I'm not sure if you were responding to "People take offense to such things"; "It happens, it's not uncommon"; or "You might want to just think before you speak?"
I was referring to "Instead of segregating yourself". That's the problem with society, instead of being proactive and not placing themselves in potential problematic situations, they are reactive.
This is kinda how a functional society works - instead of people purposely not putting themselves in situations where they will say something offensive, they just watch what they say. I mean, sure, you can surround yourself with only men who make crude jokes, perhaps some insular community of the seven dwarves from Snow White who kick out the Princess and make fun of her style of dress or call her a ***** instead of taking her in. Or perhaps that's why you joined the military, to keep away from women and not have to worry about what you say? The funny coincidence with that is that some of those men will probably be ***. And the military is integrated with both sexes. Oops! Didn't think that one through, huh?
I had this very same argument with a female coworker not too long ago and she said the same thing as you "just think before you talk, don't segregate". Starting that day, I started pointing out all of the sexual references the females were saying in class. This creates a false environment that it's ok to say such things because not many people complain when women say sexual things.
Obviously the topic upsets you. I suggest the next time *** comes up, you go to a supervisor and report them if they're talking about you. If the topic isn't upsetting you, then stop complaining!
Since *** is the topic of the conversation, the guy thinks it's ok to talk about *** and says the wrong thing. Instead of guessing what is PC and what isn't, just don't say anything at all, unless you really know your audience.
Except that's not your solution. Your solution, which you've repeated twice, seems to be just to stay away from women, not watch what you say. You've basically come out and said "Why do I need to watch what I say when others don't?" The answer is obvious - if they take it as harassment, YOU'RE at fault. If it's not harassment when they say it to you, there's no issue. If it IS, report them.
It's really not hard. It just seems incredibly you'd rather segregate yourself than watch what you say. Do you really lack the comprehension to know what's right and wrong to say in a situation?
Edited, Dec 21st 2010 8:27am by LockeColeMA