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#27 Jun 14 2004 at 9:11 PM Rating: Decent
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D00d,

your best bet is total honesty. WHEN you do find a woman, don't fed her abunch of crap.... otherwise you'll be putting on a song and dance forever.

When you're with a girl be honest with her, about yourself that is, but flatter the ***** out of her.

And if you do start talking to somone... just ask her if she wants to go have coffee or somthing... you don't need to ******** about it.. because EVERYgirl knows by then that you want them, and the rest is pretty much a game you have to play to impress them... but if you even got that far, you're at least Close to being in....

also don't let a few failures get you down. Learn from them.
All women are different, it's pretty much a guessing game at first.. so don't be intimidated, EVERYONE goes through it.

don't believe the hype
it's Quality not quantity.

There's prolly a chick sitting at HER computer thinking the same thing as you.
but stuff usually happens when you least expected... so don't bother going crazy over it.

Waht is yours will find you.
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#28 Jun 15 2004 at 5:42 PM Rating: Decent
what does bile mean?
#29 Jun 15 2004 at 6:03 PM Rating: Decent
bile - the stuff that lines ur stomach and comes up after youve spewed the rest of the contents of said stomach
#30 Jun 15 2004 at 6:54 PM Rating: Decent
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You've already discovered why you don't have a girlfriend. Here's what I did to defeat my own shyness year's ago. The secre is...

Confidence.


Yep, used to have that problem when I was younger, talking like 15 until 23-24. Last 4 years its been easy. I'm not saying be a big bullsh!ter but just come off like you are tha man without being cocky.
#31 Jun 16 2004 at 12:02 AM Rating: Decent
Relax. The more you worry about having a girlfriend, the more stress you cause yourself. You probably have better things to worry about anyway...
#32 Jun 16 2004 at 12:17 AM Rating: Decent
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#33 Jun 16 2004 at 12:52 PM Rating: Good
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Stop wearing your underwear on the outside. That did it for me.

BTW Does anyone else see the irony in starting a thread asking for dating advice on a messageboard with the heading "Allakhazam's Magical Realm Your Everquest Community"? Your just bound to get responses like this:

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i am thinking about getting into Break dancing but i don thtink i am stong enough yet. that **** is bad ***.

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#34 Jun 16 2004 at 12:57 PM Rating: Good
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#35 Jun 16 2004 at 7:40 PM Rating: Decent
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Stop wearing your underwear on the outside. That did it for me.

BTW Does anyone else see the irony in starting a thread asking for dating advice on a messageboard with the heading "Allakhazam's Magical Realm Your Everquest Community"? Your just bound to get responses like this:

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i am thinking about getting into Break dancing but i don thtink i am stong enough yet. that **** is bad ***.


This reminds me of someone who posted something over at castersrealm forums. They don't have an OOT forum, or if they do this wasn't there. It was on the main Eq forum. Anyhow, it is this giant long post by this woman about how she was abducted by aliens and she has bizzare medical problems and she has trouble sleeping, etc.

Amazingly, no one totally flamed her about it, but several were curious about why, exactly, she was posting this here. She claimed that her psychologist suggested it, but you know it seems unlikely you would actually make the screen name, etc, and not notice it was saying things like "CastersRealm: Your Complete And Consise Everquest Resource" or whatever and mistakenly think this is a place you go to discuss your psychological problems...well...

One reply, which will live in infamy, suggested since she had already found the forum and couldnt sleep at night anyhow, she might just as well take up Everquest.

The link is:
http://forums.crgaming.com/eqbb/viewtopic.php?t=90528&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight=abducted%20aliens
#36 Jun 16 2004 at 8:27 PM Rating: Decent
wow lol
#37 Jun 16 2004 at 8:58 PM Rating: Decent
seriously wow... i just read part of tyhat ****... that stuff is crazy.
#38 Jun 16 2004 at 9:55 PM Rating: Decent
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You need some bar hoochies, yeah!!! Just remember to split before they wake.
#39 Jun 17 2004 at 2:22 AM Rating: Good
I believe that post was bogus.
1. Simple fact sticks out.
She's from Denver, Co, USA and says
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The room was small; perhaps 4m x 4m x 3m

Americans, even scientists, don't use the metric system to describe distances. She'd have put feet not meters.
#40 Jun 17 2004 at 2:43 AM Rating: Decent
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WomenTrouble,

Your posts bring forth much bile.


