Unfortunately, I would say you both need to petition. Long before this update I had all of my spells to Adept III (now Expert), and I've not had any spells missing from the list. (A specific post there did say that Necromancers were not missing any spells, and since that is my main I have not checked with the RA on my alts, since they mostly all run with Adept versions anyway).
You may want to check out some of the posts in
THIS thread on the official forums, as it seems others are also experiencing the same issues with a variety of classes.
I know this isn't the answer you are looking for, but perhaps if that thread gets more activity you will have a better chance of getting your issues looked into.
Or petition and get a GM to respond, in which case please post what they say here so we can all continue to get more information on this issue.
Edited, Jul 6th 2009 7:05pm by Dyadem