I am depressedFollow

Santa isn't real and the tooth fairy is your mother!
(waits for response)

Boy have I found that not to be the case!

Seriously, I find I'm better off to act like I'm not a raving lunatic with zero compassion for others and only sex as my motivator. Basically as long as I share emotions other than my own, sailing is smoother.

I'd like to take this oppurtinity to point out that I've never failed to ask out a girl I found attractive. I might have no confidence, but I have limited amounts of bravery when called for.

Also, I think it unlikely that I'd date a girl I wasn't friends with, unless we had a great connection. (Which happened once, but then she became a lesbian.) Popular kids don't do it for me, as I'm attracted to personality generally more than looks.

Also; work on skills? Technique? I wouldn't feel really comfortable with putting on airs to attract women.

Sharing emotions I have no problem with either. It's not the "common mistakes of man" that's going wrong here. It's that nobody is attracted to me in the first place, hence rendering all other points moot.

Edited, Oct 18th 2007 10:55pm by Galkaman

Stop being so God damn cryptic about it.

Tell. Us. The. FUcking. Story.

Edited, Oct 18th 2007 10:53pm by DodoBird

Honestly, I got drunk and spilled my life's problems in completeness all over the internets, its the least you can do to at least give us some details.

[:headbang:] I've never gotten to the relationship part. If I did, I'm sure I'd be much more confident as I'd actually see myself as worth something?

And Kaain: No. You've been told pretty much all there is to know. Plus it's 4am and I should at least try to sleep.

Fine, if I feel up to it in the morning i'll tell you the story.

Edited, Oct 18th 2007 10:59pm by Galkaman

Well, without any more information I'm going to suggest you get drunk and phone her, right now. That makes chicks so horny, oh my God.

Edit:

Again, he needs advice on how to gain the woman, not how to get her to leave him for another man.

Edited, Oct 18th 2007 8:01pm by Barkingturtle

I didn't think you were around when Anna's mother got called.

I got this far

And stopped reading.

Gonna be brutally honest here:

You're boned. You're gonna have to spend some time working on you.

No one like being around people who don't like themselves.



And as an aside: rejection is not the end of the world, and a big part of growing up is learning to take it in stride. Everyone gets rejected. A lot. EVERYONE.

This is the kind of person you don't want to listen to

Dear Galkaman, I seriously recommend Dialectical Behaviour Therapy for the clinical depression. It works oh so well as a long term "cure"*, although it'll take a few years of practise at the skills you learn.

If you are at uni, it might not be the time of life to book into it yet, you need 5 hours a week for a year, as a minimum. The programs that stick the closest to Dr Marsha Linehan's designed program work the best. (Make sure it includes the Mindfulness module.)

In Oz, you need private Health insurance to afford it, because it doens't come under government benefits, and the waiting lists are really long, because it's such an effective treatment, and it has such a high reputation.

This may help with your wimminz problems in a roundabout way. (Happier guys are more charismatic. More charismatic guys get the girls!) There is also an "Interpersonal Effectiveness" module, which really comes in handy.

*"cure" as in, the number of days you are depressed in a month will go down drastically on average, but you will have to practise the skills every day of your life to keep a long term positive mood.

Edited, Oct 18th 2007 11:19pm by Aripyanfar