TLC is releasing a new special called "Virgin Diaries" that apparently follows virgins waiting for their "first time." The UK version of it in 2006 focused on teens and bombed; this one will follow "adult virgins," apparently. The only reason I'm remotely interested is because one of my best friends is 26, has been dating a girl (27) for two years, and they're both virgins... and if it becomes a show, god DAMN do I want them on it!
But that brings up the question of "waiting." Being good friends, we've discussed the topic a few times. The first thing he always brings up is his religion: he thinks it's the Christian thing to do to wait. But going past that, he's also mentioned a few other things. "I don't know what I'm missing, so it's not all that hard to wait," is one of them. Another was "I don't have any experience, and neither does she, so going very slow is just more comfortable."
Then, knowing him as a friend, I have some other explanations that he never mentions.
1. Family interference: He's a "Momma's Boy" who does almost anything his mother says. And she has never approved of any girl he's dated, so the relationships all ended pretty quick up until now. Now his girlfriend is almost a carbon copy of his mother (ugh, analyze that, psychologists), and also a virgin, so she's calling the shots on waiting.
2. Personality. My friend, bless his heart, is incredibly awkward around girls. He doesn't know how to act around girls, and thus is very limited in his interaction with them. He's only had two other girlfriends so far, both starting online and living long distance.
3. Lack of opportunity: see the aforementioned. Few girlfriends, few opportunities, doesn't go out much. The one girl we thought might rob him of his innocence broke up with him after meeting his mother for the first time and being completely chewed out and demeaned.
Still, I do envy him at times; a relationship without sex (especially early on) lets a true friendship develop. Sex also can complicate things; pregnancy scares, diseases, awkwardness in general. And then there's a jealousy issue: what has your partner done before? Are they more experienced? Too experienced? I personally find the pros outweigh the cons, but at times I wish I had waited until later to start being sexual. Anyone know people in similar situations who would be great for this show? Or want to chime in on their views on "waiting?"
Edit: Holy moley, the kiss in the preview is painful to watch!
Edited, Nov 29th 2011 4:32pm by LockeColeMA