I write in my seacom that I will not pull. Then I double check with the leader to make sure he/she understands that i will not pull. If I still get invited, then by all means, it is no longer my concern whether I am right or not. The leader knew what he was getting when he invited me (whether I am right or not)
Which is pretty much the equivalent of me seeking as WHM or RDM and putting in my seacom that I will not ever cast Haste, as far as I see things.
Yeah, leaders should read seacoms, but there is a point where you are just wasting their time and contributing to the flood of mediocrity in the LFP pool. Outright refusing to do one of your job's primary functions crosses that line.
*ding ding ding* exactly. if you don't want to perform BRD's role in an XP party, you probably shouldn't be XPing on BRD. sure, you can put into your /seacom "i want to leech off your party". you ought to understand that this is what you are asking for. if you don't mind leeching, leech away.
Pulling makes sense for a BRD to do, but it is definitely not why they get invited.
Actually it often is. I have heard many, many people say to get a BRD specifically because "they didn't want to be puller". And they've actually said BRD specifically, not just any old generic job with a ranged attack.
at merit level, BRD's marches add more than getting a further DD, though its pulling is what makes it necessary (especially since BRD *sacrifices no performance whatsoever by pulling*). 4-5 of me + a RDM and another non-BRD support will chain faster than most DDs + a bard, and taking arrogance out of it, even mildly above average DDs can chain infinitely for 20k~ XP without a BRD (not mindblowing, but similar to untested pickup DDs + a BRD). BRD's marches (note, not buffs, just marches) are what take a great party and make it an amazing party, b/c of how haste works... but the pulling is why BRD is so preferred over a COR or even another melee.
however, fynlar is clearly referring to the road to 75 (since no one RA pulls @75). a BRD who won't pull on the road to 75 just ought to not be invited, b/c that's heavy leeching. i'm tired of writing this post, but i hope you know that songs are not potent enough before all the haste spells and gear to beat the speed-up you get from BRD pulling at those levels. BRD buffs are lesser than or equal to COR buffs (with COR roll alone doing more for the party than 2 BRD songs unless, maybe, you're infinite chaining something), and rare are the parties where BRD adds more by buffing the DDs than a great DD would add themselves.