As previously stated, flamed, and blown all over the boards.. I have been married previously. I was stupider, younger, niaver( is that a word), and most definantly out of my mind. He is the Jerk of all jerks, and should die a horribly painful death, slowly even.
If at first you don't succeed, fail, fail again. Please let us know when you figure out that it's not the guys who are @#%^s it's you
who are looking specficially for them.
We had been separated a couple of months when I met Rob. Totally opposite of every guy I have ever dated. Hes tall, skinney ( he doesnt like to be called scrawney ), airforce, drove a little jap trap hot rod, and most definantly the outdoors type. I was used to the tall, built, football player types, in jeans, boots, yes ma'am kind of thing..
Great. At least now, if he beats you and throws you out of the car, it'll be low to the ground.
Anyways, I was signed up for the yahoo profiles. He read mine, decided he might like to meet me. We emailed back and forth for a while, then I gave him my #. We talked a few times before I got the balls to go and meet him.
Where'd you guys meet, the Grange hall or the local meth lab?
I was soo nervous I couldnt stop shaking, had my hands in my pockets or in fist the whole time to keep him from noticing. We met at a local park, walked the track and just talked. I dont like people to touch me, long bad story, so I let him shake my hand. That apparently impressed him, that and I didnt have any kids!! In this town, girls start to breed about 13 and 14 and have multiple children by my age.
I see. Did he check to see if you had all your teeth? You must quite a catch out there. "See, maw, she aint got no kids and has both of her feet!"
Long story short, we just clicked, insta-energy thing. I dont know how to describe it.
It was wonderful, I had not laughed or smiled that much in what felt like forever. Before I met him, I was ready to pull ties and run far away.. go to cali, or oregan, or san antonio. I just wanted out of this god forsaken town with all it memories, and everyone knows everyone.. I just wanted to die.
Next time go with your first instinct.
He brought me back to life, helped me find my "back bone", and most of all made me want to love again.
Look, no ones intrested in your bizarre anal expirments.
So here we are, many tears and nitemare filled nites later, he has helped me chase away most of my nitemares, and has let me heal. I feel like a completley diffenent person. I wouldnt trade him for the world, and would take on the world to protect him. I look back, and I know that all of these things before "US" really did happen, but it feels like it belongs in someone elses past. I plan to keep it that way!
Did I say codependance yet?
We did get married Jan. 30. We found out a few days before that he might be going TDY. We had already been planning on a summer wedding. So in 2 days, I found my dress, our J.P, the place, got the liscence, and called everyone (except his mom). The morning of the wedding I took the puzzle rings into the jewlers to be sized, and saudered(sp) together. Jewler tells me not to worry he can do it. I get called an hour later, he took them apart and cant put them back together. These rings have 4 bands made of 3 different golds (pink, yellow, and white), we are down to 3&1/2 hours till the wedding!!!!!! I find a jewler that calls in help, costs me almost $200 to get the damn things fixed, and sized before the wedding.
So it cost you 200 times the value of the rings to have them repaired? That's rough.
My mom bought me my flowers. My family was there, thank god his mother wasnt! It was beautiful, I cried, he laughed, and there was such a feeling of rightness.. was wonderful.. :)
Did people come out of their trailers and hold up welfare checks to form a tunnel for you guys to walk under?
today we find out tdy is canceled hes not going!! WOOT!!!!! no, no honey moon for us yet. maybe in a few months after we have the BIG wedding. Yes, we are going to have another wedding for both our families. I hope my mom kicks his moms ass, filthy little yankee bitch that she is....grrr!!
$100 says it won't last untill the "big" wedding.
BTW... imo puzzle rings are way cooler than some cold rock sitting in a ugly ass plain gold band.. mine has no stone in it. Yes, most wedding bands have diamonds now, these came from TURKEY, years before he met me he found them in a little shop while he was stationed there.
Some would say "shop" some "gumball machine" all depends on your point of view, i guess.
He bought them and kept them for when he did meet his future wife. I have had more rude people commenting on my "unusual" wedding band. number one asked question is "wheres your diamond" I DONT NEED A FECKING diamond, my engagement ring has one , but I cant wear it with the ring, they dont match. GRRR.. rant off.
I think what they're trying to say when they say "where's your diamond" is "why'd you marry such a cheap @#%^".
but thats it, we are happy, spoiling each other to death. Military life is going to be a big change, but I can take it, as long as he always comes home to me.
Eta to wife beating and infidelity T Minus 100 days.
Oh and CONGRATULATIONS!