 Mar 15 2013 at 4:11 PM Rating: Good
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The "standard definition of 'girl'" includes such people.

Not in any dictionary I checked.

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Interestingly it's the WHO. And the APA.

A quick browse through the WHO site didn't reveal anything immediately saying "Males who want to call themselves girls are really girls" in their main "Gender & Genetics" section and I wasn't up for browsing all 2,000+ hits on the word "transgender".
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I guess you could argue they don't get to decide and you can still call kids with Down's "mongoloids" if you want

This would be more akin to calling children with disabilities "Star Children" and saying they're blessed with remarkable special gifts. I.e., it's going against the actual physical reality of their situation.

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How's that thinking about how other people feel thing working out for you?
He doesn't. Ever. Please pay better attention than that.
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Er? So you either agree with someone 100% and go out of your way to give them whatever they want or you hate them? There's no room in your world for anything in between? People can't just treat each other as people?
That's generally about the only reason someone would be upset about being in a bathroom with a trans person.


Because they hate the trans? That's insane. Ever consider that your fears are in your own head?

People are upset about a trans male being in the women's restroom for exactly the same reason they'd be upset about a non-trans male being in the women's restroom. You're focusing on your own condition and failing to realize that it applies to everyone, not just you.

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Are you demanding that public schools change their policies to suite you though?
If their policy is penises go in the men's bathroom, and vaginas go in the women's, then yes.


There you go then. Let me point out again that this rule applies to everyone. Not just those who are transgender. So no one's discriminating against you.


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Well, i think it more shows how poorly i understand you. I am still confident that most people feel similar to me on this.


Coming from the person who thinks that the reason people don't like having a person with male genitalia in the women's restroom is because they hate transgenders, forgive me if I think it's you who's got it wrong. You're not a special case here. We apply the same rules to everyone. Bathrooms are segregated based on the biological features of those using them. It's why you don't find urinals in women's restrooms. This is done because the overwhelming majority of people in our society are uncomfortable sharing a public restroom with people who have the opposite sex genitalia. That's really the reason. And this reason doesn't change for them because of how you feel about yourself.

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Which I guess is what I'm getting at. The transgender argument really is selfish IMO. It's about how you feel in a given location or a given role, and whether you feel good or bad, or comfortable or uncomfortable. The rest of us are thinking about how we make other people feel. I really think that's a key difference to this whole deal.
That's ironic.


It's also the truth. You're putting your own needs ahead of everyone else and demanding that everyone else accept it because, well, it's your needs and they somehow magically outweigh the needs of everyone else. Like I said: Selfish. I don't use the mens restroom because it make me comfortable to do so. I use the men's restroom because if I used the women's restroom it would make the women uncomfortable. I'm thinking of others. You are thinking of only yourself and putting that above how others might feel about it.

The saddest part is that you've somehow convinced yourself that it's ok to push aside the feelings of others by labeling them hateful. How convenient for you that you've decided that anyone who doesn't willingly set aside their own discomfort in favor of yours is a monster who hates you, and thus isn't deserving of their position in the first place.

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That's what you should be fighting for. Not over stupid words and labels. But then, maybe I look a bit farther at issues like this than most.
No, it's not what i should be fighting for, and it's not what i want. Fuck you.


What do you want? A world that doesn't care how you dress or feel or look? Or a world that pays attention to every detail about you, labels you, puts you in a box, tells you how your specific group should act, behave, and be treated, and passes laws to mandate these things society wide? Because you're fighting for the latter. Most of my disagreement with these sorts of causes are not about the people, or their basic desires/needs, but rather how the organizations which take up these causes tend to twist them into a methodology seemingly designed to create social conflict and then use those people as pawns in that fight.

It's the wrong way to do this. You honestly hurt yourself in the long run doing this. I just think that if more people abandoned the assumption that the only way to increase their own freedom is to infringe the freedom of others, a whole hell of a lot of our social conflicts would vanish.

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Restrooms or not, the statement has been made that referring to someone by their obvious biological gender is "bigoted" and "hateful", yadda yadda. And that a biological, physical male is a girl if he decides he is and no quotes or other indication that the standard definition of "girl" isn't being used are acceptable in reference to this person. That's not a decision that some etymologist made.

Asking exactly WHO is making these decisions seems perfectly reasonable under the circumstances.
Before we get to the ideal world, there is a measurabe physiological reason that some men feel like women trapped in a male body, and vice versa. Neurologists will tell you that a TG female might have the physiology of a male on the outside, but the physiology of a female on the inside. There is a noticeable structural difference in male and female brains. Just using simple, conventional male and female brain scans, a neurologist can look at a scan of an unknown patient, and tell the gender of the patient correctly about 95% of the time. Transgenderd brains conform to the sex that the person "claims" to be. That is, a phisologically outward looking male who says he is really female, almost always has a female structured brain. Medical science may pedantically call these people transgender, even after they've switched sexes in every way that they can. Out in polite society, just like it is a taboo for a gay man to obviously check-out, or hit on a straight man, and it is taboo for a straight woman to check out or hit on a gay man, it is very important common courtesy to call a TG by the gender that they feel like inside, as soon as they start their journey. If X feels like a female, then in Melbourne she always gets called by female pronouns, no matter what X looks like. If Y feels like a male, then he always gets addressed by male pronouns, no matter what he looks like. To do otherwise is to negate the whole of the identity of the person in question.
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A quick browse through the WHO site didn't reveal anything immediately saying "Males who want to call themselves girls are really girls" in their main "Gender & Genetics" section and I wasn't up for browsing all 2,000+ hits on the word "transgender".


You can find the terminology in the GID section of ICD or you could consider why I would bother lying about it and then wonder why you're arguing it in the first place. Not that I'm immune to being wrong, but it'd be an odd thing to make up. Again, I can't see why it matters much. Having a Y chromosome precludes many of the definitions or female gender words from being accurate in a technical sense. That has virtually nothing to do with common usage. It seems an odd battle to fight, honestly. Odd along the lines of "Marriage is defined as a union between a man and a women". I didn't read the entire context, so maybe I missed something, but clearly, in both ICD and GID the correct pronoun or descriptive term is that of the perceived gender and not the biological one.
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This is done because the overwhelming majority of people in our society are uncomfortable sharing a public restroom with people who have the opposite sex genitalia.
Do you have data for this? Because i doubt that's even true.
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This has nothing to do with the origin of the word, but who decides to label who what.
Uh...?

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then why are you upset for calling a ******* a male or using quotes?
Same reason i'm upset with what gbaji said. Same reason i'm upset when someone is called a "*******". Because it very quickly tells me that you don't accept trans people for who they are.

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You're putting your own needs ahead of everyone else and demanding that everyone else accept it
No, not everyone else. Only people like you. No one else has a problem with it. And your needs here matter about as much as someone who "needs" black people to use a different bathroom because they are uncomfortable sharing one with them.

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A world that accepts me for who i am.
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Someone who contemplates whether they want to live on this world based on some text on a computer screen? Good luck with that.
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