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#27 Mar 23 2006 at 3:58 PM Rating: Decent
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In college we had sinks in our rooms.

When I was a freshmen there was a group of people living in the same room that we really didn't like. After they left for the month long Christmas break about we stopped up the sink and about 20 of us pissed in it.

Sadly, only one of them got the message.
#28 Mar 23 2006 at 5:03 PM Rating: Good
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Kelvyquayo, Eater of Souls wrote:
So far she has written a very extensive letter to the landlord about the whole thing.

Now the girl has begun being openly rude and passive/agressive, such as "taking over" the living room with her b/f during a time wehn she KNOWS that my friend's "show" comes on... a comprimise had been made in the past for them to allow each other access to the main TV for their favoutite shows..
also things like leaving her door cracked just so she can slam it shut wehn my friend walks by the room. At this point it is clear cut blatant BULLYING.


What the hell is she waiting on to move? Either get her to make a threat in front of witnesses, plant pot in her room and then invite the cops in when she isn't home, or move the hell out but for crying out loud, do something.
#29 Mar 23 2006 at 5:04 PM Rating: Decent
I say go with planting the pot.
#30 Mar 23 2006 at 5:08 PM Rating: Excellent
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plant some pot and then **** in it
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#31 Mar 23 2006 at 5:48 PM Rating: Good
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I used to have a psycho roommate who, among other things, left used sanitary napkins lying around on the floor.

Guess what? I moved out! Your friend should do the same.

Although the peeing on her bed idea is pretty good...wish I had thought of that one way back when...
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Although the peeing on her bed idea is pretty good...wish I had thought of that one way back when...

Nah. DNA evidence. Just use some dog pee.
#33 Mar 23 2006 at 6:29 PM Rating: Decent
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:

What the hell is she waiting on to move? Either get her to make a threat in front of witnesses, plant pot in her room and then invite the cops in when she isn't home, or move the hell out but for crying out loud, do something.


I don't see why she's the one who should have to move. There is history with this person causing trouble, basically acting like she doesn't live in a house with a bunch of people, expecting everyone to tiptoe through broken glass to avoid upsetting her. It would just be another child throwing a tantrum and getting their way.
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#34 Mar 23 2006 at 7:06 PM Rating: Excellent
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It would just be another child throwing a tantrum and getting their way.


No, it would be just another child throwing a tantrum and looking up to find she's alone and no one gives a rat's *** about her OR her tantrum.

More than that, it would be your friend moving into a better situation, taking a positive action for herself.
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#35 Mar 23 2006 at 7:43 PM Rating: Good
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#36 Mar 23 2006 at 9:35 PM Rating: Good
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Kelvyquayo, Eater of Souls wrote:
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:

What the hell is she waiting on to move? Either get her to make a threat in front of witnesses, plant pot in her room and then invite the cops in when she isn't home, or move the hell out but for crying out loud, do something.


I don't see why she's the one who should have to move. There is history with this person causing trouble, basically acting like she doesn't live in a house with a bunch of people, expecting everyone to tiptoe through broken glass to avoid upsetting her. It would just be another child throwing a tantrum and getting their way.


Do something. Yes. But I agree that you have to be *very* careful about moving out in a situation like this. Depends on the lease that is signed of course, but sometimes you can get nailed for rent in situations like this.

For example. If you and your three friends leave, do you think crazy woman will be able to cover the rent and/or find 3 more roomates to cover it? If not look *very* carefully at the lease agreement. When you sign one, you are agreeing/promising to pay rent on that place for the entire term of the lease. If you just move out, and perhaps assume that the people staying will cover it, you'd *usually* be right (people tend to come and go in multi-room rentals all the time). But if for some reason the rent doesn't get paid, and it's still during the time period you originally signed for it, you can get stuck with the payment and the huge credit hit even though you haven't lived there for months.

If you decide to move out make sure you not only talk to the landlord but get yourself removed from the lease contract and get it on paper. If there are penalties to pay, pay them. It's likely better then the alternative. If you want this woman removed, perhaps use that as a leverage on the landlord. He's most likely just interested in collecting his rent with a minimum of problems. Contrary to popular belief, they don't want to get you for past rent, or have to take you to court. They will if that's the only way to get their money, and the courts will tend to just grab it from whomever can pay (I got nailed on this once if you can't tell). Facing the prospect of losing 3 paying rentors or losing 1, he'll likely help you out, but only if you present it as "Do this, or I'm breaking the lease agreement". If you leave without breaking it, he knows he's covered, so that wont do it.


While he's restricted in what he can legally use to force someone out of a lease or rental agreement, most people don't know that, and if a landlord just walks up to them and says he want's them to leave, most will. Get him on your side and see what happens.
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#37 Mar 25 2006 at 9:10 AM Rating: Decent
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This problem may not be her fault. What is her new boyfriend like? He may be putting undue stress on your friend...or pressuring her to do something negative: drinking, smoking, whatever. Think of it this way: Why would a crazy girl have a boyfriend?
I think that it would be a shame to make your friend pay so harshly for her bad choice in men and, in any case, before you do anything you should have a talk with her and converse on the subject of HER ailments. In other words, don't talk about what you think is wrong with her, talk about what she thinks is wrong and what she is confused about (there will be some confusion).
Last point: do NOT judge her as being phychotic before you have determined a rational cause ie. phychodrama.

Hope this will help you, I am generally good with this kind of thing.
#38 Mar 25 2006 at 10:01 AM Rating: Good
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It would just be another child throwing a tantrum and getting their way.


No, it would be just another child throwing a tantrum and looking up to find she's alone and no one gives a rat's *** about her OR her tantrum.

