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#1 Jul 30 2012 at 5:27 PM Rating: Good
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Today a new hire started working with me. To replace the horrible person who just walked off the job a few months back.

Industrial controls is a predominantly male field. In the eight years I've been doing it, I've only met two women, both of which were not "on the floor" types, but more research and design types, reps from other companies who I worked with on quotes and designing new equipment. The new hire is a woman in her late 30s (judging by her appearance, not something I would ask her). Her previous job involved designing, building, programming, troubleshooting of controls. Pretty much everything we need in a worker. I'm really hoping she works out.

Now on to what makes me a bad person. I'm secretly happy that she isn't super attractive. I'm not saying she's ugly, just that she's not drop dead gorgeous. I think I would have a hard time working closely with someone who was distractingly beautiful. Obviously a fault of my own and not one of the would be person. I do feel bad because I know I wouldn't care what a male looked like if I were working with him. But then again, my brain wouldn't think of a male in terms of attractive/unattractive...
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#2 Jul 30 2012 at 5:31 PM Rating: Excellent
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No.

You're only a bad person if you tell her.
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#3 Jul 30 2012 at 5:44 PM Rating: Decent
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Today a new hire started working with me. To replace the horrible person who just walked off the job a few months back.

Industrial controls is a predominantly male field. In the eight years I've been doing it, I've only met two women, both of which were not "on the floor" types, but more research and design types, reps from other companies who I worked with on quotes and designing new equipment. The new hire is a woman in her late 30s (judging by her appearance, not something I would ask her). Her previous job involved designing, building, programming, troubleshooting of controls. Pretty much everything we need in a worker. I'm really hoping she works out.

Now on to what makes me a bad person. I'm secretly happy that she isn't super attractive. I'm not saying she's ugly, just that she's not drop dead gorgeous. I think I would have a hard time working closely with someone who was distractingly beautiful. Obviously a fault of my own and not one of the would be person. I do feel bad because I know I wouldn't care what a male looked like if I were working with him. But then again, my brain wouldn't think of a male in terms of attractive/unattractive...


I actually think that its pretty cool that you are aware of it, and acknowledge it. However while she might not be visually attractive to you at this time, her intellect and work ability overtime may change that.
#4 Jul 30 2012 at 5:47 PM Rating: Excellent
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Just **** her and get it over with.
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#5 Jul 30 2012 at 6:38 PM Rating: Excellent
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No, and I bet she'd be relieved to know you feel the same way.
#6 Jul 30 2012 at 7:18 PM Rating: Excellent
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Even if she was distractingly attractive, it would only last a few weeks at most before the novelty wore off. That's not to say that on occasion she wouldn't do or move in a way that distracts you, but it wouldn't be a constant thing after a little while.
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#7 Jul 30 2012 at 9:20 PM Rating: Good
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Even if she was distractingly attractive, it would only last a few weeks at most before the novelty wore off. That's not to say that on occasion she wouldn't do or move in a way that distracts you, but it wouldn't be a constant thing after a little while.


I guess it's different from person to person. In my experience, distractingly attractive women remain distractingly attractive even after a few weeks.
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#8 Jul 30 2012 at 9:45 PM Rating: Good
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I'm not saying she's ugly, just that she's not drop dead gorgeous.


You mean, she's normal?

I think the Internet inflates everyone's sense of how many disgustingly beautiful women are in the world. They only make up ten percent of the female population at best, but they get ninety percent of the photographs.
#9 Jul 30 2012 at 9:53 PM Rating: Good
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TirithRR wrote:
I'm not saying she's ugly, just that she's not drop dead gorgeous.


You mean, she's normal?

I think the Internet inflates everyone's sense of how many disgustingly beautiful women are in the world. They only make up ten percent of the female population at best, but they get ninety percent of the photographs.

