Belkira the Tulip wrote:
I broke up with my girlfriend of a year and a half last night.
Yeah, didn't you refer to her family as the "possibly future in-laws?"
Not that anyone wants my sob story, but yeah...
Second longest relationship I've had, and we were thinking of marriage once she finished her degree in two years. However, for the last few months I haven't felt as close to her as I had previously. There would be times that I wouldn't see her for a few days and I'd be upset, but then others when a week would go by and I'd go "Meh, no big deal." Her views on relationships were much different: she felt like two people need one another to be "complete," whereas I felt like two people need to be complete to come into a relationship, and then help each other grow even more as a result. Then there were the cultural/religious differences, Creationism and Southern Baptism, blah blah blah.
What it really came down to for me is that I was comfortable, but not happy in the relationship. I found myself thinking many times "This is ok, I could definitely do worse," and finally realized that that's NOT the foundation I want a relationship to be based on. With her I was never challenged to grow, to get out and meet new people, to try new things. I stagnated. She's a wonderful person, but not the right person to me. When I found myself looking into the future, I couldn't see myself being happy by staying with her, and it wasn't fair to either of us.
Didn't make ending it any easier. I spent last night in a weepy, blurry daze. Even today I think my brain is more blocking it out than dealing with it. Shock will likely set in later, but hopefully not until after my vacation.
Whew. Sob story over.
Edit: Said content instead of comfortable. Edited, Aug 19th 2011 1:42pm by LockeColeMA
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