I mean, the blunt point of the matter is that marriage benefits directly create a situation in which **** couples are unconstitutionally discriminated with, and more and more Republican-controlled courts are coming to that conclusion. Because it's just a matter of logic.
Those judges may think that being **** is gross and wrong, but at the end of the day something's gotta give. You can either remove those benefits, and force a social argument for marriage (which is much less likely to get passed up the courts), or you can accept that it's a matter of nondiscrimination.
Obviously, I'm happier about cases where we have legislatures voluntarily enacting change. But I'll settle for court orders.
I care more about getting protection bills through in places like TN, where kids are killing themselves at an alarming rate. Oh, a national nondiscrimination bill making it illegal to, say, get fired for being **** would be nice, too. Most of our states still don't have one of those.