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#1 Dec 03 2011 at 11:30 AM Rating: Default
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I'm just curious, do anyone share their facebook/email with their significant other? I don't mean sharing passwords, but I mean using the same account?

I wouldn't mind sharing my password with my wife, but I wouldn't want to merge accounts. I just see some couples pages and it just seems weird to me.
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#2 Dec 03 2011 at 11:31 AM Rating: Good
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The few that I know who do it actually made a separate account just for the two of them. Each have their own private ones.
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Pretty sure it's against facebook's policy, but either way I wouldn't do that. I only ever let one girlfriend know my passwords, and it ended up being a big mistake; she would check all my e-mail, sign into my AIM and pretend to be me to get information from my friends, and all sorts of other things. Granted we were teenagers, but it taught me that just because you're in a relationship or married, doesn't mean you should share everything.

Also helps to pick a partner who's not paranoid and jealous.
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#4 Dec 03 2011 at 2:38 PM Rating: Good
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I wouldn't do it. It's just... odd to me. It's important in a relationship to have your own personal spaces (be they figurative, literal, or cyber). It's nice to be part of a unit, but sharing a facebook page seems like mistaking a relationship for an identity. And that doesn't seem healthy to me.

As for sharing passwords, IDK. Definitely not until our relationship was significant enough.

On the one hand, if it was an issue for someone else that I wanted to keep my passwords secret, then we have MUCH bigger problems.

On the other, it IS nice to trust someone enough with the key to that information, feeling sure they'd never access it except at your behest.

But, really, I think something like facebook for me will always be private. Part of that is because I'm an introvert and part of it is because I've always been used to controlling information about me, due to my years in the closet. I've never been in a relationship serious enough where this has even been relevant though, so it's just speculation.
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My husband has the password to my bank account, but that's because he handles the budget.

He does not have any other password of mine. Funny that I only gave him the most important one.

I guess it could be an indication of trust (or mistrust.) Each partner can always log in and check the PMs and see there's no hanky panky going on.
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#6 Dec 03 2011 at 5:54 PM Rating: Default
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I wouldn't even do a joint account. I don't know if you have had a girlfriend before but they will check into your sh*t. (I am not being a sexist douchebag I used to check my GF's emails back in the day, just like she checked mine.) It is a bad idea, not because of what may be contained in the emails/im's what have you, but because it breeds distrust.
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#7 Dec 03 2011 at 11:42 PM Rating: Default
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Well, to be fair, we can't completely avoid jealousy. Jealousy is a natural reaction that can be controlled. In other words, even the least jealous person has a bit of jealousy, but I understand the concept.

I wouldn't mind giving my password if we were married, else she would have to wait. I've heard and seen too many tragic stories in references to sharing passwords too soon.
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#8 Dec 04 2011 at 12:10 AM Rating: Good
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My wife has my facebook password, but I've also had facebook since it pretty much started hitting other colleges I don't ever really log into it anymore unless I want to look at pictures of my best friend who passed away. I think she just enjoys creeping on peoples accounts who knows.

Other than that the only password she really knows of mine besides our joint checking is.... maybe my personal email I use for newegg?

I guess if she really wanted to get into my work email she could grab my phone but thats about it. I don't have anything to hide from my wife unlike most people.
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My nephew and his wife have only one fb account. It's called by both their first names. It does seem kind of weird but I think they share one computer.

My husband doesn't have a fb account. He reads mine all the time as I'm fb friends with all his family and what-not. Occasionally he'll make a comment, but if he does he usually adds his name to the end.
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I wouldn't even do a joint account. I don't know if you have had a girlfriend before but they will check into your sh*t. (I am not being a sexist douchebag I used to check my GF's emails back in the day, just like she checked mine.) It is a bad idea, not because of what may be contained in the emails/im's what have you, but because it breeds distrust.

No, it's likely more curiosity. It becomes distrust when you have something to hide.
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Alma, you'll never have to worry about this unless you go with a mail order bride, so forget about it.
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#12 Dec 05 2011 at 8:05 AM Rating: Excellent
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Against my stodgy judgement, I've been coerced into friending two cats. Both cats have far more friends than I do.

Really, if a cat could actually leave a comment on fb, I don't think it would be very friendly.
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My wife and I don't share accounts, though we do know each others' passwords. We do have some semblance of trust in each other; on the other hand my brother and his wife also know each others' passwords (at least, she knows his) and she uses his account to post obnoxious, snarky comments to the family.

Of course, I have a remote administration login to their computer (for support) and I can easily change any of their shit since they keep all the passwords saved.
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Flea's told me her passwords a couple times for various reasons (needing to get into her e-mail for an address, etc) but I've never bothered to write down or remember it. I assume her Facebook password is similar but I have even less interest in looking at that. I don't use my own Facebook account, why would I want to log into another one?

I suppose either of us could access each other's stuff by hopping on their computer since we both have it cookie'd. No interest in it though. Besides, if I mistrusted my partner enough to want access to the FB account, I'd probably distrust them enough to assume that they have a super-secret account.
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My husband and I have lots of stuff that both of us need to access (bills, banks and such) and we tend to recycle our passwords....so we know each others passwords.

