So, I wasn't raised with my biodad but with my father and I met my biological father when I was 17. I've seen him maybe six or seven times in my life. So anyways, I've always found him sort of annoying but he's dreamed of having a wonderful and close relationship to me without having to do any type of emotional investment.
So here is the deal. Two years ago, I think I was in Boston with him and he was talking and talking and talking and I said something like "Do you have ADD?" He was so offended, he got up and said, "I'm gonna go. I can't believe you said that. We'll talk later." So his wife is all like "Go after him" and I said, "No, I'm not gonna go after him. I'm going home" I told my mother about it who said it was hilarious that he thought I'd cater to his moodiness. So the next day, he called and I saw him. He was overly apologetic and then kept saying that I was going to talk crap to my sister (and ruin everything) and my mom will hate him more than she already does (I said my mom doesn't hate him, she hasn't seen him for like 35 years).
So, we leave and he freaks out and keeps bugging my sister about how I feel about him, constantly leading to these three way type email chains where I have to justify myself to her and to him (My sister just wants to keep the peace). I write to him and tell him to stop talking to my sister about me--if he wants to talk about me, then be direct.
So anyways, six months go along or so and finally he writes to my sister, "I know I'm not supposed to write to you about Anna but i've written her so many times and she doesn't respond." She forwards it to me and i write him back and say that I've never received any emails (which is true and something he's saying always when he's anxious) and I'm not sure why he can't either call or figure out the correct address since this happens to no one else.
And then nothing.
And then he writes to my sister about being sickly and having surgery and how he values my sister so much and how he regrets me and my meanness. And then this weekend, he's visiting even though I'm also up and don't want to meet up with him at all. (which I probably won't--thankfully, he's scared of my mom who I will be with most of the time).
My question really is: Why is he such an idiot?