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#1 Jan 26 2004 at 8:55 AM Rating: Decent
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I pine for a woman I can not have :(

It's just the most pathetic thing you have ever heard, I dated a girl back in highschool, for about 6 months exactly, I then had to move and broke it off. I really belive she was the perfect girl for me, smart, funny, drop dead gorgeous, and cynical to no end, she was perfect with out a doubt. When we were dating it got pretty serious, we never slept together though.

So I went out with a girl yesterday, and it was the saddest thing, I just coulden't stop thinking about Rebecca. (Person I went out with was a little un-balanced)

Maybe I am just pineing for this one person I have built up in my mind as the "End all, be all" of dating because im so damn lonely. I seriously havent had a good date, much less goten laid, in 2 years. I saw a girl briefly but broke it off when I found out she was a physcopath.

Blah, the worst part is I have no way of contacting Rebecca, I can't call her up and find out if she was the one or if I was just a horney highschooler.

Maybe I just need a prostitue :(
#2 Jan 26 2004 at 9:01 AM Rating: Excellent
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Blah, the worst part is I have no way of contacting Rebecca, I can't call her up and find out if she was the one or if I was just a horney highschooler.


Are you sure? My high school has this online page for each year, and even if you can't contact her you can look for someone who knew her... She can't have fallen off the face of the earth. If you really think she's worth the effort, pull a "Something About Mary" on her. If not, get a prostitute. You'll think better once your pipes are clean.
#3 Jan 26 2004 at 9:40 AM Rating: Excellent
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Every time someone mentions "pipe cleaning" i can't help but think of that movie Cabin Boy with Chris Elliot.. where he screams out "THESE PIPES.. ARE CLEAN!!!!!!!"

and there was much rejoicing.
#4 Jan 26 2004 at 9:48 AM Rating: Decent
I feel your pain, Mrens.

I broke it off with a girl I dated several years ago. Well, I didn't officially break it off, just never called or wrote. (She was in boot camp.) But to make a long story short, she still occupies my thoughts quite often. I believe she was truly "the one that got away".

PS. A prostitute will obviously help the laid situation, but probably won't keep you from thiking about Rebecca. Hell, I have a (for all intents and purposes) wife and a daughter. Stacey still creeps into my mind, though.
#5 Jan 26 2004 at 10:17 AM Rating: Good
/agree Meistern

The one that got away is always gonna hold a little spot in your head. Best not to dwell on it. Just hold the fond memories and don't let it happen again.
#6 Jan 26 2004 at 10:25 AM Rating: Good
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...don't let it happen again.


How true - I also let the one who was "perfect" slip through my grasp... However, I wouldn't have been mature enough at that time to keep her...

Make one all out effort to contact her. If that doesn't work, hold the memories and remember the lessons so they don't get repeated next time.

It took me until I was 41 to find someone who was "just right" after missing out on a couple "perfects" in my late teens and early twneties. Almost got myself into some BAD relationships in my desperation in the meantime...
#7 Jan 26 2004 at 10:25 AM Rating: Decent
i only hope there is no connection between "relationship rant" and "revenge movies"

;)
#8 Jan 26 2004 at 12:40 PM Rating: Decent
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I was lucky i realised i had the perfect girl and married her quick! i think it was the addiction to EQ that sealed it Smiley: smile.

Mren you gotta let it go man, enjoy the memories and move on, i was told by a very wize old lady that every one gets thier shots in life and you gotta grab hold and enjoy the ride but it isn't just one chance it's a series of chances and missing the first isn't the end of the world.

If your going to 'clean your pipes' then double bag it mate, no point taking chances right.
#9 Jan 26 2004 at 12:43 PM Rating: Good
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...i was told by a very wize old lady that every one gets their shots in life and you gotta grab hold and enjoy the ride but it isn't just one chance it's a series of chances and missing the first isn't the end of the world...