I fell out of my chair laughing at this. So funny, sad, and true.
#41 Jun 17 2004 at 12:13 PM Rating: Decent
Happy to say that I don't feel your pain for I am of the female race and it is so much easier for us, but I do understand it. A 28 year old vey shy male friend of mine is having the same problem. I'm about to start him on his own steps to dating program!! Confidence is a big thing just like everyone else has said, being yourself and having a sense of humor ranks up there to. You have to relax and have fun whether with a girl or friends because other women will see that and like it.
Being shy is a major disadvantage but if you don't talk to women you'll never go out with them. Practice--talk to women without any intention of asking them out, say anything whether it's stupid or not, just get used to talking to women you don't know. Pretend to do a survey or something, anything, you'll get a lot more comfortable talking to them and that will portray confidence. I for one don't really find men attractive until I talk to them and find out a bit about who they are. And attraction is a big thing so present yourself in the best way possible physically--doesn't mean expensive clothes or surgery here--just clothes that fit, look great on you, are clean and not wrinkled!!, a flattering haircut, the right shape of eyeglasses, yada yada yada...
Don't look for people who feel you're pain, look for people who can help you out--misery will attract misery and who wants that?
Improve yourself, don't change yourself. Let those girls know who you are and what you offer and you won't have a problem.
#42 Jun 17 2004 at 12:44 PM Rating: Good
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I am of the female race


Are these like Amazons or something? Never met anyone of the female race.....but then I'm from the South. Weuns don't have much culture unless yall count that stuff they scraped of my cousin Earl's tooth bout 6 month ago.
#43 Jun 17 2004 at 3:15 PM Rating: Decent
Thanks for all the replies. Yes, I have struck up convos with gals, and some of them seem easier to approach and speak with than others. Weird chemistry thing, I guess. Guessing games and salesmenship aren't my forte. Only honesty. Sounds like most of you are talking like players on here. I don't need advice from players.

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Don't fake it, though. Communication and honesty are the prime requisites for a meaningful relationship.


Finally someone who seems to know what they're talking about. Lies chase lies, and i don't have the memory for all that.
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Dude, I feel your pain...

Here are a few learned behaviors that can help, seriously:

Learn how to dance. Learn to move on the dance floor. Find some hip-hop that you can stand and learn to feel the rythm. It will feel natural with practice and other white guys will be jealous of you.


Oh yea, Electronic/Techno/Breakbeat/D&B/Goa/Trance/Big Beat/Digital Hardcore/Trip-Hop/Progressive House is music i love. I bet I've heard and know more of it than you. Going to clubz is cool if you're down with it, but it all seems so put on and fake to me. Besides, I'm too old for that stuff.

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Be friendly and polite. Don't be too formal, though.

Good advice. I'll give it a shot.

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Good luck man, and let us know how things work out.

Thx. I think I'll need it.

Still, it seems pathetic to be lacking in confidence @ age 28... Sigh... Then again, I think anybody willing to admit their insecurities to others has more courage than those who don't... Maybe the lack of confidence is all fake.

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And attraction is a big thing so present yourself in the best way possible physically--doesn't mean expensive clothes or surgery here--just clothes that fit, look great on you, are clean and not wrinkled!!, a flattering haircut, the right shape of eyeglasses, yada yada yada...


That goes right up to the points mentioned above. When you play it that way, you will only attract vapid, shallow women who will date you once and never call you again. I bet you're one of those women, aren't you?

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Don't look for people who feel you're pain, look for people who can help you out--misery will attract misery and who wants that?
Improve yourself, don't change yourself. Let those girls know who you are and what you offer and you won't have a problem.


Wrong. The only person who can help you out is YOU. I'll take true, geniune misery over a false sense of optimism any day.

Remember, even Hitler had a girlfriend.



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#44 Jun 17 2004 at 4:06 PM Rating: Good
orochimarco wrote:
...Remember, even Hitler had a girlfriend...

Women (as a group - not ALL of them, of course) are attracted by power - it's a biological thing.

But they are also attracted to confidence, honesty, and sincerity. And yes, faking confidence does indeed lead to actually becoming confident. Odd, but true.

But now's here's a little info no one's mentioned yet...
In their teens and early to mid-20's, women tend to be attracted to dynamic, exciting, "guys-on-the-edge." If they haven't settled down by their late 20's, they start to mature (much like we do, actually) and start looking for men with qualities they can live with for many years. This is where honesty and sincerity come in. Please note, also - they are looking for MEN, not boys. A man with boyish qualities, perhaps, but NOT a boy in a man's body (which is frequently what the guys they were attracted to are).

