Cancelled my sub :(Follow

Then you are posing on the wrong forum. The developers read and answer to the official message boards. Only they could make XIV more like XI. We here at Zam can not. You can find the developers ears through the Lodestone.

And hmm, you are stating an opinion, but don't want others to agree.... What else would you call that? Pissing to the wind? Noise pollution? The old bearded dude on the corner talking to himself? Human beings communicate to express ideas, otherwise why even talk? You express your opinions because you think they are correct, I would hope. Would you not be expressing these opinions because you hoped that others would share in your cause? Or are you simply talking just to talk? My five year old does that.

OH wait! You are expressing your opinion because you KNOW others won't agree with you, and you are inciting a response. That is called "trolling" and we do not appreciate that. Get off my message board.


Edited, Feb 5th 2014 2:49pm by Valkayree

*Person says they don't like the game* - SHUT UP GO AWAY UGH TROLL WE HATE YOU

*People threaten to punch someone over an opinion on a video game* - HAHA AWESOME YEAH RATE UPS FOR YOU <3

Grow up, seriously. If you don't like a person just put them on ignore. The end.

Edited, Feb 5th 2014 4:03pm by BrokenFox

D&K, no more trolling in this thread, or you'll get muted. I would have muted both of you sooner had I seen your earlier posts. How incredibly indecent of both of you.

This thread isn't about a game... it's about a person.

Troll elsewhere, or else.

Edited, Feb 5th 2014 1:30pm by Thayos

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Edited, Feb 5th 2014 4:52pm by Dyadem

Yep... this thread should remind everyone to not take real-life relationships for granted.

At the same time, it's always sad when a fellow gamer has to step back. We all share a similar hobby, or even a similar passion, and we bond through our experiences in gaming.

That really sucks, Hairspray, but I understand. I have a feeling I might have to make a similar decision soon based on my SO's behavior lately. It's nice to like a game but not to the point where you spend more time with it than them.

I never got to play with you but I did learn quite a bit from you! Thank you so much and I hope you can come back at a later date.

Woot! Welcome back.

One thing I do is I keep my play time to when my husband is watching TV shows (anime) I don't want to watch. Dude watches waaaaaay too much anime but he's one of the reviewers for ANN and he did his PhD on anime fans so whatever, it got him a job.

That way he doesn't feel neglected.

Edit: Error 404 coffee not found.

Edited, Feb 6th 2014 11:52am by Catwho

Hairspray, I am glad you are working with your lady and working with her to keep your hobby and your relationship healthy.

Something that has likely already entered discussion between you and she, but bears mentioning here on the forums is: Have you considered setting for yourself a strict timetable to play the game? Something that fits with a schedule of allowing you both to have your own personal time as individuals, then, without fail, making sure there is time spent aside for you two as a couple.

Of course, keeping an open door of communication, emergency, or just sour days to interrupt the game time is more than fine, and keep the idea that these days can shift as needed. But genuinely, making sure you set time together and apart, regardless of your hobbies, will help a lot with making the relationship smooth over.

This is it. Well said.

Good to hear your working things out Hairspray. You are entitled to fun-time too, with limits of course.

We have some ground rules, and I've learned the absolutely critical times that FFXIV comes second. This seems a good place to share. My wife and I have been very happy together, even though I sure play as often as I can, even with 4 kids.

First thing is kids, homework, family dinner, family-fun-day (usually a Sunday afternoon adventure!) and bedtimes, including reading, tooth brushing inspection and bonus bedtime (extra half hour if they get ready all by their selves before 8:30). I don't ever want to look back and feel as if I missed out on fun time with the kids because of FFXIV.

Second, (also first in importance), I never-ever-ever make my wife feel as if she comes second to FFXIV. Now granted I have a great wife who makes this easy. Maybe not at first, but we found our balance. I've been in relationships where my girlfriend thought she should be the only thing I care about. Wackos. Get a hobby or something. Watch out for them. I found a women that actually had things she enjoyed doing with her life, besides dominate my activities. To the young couples out there, if your girlfriend/boyfriend has 0 hobbies, they need one! That is not healthy. Balance is healthy.

Lastly, this one is funny but true, when it's time to bring in the groceries, "One sec guys, brb." Help with the fricken' groceries. I don't even have to put them away, just bring them in. And, oh yeah, fix the broken stuff around the house now-and-then.

Not that she'll ever read this but, thanks Babe, you rock!

Edited, Feb 6th 2014 10:20am by Gnu

I suggest you just forget about the myth cap, because it tends to become a quota. Treat myth as a bonus you get while doing content you enjoy. If you like running Coil, CT, HM/EX Primals, or just a random high level dungeon, then the myth is just icing on the cake.

So cute that Hairspray decided to quit entirely because he loves his wife and needs to take care of the relationship and then she goes and does the same thing by saying he should play. Happy you guys worked it out. :)