Hi, referring to one's (presumed) sexual orientation is a sexual reference. People take offense to such things. It happens, it's not uncommon. Instead of segregating yourself, you might want to just think before you speak?
I'm not sure if you were responding to "People take offense to such things"; "It happens, it's not uncommon"; or "You might want to just think before you speak?"
Let's break them down!
1. Yes, they do. It's YOUR fault if you said it. So, don't say potentially harassing things.
2. Again, it's not uncommon. This isn't my argument to back up, as you've been saying "People ASSUME", thus implying more than one person.
3. If you don't believe you should think before you speak... well, I think we just clarified almost all of your posts here!
It's not that simple. Because you'll be talking to a female who make sexual comments and everyone laughs. Then you might respond one way, thinking she's cool with it because of the stuff she says and does, and then all of the sudden you offended her.
Then don't make a sexual comment or a comment that might be considered inappropriate? Goodness, it's not a hard concept. Self-moderation is a great thing, and if you cannot (or will not) use it, why would you complain when it bites you?
Well, that's like the girls who wear shirt skirts and tops and get offended when you look at their chest and legs. How about I just remove myself from them. Every other normal girl interacts the way I'm used to being around. There's no reason in taking chances at work.
This is so startlingly close to the "She deserved it for wearing that" rape argument that I'm really getting creeped out by you. You hit the nail on the head though - don't take chances AT WORK. It's work, stop popping off-color jokes that could be offensive. Who cares if others are doing it? If you're offended, report them; if you're afraid you'd get in trouble for doing the same, uh, don't do it
I'm not grasping your point. Maybe my reply above is relevant to this.
Point was right in my part you quoted: "If you think they might take offense, don't say anything."
85% just don't like you, Alma