Oh, and temper the honesty initially - don't scare them by "being honest" and telling them ALL your faults...

You've got some excellent advice in this thread - become a man - step up and step out. Here's my phrase I repeat prior to taking a big step "Ain't nothin' to it but to do it!"

Another good one - "Carpe Diem!" Trite, perhaps, but it gets you into the mindset you need to take the bull by the horns!
#45 Jun 17 2004 at 4:19 PM Rating: Decent
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#46 Jun 17 2004 at 6:46 PM Rating: Decent
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Hmmm I'm almost out of 7'th geting into 8'th... well I'm not one of those "geeks" but not one the "cool" kids. I'm not stupid tho I act like one. I'm not god awfull looking got a few pimples but not big and showering everyday and all... well IMO I guess if you (Don't laugh) what will you want. Ok think pretend litteraly you're dating a girl. Now will you like the girl to pretend to act cute and "cool" ever since she got you? Will you like it after you get asked to a date only to see her doing something by herself and her friends? Do you want her to after a couple weeks or months and you've told her that she'll take you or something or someplace you don't like? IMO think about what you wouldn't like from a girl friend change it a bit so it's a little more fitting to a girl or wspeficly to your girl friend's opinion. Now think where do you find one? Of course you can try the interent but you should first think where can you meat a girl that you'll like in both apperance and personality. First step is to slowly be a romantic friend because if you first become normal friends (Althrough I'm not sure go say GTHAFM kid) you might have less of a chance of becoming a romantic couple. Now lets see she wants to know that you care for her of course. You're not supose to make her or make her think or assume that you're using her. To show affection of intrest after you guys are in love is to invite each other constantly. Quickly move on before any one else gets on her and tries to steal you or before something bad happens. Now remember if you're serious by now you should be don't wait so long and propose after your best time. Don't think of some romantic hollywood thing unless you're good at making one. Don't think you're old most get and it's a good time to get married at age 28-32 IMO. Just keep smiling and make her feel that her life is good with you I mean she wouoldn't marry you just because you had some romantic nights and days make it everysecond from se x (OOOOO I said oooo big deal) to a simple talking or sitting so it makes her feel that you do care, you do love her, that lifes going to be good with you... this is from a 13 year American born Japanese parents 7'th grade kid. Take my advice or not it's your choice bye.
#47 Jun 17 2004 at 6:59 PM Rating: Decent
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^^GFY ******.
#48 Jun 17 2004 at 7:01 PM Rating: Good
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/Points two posts up.

Holy Buddha, what the hell is that?





Edited, Thu Jun 17 20:02:32 2004 by trickybeck
#49 Jun 17 2004 at 7:04 PM Rating: Decent
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No clue tricky, didn't take the time to read it.

I'm tired of my eyeballs bleeding when I try to read **** wrote like that.

As I said in a previous post, anyone posting in that manner gets a GFY, and is labled a ******.

#50 Jun 17 2004 at 7:11 PM Rating: Good
Please hit the return key sometimes, that is almost impossible to read.

Do you think the 28 year old OP will read past the first sentence of that crap? I did, but that was becasue it took me until your last sentence, to make any sense out of anything you said in there.

By the way, in grade 7 you don't know ****** You haven't even hit the bar scene yet, and the OP is already out the other side.

Actually, most 28ish year old single girls/women, will be feeling their clock ticking pretty hard, and will really be doing some determined searching for the future father of their children. All of their friends should be settling down, having babies, and that should drive them straight into your arms, bit like a stampede. It shouldn't be too hard to cash in here.
#51 Jun 18 2004 at 1:15 PM Rating: Decent
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I believe that post was bogus.
1. Simple fact sticks out.
She's from Denver, Co, USA and says
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The room was small; perhaps 4m x 4m x 3m

Americans, even scientists, don't use the metric system to describe distances. She'd have put feet not meters.


Well, yes, it is stunningly unlikely. Personally I thought the whole aliens thing less convincing then the fact she put the room size in meters, but that is just me.

The reason I posted it is because just that one reply from the one person who says "well since you found this forum already you might as well just start playing Eq" I personally find so funny I just had to share it.

Perhaps this is because my sense of humor has not matured since I was twelve. Alas.
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