OK - get this...
My step-son has his annual church retreat up in the Sierras this weekend with the other high schoolers - it's an important spiritual refresher for him and he's been looking forward to it for quite a while.
Yesterday morning, his dad called to say he's getting married in Las Vegas and wants him to come, although he knows it's last minute. His dad is marrying a woman from China who he's never met, just been carrying on a relationship over the telephone and internet. His dad is also a master at "guilting."
Decision time - Chris has made his decision... what would YOU do?
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How old is your step-son?
If my father were an important part of my life, I would have to go to the wedding. If my father were a complete asshat, and not a regularly appearing, integral part of my continued positive experience, I would go hang out with my friends in the mountains.
Can we say "Sperm Donor"??? I have no idea how soo many of you put up with the ex's. What does your son think? He is high school age? He should be able to make a decision. Kids know what they want ususally. They are just afraid of disappointing their parents. Let him know that you will support which ever decision he makes. Personally I would go to the mountains.
******* "dad"!
******* "dad"!
Sounds like his Dad is just looking for cover. I'd let him know I paid for the retreat already and wished him well, but couldn't make it.
I have my own deadbeat dad and know all about trying to accomodate him. Tell your son to do what he truly wants to do. I spent years trying to get my dad's attention - to little return. Now that I am older, I realize that it is he that will live to regret his decisions, not me. He had his chance...now it's my time!
What's bred in the bone will not out of the flesh.
He will be 17 next week. While he didn't want to make the decision, he knows that it is his to make and he's taking responsibility to do so.
Like everyone else has said, I'd go to the mountains. I would have a hard time taking a marriage like that seriously, anyway.
Yup! He decided to go to the mountains! Smart kid! (I was going to counsel him to go be with his dad if I was asked, but asn't going to butt in while he was in his process.)
Now, though, he has to communicate to his dad what the decision is - not surprisingly, his stomach's tied up in knots today - I had to go pick him up from school after 1st period.
Now, though, he has to communicate to his dad what the decision is - not surprisingly, his stomach's tied up in knots today - I had to go pick him up from school after 1st period.
In truth - what i'd do?
Guilt would make me go to the wedding, I'd probably resent the bastage like hell for it - and end up fighting. But figure I was doing the "right thing".
What he should do ? - go to the mountains
Guilt would make me go to the wedding, I'd probably resent the bastage like hell for it - and end up fighting. But figure I was doing the "right thing".
What he should do ? - go to the mountains
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i think he made the right choice. plans have allready been made, and it sounds like the "dad" could really care less...
bastage.....
bastage.....
Go to the retreat. Those Christian teen retreats are orgies of sexually immorality and alcohol use he wouldn't want to miss 
Belkira wrote:
Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.
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- not surprisingly, his stomach's tied up in knots today - I had to go pick him up from school after 1st period.
Poor guy. I used to hold the phone away from my ear when my Dad would try to guilt me. Then once you hear the noise stop, say "Sorry, gotta go do my homework. If she wants to meet me, I'll be glad to see you both out here, but please make sure you call first."
Jophiel wrote:
Go to the retreat. Those Christian teen retreats are orgies of sexually immorality and alcohol use he wouldn't want to miss.
Lol, based on this post, I'm going to have to agree with Nexa, Jophiel. HAHahahaha!!
What's bred in the bone will not out of the flesh.
Is that retreat the one east of Fresno, Mike? My daughter went to that one back in high school. It's very good I've been told.
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Let him make the decision, try and pressure him away from the dad if it is an option.
My mother spent years forcing/pressuring me to spend time with my dead beat dad, I rensented her for years for doing it.
My mother spent years forcing/pressuring me to spend time with my dead beat dad, I rensented her for years for doing it.
I would have gone to the wedding, despite knowing it was the wrong thing to do.
Totem wrote:
Is that retreat the one east of Fresno, Mike? My daughter went to that one back in high school. It's very good I've been told.
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I think so - Lake Hume. He's been the last few years and really comes back energized and grounded... He leaves tomorrow (Friday) morning at 7. Plenty of snow up there now and on its way... I don't think he's called his dad yet - he might do so from the bus (plenty of support).
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He really comes back <from the retreat> energized and grounded
Oh, is that the fashionable euphemism for religious brainwashing these days?
Ya, that's the one. I have only good things to say about it.
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He's back - had a great time! He says the speaker that they had was the best he's ever heard. No sugar coating, no "if you accept Jesus, everything will be easier." To the contrary - it makes things tougher, he was told. But more fulfilling. He made some new friends, branched out, etc.
Called his dad on Saturday, I think - it went OK, he says.
Thanks for listening...
Now back to your regular programming...
Called his dad on Saturday, I think - it went OK, he says.
Thanks for listening...
Now back to your regular programming...
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