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gosh i noticed that all my friends are changing and im just staying, well me. i went down to talequah, oklahoma to visit some old friends and found out some very disturbing news from pretty much all of them. like for instance my best friend andrew has changed he does alot more things now like drinking and partying and i found out he smokes to.

my other good friend has changed to, used to she used to be a good girl and never did anything wrong but now she goes out to party and drink all the time and sadly her ex-boyfriend used her to have sex with her (her first time so her virginty is wasted.)then dumped her which made me really mad because if i knew where that guy lived i would beat his ***. so anyways basically everyone i used to know has turned into some wild person with there lifes messed up.

it made me kinda sad to find that out about the friends i love. were all teenagers to so i was just wondering should i be moving along with them or just stay myself. now im no perfect goody goody by far but i havent exactly done any of that myself. what are your guys thoughts?

Trunks, if I recall correctly, you’re 16, right? I don’t want to sound like some old timer or something, but trust me, changes in friends come and go. The ones that are your friends will understand why you don’t do the same things. The ones that aren’t, won’t hang out with you anymore. You’ll lose some old friends, and gain some new ones. People drift apart, and people come together. The bottom line is, you’re still so young that in the next 5 years, you won’t even recognize your life. I know that may seem like forever now, but it will be gone in the blink of an eye.

Don’t worry about what your friends are doing. Do what you want to do. Concentrate on the big things, and life will work itself out, just fine.

Was she saving it to trade in for a new car or something?

Everyone's got a first time (well, heavens willing). But by your -nth time, the first time is nothing but a memory, be it good or ill. I dare say the vast majority of people aren't with (or probably not even in communication with) their "first".

As the the crux of your post, do whatever you feel comfortable with -- within reason. Don't want to ever smoke, drink, etc? Then don't. Personally I don't think a little pre-21 drinking is harmful in of itself, so long as you're nt driving or anything. You're only young once, after all. Still, if you don't think it's what you want to do right now, don't. You have four years of college to spend getting drunk and making memories.

Sounds like a lead-in to an After School Special.

I think he means angry, rabid vaginas, right Skeety?

i dont think your friends are changing. many (dare i say most?) teenagers will start drinking/smoking/partying/whatever at around that age. it doesnt make them any different, it just means they've found new forms of recreation. this is only bad when they replace their old activities with drugs of various sorts.

just because you are drinking doesnt mean you are a wild person with a screwed up life. the vast majority of teenage drinkers are just fine. dont worry about them, they are still the same people.