Thanks for all the replies. Yes, I have struck up convos with gals, and some of them seem easier to approach and speak with than others. Weird chemistry thing, I guess. Guessing games and salesmenship aren't my forte. Only honesty. Sounds like most of you are talking like players on here. I don't need advice from players.
Don't fake it, though. Communication and honesty are the prime requisites for a meaningful relationship.
Finally someone who seems to know what they're talking about. Lies chase lies, and i don't have the memory for all that.
Dude, I feel your pain...
Here are a few learned behaviors that can help, seriously:
Learn how to dance. Learn to move on the dance floor. Find some hip-hop that you can stand and learn to feel the rythm. It will feel natural with practice and other white guys will be jealous of you.
Oh yea, Electronic/Techno/Breakbeat/D&B/Goa/Trance/Big Beat/Digital Hardcore/Trip-Hop/Progressive House is music i love. I bet I've heard and know more of it than you. Going to clubz is cool if you're down with it, but it all seems so put on and fake to me. Besides, I'm too old for that stuff.
Be friendly and polite. Don't be too formal, though.
Good advice. I'll give it a shot.
Good luck man, and let us know how things work out.
Thx. I think I'll need it.
Still, it seems pathetic to be lacking in confidence @ age 28... Sigh... Then again, I think anybody willing to admit their insecurities to others has more courage than those who don't... Maybe the lack of confidence is all fake.
And attraction is a big thing so present yourself in the best way possible physically--doesn't mean expensive clothes or surgery here--just clothes that fit, look great on you, are clean and not wrinkled!!, a flattering haircut, the right shape of eyeglasses, yada yada yada...
That goes right up to the points mentioned above. When you play it that way, you will only attract vapid, shallow women who will date you once and never call you again. I bet you're one of those women, aren't you?
Don't look for people who feel you're pain, look for people who can help you out--misery will attract misery and who wants that?
Improve yourself, don't change yourself. Let those girls know who you are and what you offer and you won't have a problem.
Wrong. The only person who can help you out is YOU
. I'll take true, geniune misery over a false sense of optimism any day.
Remember, even Hitler had a girlfriend. Edited, Thu Jun 17 16:26:30 2004 by orochimarco Edited, Thu Jun 17 16:38:09 2004 by orochimarco Edited, Thu Jun 17 17:12:34 2004 by orochimarco
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