More than that, it would be your friend moving into a better situation, taking a positive action for herself.

Listen: No one changes, unless it's of their own voilition. Do you really think staying there is going to teach her some kind of lesson? Make some kind of stance? There are situations where taking a stance is a benefit. This isn't one of them. Part of maturity is knowing which battles to pick. Tell your friend to move on with her life and quit making this crazy chick the focus of it. She's not worth the time spent trying to strategize around her.
#39 Mar 25 2006 at 10:30 AM Rating: Excellent
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Have your friend seduce the psycho roommate's boyfriend.

I can't imagine a single way in which this would help the situation, but it'd be pretty hawt.
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#40 Mar 25 2006 at 11:59 AM Rating: Decent
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Samira wrote:
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It would just be another child throwing a tantrum and getting their way.


No, it would be just another child throwing a tantrum and looking up to find she's alone and no one gives a rat's *** about her OR her tantrum.

More than that, it would be your friend moving into a better situation, taking a positive action for herself.

Listen: No one changes, unless it's of their own voilition. Do you really think staying there is going to teach her some kind of lesson? Make some kind of stance? There are situations where taking a stance is a benefit. This isn't one of them. Part of maturity is knowing which battles to pick. Tell your friend to move on with her life and quit making this crazy chick the focus of it. She's not worth the time spent trying to strategize around her.



Sooo, just let yourself be driven out of your home. right
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#41 Mar 25 2006 at 12:23 PM Rating: Decent
Please be serious. For the reasons I stated in my other post, your friend may just need a talk.

And people DO change or can take on the appearance of change because of someone else. When you get as personal as girlfriend you can feel lots of things that ulimately leads to change: good feelings=positive change, bad feeling=negative change.
+From what it sounds like (no recent phychodrama), your friend is the victim of being, quite frankly, "put down". This can have insanely drastic effects, and it has caused suicides before.

-->If her boyfriend is 'over-protective' or is making her feel bad about herself then she may have reasons to grin and bare it that don't make sense(She may think that he is the only friend she will evr have). It's an odd thing about people as it states in the Declaration Of Independence:

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All experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable,then to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed.

(Don't believe for a second that the colonists only resented Britain for previous offenses)

I mean that your friend may be the victim to a sort of oppression of her own stemming from her boyfriend or feels deeply sorrowful of some recent event ie. family death(S)
If you really care, you will talk to her and find out what's really wrong.
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#42 Mar 25 2006 at 1:03 PM Rating: Decent
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Listen: No one changes, unless it's of their own voilition.

But where does the volition come from?
#43 Mar 26 2006 at 7:02 PM Rating: Decent
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Aren't you able to break a lease if your life is endangered? It seems that in any court that the lease could be easily dissolved..I dont think any place would hold a lease contract higher than a persons life. except maybe texas..


And shouldnt this thread be called 'Crazy White Bi tch Syndrome'?

It has been an epidemic sweeping this country for the past 15 years. I blame MTV's 'Room raiders' & "Next'.
#44 Mar 26 2006 at 7:16 PM Rating: Decent
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wait, so a close friend, and 3 women she lives with, are being terrorized by the Omegab[Azure][/Azure]itch, and you haven't offered to let them live with you?
#45 Mar 27 2006 at 10:04 AM Rating: Decent
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Doing psychotic things to make a psychotic person leave does not work. Trust me. Just makes them more psychotic and causes more aggrivation for you. Best advice is to move yourself and your other two roommates (assuming they are sane) to another place. Is it fair that you should have to move? No. But you and your group picked her, and now you know.

This comes from someone who has had multiple experiences with psycho roommates such as:

The one that killed my gerbil.
The one that I walked in on having sex with a member of the same gender in the living room
The one that broke into my apartment after moving out.
The one that decided to move their girlfriend... and then that girlfriends new boyfriend... in without mentioning the relationship involved.
The one that had very loud phone and/or cybersex that we could hear through the walls.
The one whose girlfriend's brother punched me on my birthday.
The one that... oh nevermind... the list goes on and on and on

The point is escape while you can.
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"Loud cybersex"?

Smiley: dubious
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"Loud cybersex"?

Smiley: dubious



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#48 Mar 27 2006 at 5:45 PM Rating: Decent
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just for an update.

The landlord came by to talk with my friend. (actually the real landlord[Iranian "royalty" apparently] was off to school so it was his mother taking over for him temporarily)

at the time the evil roomate in question was taking one of her 6:30PM naps. My friend and the landlord were forced to whisper in the living room to avoid waking up said roomate. My friend was informed that she had first dibs on the new room that will shortly be available.. in case she knew anyone that was looking for one.

Apparently this Persian woman was appalled at the notion of any woman sleeping at 6 in the afternoon wehn there is laundry and dishes to be done and dinner to cook Smiley: lol



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#49 Mar 27 2006 at 5:46 PM Rating: Excellent
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Jawbox the Furtive wrote:
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Listen: No one changes, unless it's of their own voilition.

But where does the volition come from?


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#50 Mar 27 2006 at 5:50 PM Rating: Good
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Sooo, just let yourself be driven out of your home. right

I'd pick the option with the the most likelihood of benfitting me and the least effort. Seeing as I'm not letting down my ardent rebel army or defrauding voters, I think it's safe, on this occasion to say that I would leave that crazy ***** to rot and continue happily with my own existence. I don't see that as letting anyone do anything. I see it as a decision not to over-romanticize a nutjob and an easy choice. However, if the landlord is kicking her out, you can tell that my decision would change to reflect that, and my thoughts would turn to whether or not I should order Thai for dinner.

Edited, Mon Mar 27 17:55:41 2006 by Atomicflea
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