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There I was, a lvl20 whm minding my own business in Windurst, when I get a tell:

>> um.. if I asked you to come to the dunes and party because we need a whm, would you?

I thought about it, realised I wasn't doing much of anything, so I said I would if I could get a Teleport Holla.

>> congrats on being the only lvl17-20 whm online who isn't already in a party.

I searched all, and realised it was true. . _ . So I start looking for a teleport and get one fairly quickly. This person was kind enough to wait for me while I changed my gear in my mog house and got ready to leave. As we're about to teleport, I get:

>> wait.

I tell the person teleporting that I might not need to go, but they said to go for the ride anyway, since there were other people who needed to go too. I felt terrible saying that right then, because I hate making people wait... So here I am, telling this person who's asking me to go to Valkurm if they really need me, because I'm holding these people up.

.........

>> yea, come.

So I go. I run my little butt to Valkurm when I don't even need to to help this group out. We level, everything's going fine, until I decide I want to go to bed because I'm tired. I even find the group a 18WHM as replacement. When I tell the leader I'm leaving, their response is:

>> ok, bye.

... Not once did they ever say thank you or respect the fact that I went out of my way to help them. I mean, I'm not nice to get things in return, but a thank you would have been appreciated. (-_-)

Sorry, just felt like ranting...

Edited, Wed Aug 18 10:14:41 2004 by Avitue

Double post..grrrr

Edited, Wed Aug 18 10:19:31 2004 by Eleusynia

awww -hug-
that wasnt nice of them. I like to always say thank you when someone does something for me as well. But I have also gotten those players that dont say thank you.

In Rolanberry there was this guy getting his butt kicked by a Qudav, I stoped healed him thru the battle gave him a protect two, the Quadav fell I didnt really expect anything maybe a smile or thank you. But no .. he killed and ran off to start killing another. I just went back on my marry lil way dont know if he survived that one hope he did :(

I guess I'm alittle perplexed as to why you felt you deserved a 'thank you' for joining an xp party?

You were asked if you wanted to party in the dunes, you decided you were bored, and accepted the invitation. You find a teleport, you join the group, you gain experience, and then you decide to go to bed.

I think it was inconsiderate of them to drag out whether or not they needed you, making you feel bad for having the teleporter wait. And I think they could have said thank you for your going out of your way to find a replacement, which was above and beyond.

But I don't really see the need for them to thank you for simply accepting their invite. The fact that you went out of your way to get there wasn't simply to help them, but to also help yourself.

Personally, I thank every group I'm in before I leave... but I don't expect or require a thanks in return.

It's a matter of thanking them for travelling all that way. Seems like common courtesy to me to thank you, especially for coming out when you were tired, etc. I'm sure it's just a kid whose parents never taught him manners.

I always thank everyone in my party before I leave, and I usually *am* the WHM, so go figure. I personally feel it's common courtesy, but I don't really expect it anymore. Chivalry is most certainly dead.

I don't feel that any party member deserves thanks in particular, unless they went "above and beyond the call of duty" in some way I guess. Partying is about working together to achieve the goal (which is usually a level or two) so, we all deserve a thanks, from each other.

But, again, yeah, it doesn't happen much. Oh well.

Yea, you just gotta take the good with the bad in stride. Last night I was leveling in Qufim and a Mithra was being chased by a Giant Ranger. She happened to run through so I decided to throw a cure3 + protect on her. She just stood there for a minute to let me heal her, then kept running. No salute, nod, anything.

It comes with the territory. WHMs have to be especially patient because we are one of the most helpful jobs for people in trouble. Sure we may not be able to voke a mob off you, but what drk,drg,mnk,war,sam,nin,thf,rng is gonna poisona you or cure you so you don't die in the aftermath?

Overall though there are typically more nice people than rude. So for every 10 great people you run into, you will just have to ignore the one ding dong that treats you as an obligated healer instead of a privelage to have. Remember it all comes with the territory, if a paladin is always the first to die..we whms are always the first to help others!