I have no problem with that. I don't care if he wants to leave snarky comments on my fb page or if he reads my emails before I do. One time though, I went afk while playing my game. He was driving my character around in the camp. He thought it was safe zone, but in pvp the snipers find their ways. My girl got ganked. Hubby actually felt pretty bad. I've taught him now though about ruthless pvpers and not to leave the tent. Smiley: smile
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My nephew and his wife have only one fb account. It's called by both their first names. It does seem kind of weird but I think they share one computer.

My husband doesn't have a fb account. He reads mine all the time as I'm fb friends with all his family and what-not. Occasionally he'll make a comment, but if he does he usually adds his name to the end.


I think that would annoy me. If it interests you that much to look in my account and actually post things, then you should get your own account.

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Why would a mail ordered bride be on Facebook? You're doing it wrong.
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#17 Dec 05 2011 at 12:24 PM Rating: Good
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My nephew and his wife have only one fb account. It's called by both their first names. It does seem kind of weird but I think they share one computer.

My husband doesn't have a fb account. He reads mine all the time as I'm fb friends with all his family and what-not. Occasionally he'll make a comment, but if he does he usually adds his name to the end.


I think that would annoy me. If it interests you that much to look in my account and actually post things, then you should get your own account.

Yeah, I can see where you're easily annoyed.

What does it matter? We have all the same friends and family. If he embarrasses me he embarrasses himself by association. Besides, he has four sisters. I'm fb friends to them all. I think he likes being able to keep up with them without them having the same access to him.
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Why would a mail ordered bride be on Facebook? You're doing it wrong.

How else will she communicate with the family back in Ukraine?
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Why would a mail ordered bride be on Facebook? You're doing it wrong.

How else will she communicate with the family back in Ukraine?
If she can get on facebook she'll be able to alert her family that she's locked in the basement. Can't have that happening.
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Why would a mail ordered bride be on Facebook? You're doing it wrong.

How else will she communicate with the family back in Ukraine?
If she can get on facebook she'll be able to alert her family that she's locked in the basement. Can't have that happening.
That's why you need to have access to her account. Jeez.
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Ray refuses to have an online social media presence. And if he did, I would not want to have a joint account. I believe that a person needs to retain their individuality in their relationship and my way of doing that is to keep my social media profiles separate. And our sense of humors and communication styles are so different that they would clash if we had a joint profile.

Because Ray refuses to have things online, I also try to not post too much about Ray and our kids. Which has led to people asking me if things are OK with Ray because they haven't seen me post about Ray and I have to say that I'm respecting his privacy boundaries. Good thing they're not on Zam.

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I think he likes being able to keep up with them without them having the same access to him.


This. I never saw it that way, but this applies to me definitely.

Edited, Dec 5th 2011 11:52am by Thumbelyna
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I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.
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I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.

You can see who your friends and your friends friends are friends with. Smiley: cool
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I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.

You can see who your friends and your friends friends are friends with. Smiley: cool


Friends inside of friends!?
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I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.

You can see who your friends and your friends friends are friends with. Smiley: cool


Friends inside of friends!?


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I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.
You can see who your friends and your friends friends are friends with. Smiley: cool
Friends inside of friends!?
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I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.
You can see who your friends and your friends friends are friends with. Smiley: cool
Friends inside of friends!?
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Edited, Dec 5th 2011 4:14pm by lolgaxe


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Elinda wrote:
ArexLovesPie wrote:
I've never understood people's desperate cry for secrecy in their private lives with facebook. If you have a facebook the only information available to people is how much you're willing to put into it, and how open you want your account to be.

Hell, you can find more information about people through just whats available through public domain than over a facebook account.
You can see who your friends and your friends friends are friends with. Smiley: cool
Friends inside of friends!?
Obligatory "Yo dawg, we heard you like friends, so we put friends in yo' friends so you can stalk while you stalk."
Inception. Inception porn.

Edited, Dec 5th 2011 4:14pm by lolgaxe


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Elinda wrote:
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My nephew and his wife have only one fb account. It's called by both their first names. It does seem kind of weird but I think they share one computer.

My husband doesn't have a fb account. He reads mine all the time as I'm fb friends with all his family and what-not. Occasionally he'll make a comment, but if he does he usually adds his name to the end.


I think that would annoy me. If it interests you that much to look in my account and actually post things, then you should get your own account.

Yeah, I can see where you're easily annoyed.

What does it matter? We have all the same friends and family. If he embarrasses me he embarrasses himself by association. Besides, he has four sisters. I'm fb friends to them all. I think he likes being able to keep up with them without them having the same access to him.



Well, if it's cool with you, then it isn't a problem. I say that because my siblings refuse to get facebook just to fight the "norm". So, I'm thinking of a person who "doesn't want facebook", but constantly uses facebook. That's probably not your situation.
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