Wow! Who was this wise old lady? What a piece of advice!!!
#10 Jan 26 2004 at 2:49 PM Rating: Good
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I was in a similar situation for a time. Also, a girl from HS. Very attractive, intelligent, etc. I thought the same, till I recently bumped into her back home. I chatted with her for a while, and it didn't take me long to figure out I had conveniently forgot a few things about her. She's a bit egocentric, while being suprisingly insecure at the same time. Also, she tends to belittle others who she believes are stupid or lazy.

Hard to believe I had such fond memories of her. Sometimes, absence and time distort the facts. But, if she was one of the ones who got a way, there are more out there. My guess is that once you land a decent one you're feelings for Rebecca will fade. Good luck with the hunt.
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#11 Jan 26 2004 at 3:30 PM Rating: Decent
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There is no perfect love or perfect person. Love is knowing someone's faults intimately (some may even make you want to pull your hair out) and loving them anyway. Real love is hard work, like marriage. The first "falling in love" feelings you can get with someone you do not know very well (and if you have that you will probably never forget them, since it does not happen every day).

Dating is also very hard work IMO, though not as hard as the love and marriage part (even married to my best friend). I did a lot of dating and bar hopping, and lots of going to all sorts of places to meet the opposite (or same for some) sex and there are always more boring/bad/incompatible people than not. Some of those people are really good people but not for you. The trick is to do the things you WANT to do, with friends or not, do not just go places just to meet people, because you need to be happy and have fun even if you don't meet anyone on that outing. Let friends and family introduce you, try blind dates (most of which are horrible), but if you do not look, you will not find.

And most important, don't feel desperate, because those chances WILL come, but make sure you are alert for them.

#12 Jan 26 2004 at 4:13 PM Rating: Decent
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Trust you instincs.

Go with the hooker.
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#13 Jan 26 2004 at 5:28 PM Rating: Good
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Mrens, it sucks that dating has gotten you down. Smiley: frown

Dating can be a real pisser. I think you should try and find this girl, and at least see if she is the be all-end all. If you don't, you could be passing up the best thing that ever happened to you. Who knows? She could also be a bitter psycho now... roll the dice and take your chances. I went for a guy once that I thought was the love o' my life and he turned out to be a deadbeat...but at least I know now. I never have to wonder what coulda been. I, for one, LOVE the ones I can't have. The pursuit is the best part...and I like making things happen the way I want them to. Smiley: sly

Prostitutes are helpers...helpers. Heh.





Edited, Mon Jan 26 17:29:02 2004 by Tare
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#14 Jan 26 2004 at 5:51 PM Rating: Good
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It took me until I was 41 to find someone who was "just right" after missing out on a couple "perfects" in my late teens and early twneties. Almost got myself into some BAD relationships in my desperation in the meantime...


Same here, except that I was 39...

I've had many chances to be with some wonderful girls and I've either blown it due to my lack of commitment, immaturity or a combination of both. Luckily, I grew up (well, I did, dammit) and found my true love. Sure, there are times when memories of those lovely women rise again, but it's best for your own sanity to keep them as memories.

Like Moebius said, retain the special memory and don't dwell on the missed opportunity. As tough as it can be, moving on and making new opportunities for yourself is really the way to go. And don't sweat 2 years...try 5! Yes, it did suck to be me then...



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#15 Jan 26 2004 at 8:20 PM Rating: Decent
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Just remember...

"Desperation is a stinky cologne".
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#16 Jan 26 2004 at 9:16 PM Rating: Default
Bah... find a hooker called rebecca or tell her that is her name for the twenty minutes you'll be on her and bang the **** out of her then move on. Then always remember you just wasted 200 bucks just to get your pipes cleaned because of a memory.
#17 Jan 27 2004 at 4:53 AM Rating: Good
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There is no perfect love or perfect person. Love is knowing someone's faults intimately (some may even make you want to pull your hair out) and loving them anyway. Real love is hard work, like marriage.


I don't think so. Love in and of itself is perfection.

It's the relationship that takes work.

Love isn't loving someone despite their faults, but realizing they are what make him or her perfectly human, and loving them because of them.

My opinion, anyway.
#18 Jan 27 2004 at 9:47 AM Rating: Excellent
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Mrens, so did you go "hook it up" or are you over it?
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