Id probably say maybe just 3% is truly beautiful. the rest of us use bright lights, makeup and photoshop
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If I've learned anything from the OOT, proper dictum would require you to tell her "tits or GTFO" on her first day of work.
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If I've learned anything from the OOT, proper dictum would require you to tell her "tits or GTFO" on her first day of work.

when HR comes to talk to you about the EEO violation, make sure to mention:
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#12 Jul 30 2012 at 10:31 PM Rating: Good
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catwho wrote:
TirithRR wrote:
I'm not saying she's ugly, just that she's not drop dead gorgeous.


You mean, she's normal?


Well duh. That was my point. It's not that I find her hideous and therefore easy to work with. Just that her looks are not a distraction. It helps that she's slightly older than me as well.

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I think the Internet inflates everyone's sense of how many disgustingly beautiful women are in the world. They only make up ten percent of the female population at best, but they get ninety percent of the photographs.


There are a number of women where I work that are that step above normal. But they are not in my department, and I see them only in passing a couple times a week. The internet has little to do with this case, and it's not that these women would be "internet beautiful", just distractingly attractive to me.
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PunkFloyd, King of Bards wrote:
If I've learned anything from the OOT, proper dictum would require you to tell her "tits or GTFO" on her first day of work.

when HR comes to talk to you about the EEO violation, make sure to mention:
"urface"
"urmom"
"mudkips" and
"it's over 9000"


I also have to watch myself around her. Obviously being an all male crew previously, things were a little... relaxed in certain aspects. We're a bunch of 28-40 males in a factory. Comments that are probably inappropriate for the workplace are common.
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I'm betting she probably thinks exactly the same about you, unless you're secretly also a male model and I was not informed, in which case I want shirtless pics (however, if not the case, do not want).

The beautiful people are for ogling, fantasizing about, and for a lucky few, *******. The rest of us get to enjoy life not being so beautiful we naturally exude sparkles and make fangirls squeal, because that stuff gets old, fast.
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This seems appropriate.
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#16 Jul 31 2012 at 9:47 AM Rating: Excellent
Do a spinning bird kick on her and see how it works out.
#17 Jul 31 2012 at 12:25 PM Rating: Excellent
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Do a spinning bird kick on her and see how it works out.


When pushing her down the stairs just won't do...
#18 Jul 31 2012 at 1:10 PM Rating: Decent
Just treat your new employee like you would any woman. Skip the sarcasm and manly jokes. Until your comfortable with her being around and she's
proven she is a competent worker. Then you might be able to learn a bit more about the person themselves. In the workplace one has to be professional,
courteous, and open minded about things and others.Oh and if you begin to like her for some reason? My father always used to say that you don't
**** where you eat. So relationships at work are always a bad idea.
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One night stands don't count as relationships, so give her a good ole rogering.
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#20 Jul 31 2012 at 8:11 PM Rating: Good
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I think you should invite her over to your place to listen to your Andrew Dice Clay collection.
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Sharpie in the pooper.
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#24 Aug 07 2012 at 7:46 PM Rating: Decent
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Having read none of this thread, I can can conclude that if you have to make a thread on an internet message board asking if you're a bad person, you probably are.
#25 Aug 08 2012 at 3:53 AM Rating: Excellent
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Just treat your new employee like you would any woman.

He doesn't want to get fired...
#26 Aug 08 2012 at 5:15 PM Rating: Good
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Uglysasquatch wrote:
Even if she was distractingly attractive, it would only last a few weeks at most before the novelty wore off. That's not to say that on occasion she wouldn't do or move in a way that distracts you, but it wouldn't be a constant thing after a little while.


I guess it's different from person to person. In my experience, distractingly attractive women remain distractingly attractive even after a few weeks.


While they stay distractingly attractive, I've found you do get used to them so they aren't distracting anymore. At least not most of the time. Once in a while they dress up (ok, I don't work in jobs where people dress up all the time being in a casual type town) and then it's like... "Damn!" But generally speaking you do acclimate relatively soon.

At least I have in those instances.
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