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Not really. I don't know maybe I'm missing something here. I've had no problems in the past turning down sex with women who I thought were attractive, and I can't really imagine that changing now that I'm in a relationship. I guess I don't see why the two have to be intermixed to that degree. There's more than goes into wanting to have sex with someone than whether or not they're attractive.

Not really. I don't know maybe I'm missing something here. I've had no problems in the past turning down sex with women who I thought were attractive, and I can't really imagine that changing now that I'm in a relationship. I guess I don't see why the two have to be intermixed to that degree. There's more than goes into wanting to have sex with someone than whether or not they're attractive.

There really isn't. There may be differing reasons you find yourself wanting to have sex with someone. I think that's a common experience. I've found myself attracted to smart women who if I didn't know them would read as "ugly" in a photograph. I've found myself attracted to women because of their physical beauty, regardless of if they're evil idiots (maybe that's even more attractive).

Now, it happens that I stumbled upon Nexa who happens to tick all of the boxes for me. Smart (to a degree most people can't adequately understand), crazy, driven, physically stunning, kind, glib...you get the idea. But people I've been attracted to in the past would have had some combination of fewer of those attributes. Sure, maybe I wouldn't have boned the ugly or particularly insane ones (ok, that's a lie, I'd totally do the insane ones), but that in no way means my "attraction" to them wasn't a sexual one.

Have you seen Pulp Fiction? Do you remember the "foot massage" discussion? That's where you are here. Preening something isn't related to sex because you think you should. When you turned down women you found "attractive" you still wanted to have sex with them, but *something* outweighed that urge. It's not hard.

Or maybe there was some other reason! Try the veal.

That's totally true. For me they have to have a naturally occurring ******, as well.

You definitely should - it's a classic.


Know what they call Veal in Europe? Ve-al. With Cheese.

You should really watch Pulp Fiction

Know what they call Veal in Europe? Ve-al. With Cheese.

Well played, sir.

If you're having the "the List" conversation, the thing to do is let her go first and name a bunch of celebrities. Then when it's your turn, name off your neighbors, your partner's friends, etc. Epic Lulz will ensue, trust me.

I think stating your ignorance of basic social hierarchies belies your refusal to admit your own place in such.

hahaha, excellent attempt to prevent my overly-emotional pregnancy insanity from poisoning your food while you discuss being attracted to millions of women you'd "totally" **** if not for your super-human degree of self-control.



Nexa

National Organization of Men Against Amazonian Masterhood.

My girlfriend and I have similarly overlapping lists. Those are firmly set to threesome's if we are ever able to pull them off.

Pardons, yesterday was a *********** and just looking at these now. I ignore the biological imperative because I think it's sexist and *********

That's a decent enough point, but I don't know if it's about laying down the law as much as agreeing on expectations of behavior. Joph and I agreed very early on in our dating life that cheating was unforgiveable, a dealbreaker. No matter what it is to anyone else. I think that's why some of these relationships struggled. I have a theory that they were either not entirely honest about their expectations or never discussed them in the first place.

What, no milk?

Edited, May 31st 2012 1:33pm by Eske