I'm not a parent. So my example and thought are of mine...
I put some of the blame of me being obese on my parents. The reason? When I was a kid and said I didn't want to eat "it", I didn't get to leave the table until "it" was gone. Even if I liked other parts of the meal, and gladly would have rather have had more it (and maybe was gave more), all food on my plate had to be gone. "They" say not chewing your food for a decent amount of time leads to being fat. I 100% believe this. So as child I would power through all the crap I hated to eat more of the stuff I liked, in the end I over ate and by the age of 8 my parents were getting stuck with a child who was twice as big as everyone else at every age. I blame another part due to living out of town all my life. I was only physically active at school, once that was over it was a 40min bus ride home to due homework and write out "spelling words" hundreds of time for the rest of the night. If I was given a break I watched TV or played video games. As I got older and into high school I did try and play football, but sadly I injured my knee and gave up one it due to the pain I was always in. So I would go home and play video games.
Did they learn their lesson? I have to say yes, because both my younger brothers got away with not eating every thing and could say yes/no to foods. They grew up "normal" size and healthy.
Enough about me . . . more on help, maybe. My parents actually took in some foster family (they were my fail cousin's kids) for some time about a year ago, and they were omfgpicky when it came to food. If she is old enough to say "no", ask why she doesn't like it. "Because I don't" should not be allowed.
Lets use the hotdog. Is it JUST a hotdog and nothing else? Maybe try slitting it and adding a sliver of cheese to it? ketchup? mustard? Bread? (protein, dairy, fats, and grain if you need to see it that way). One kid would not eat meat w/o ketchup. Actually you could put ketchup ON anything and he would then eat it. It was kind of gross (green beans and ketchup... Pizza and ketchup...toast and ketchup). However he was only give so much, maybe 2 servings worth and that was it.
She likes chicken nuggets from McD's? Will see eat chicken nuggets that are home made? Like Tyson's? If no, is it because they are not from McD's? Have you presented store bought ones to her IN a McD's box/bag? This was also a trick my parents used, and I know others out there have.
I say 1st you need to figure out what she likes. Is she at the age where solid foods are the "new" thing? Maybe her food needs to be pureed? There is all the vitamin drinks out there if you re worried about that, maybe she likes one?
Frankly, I can't figure out how they don't starve anyway, given that they're bundles of energy, yet eat like three tiny bites of food at any given meal (mashing the rest around on the plate but not eating it). And those are the ones that don't have weird food issues. Somehow, magically, they don't starve, and they do grow up just fine.
It is that primal part of us. When it was time to run for safety, the young could go go go. Edited, Nov 7th 2012 6:53pm by Sandinmygum