My god. I just went through the worst DF ever, and I've been through some bad ones.
By the spin of the Roulette wheel, I ended up in Haukke Manor Hard Mode as a healer with a couple of BLMs and a pally. The tank and one of the BLMs obviously knew each other and I suspect were BF and GF respectively. As we're crawling to the first boss, it was abundantly clear we were short on DPS. The fights dragged on too long, and we didn't manage to save any of the victims (which may even make the first boss worse, so the rumor goes). But, I'm pretty easygoing. I'm no stranger to helping newcomers through tough fights.
As you know, the first boss is a DPS race. If it drags too long, so many skeleton spawns appear that's it impossible to win.
But since we had two BLMs who could AoE everything, I felt we had a fair shot. Whenever I had skelly aggro, I'd kite them over near the tank so they could all be blasted at once, and I kept a handle on healing well into the fight. Alas, eventually I had too many skeletons to count pounding away at me on all sides, and I just couldn't heal up fast enough and fell. An LB at that moment might have saved it, so there was hope for next time...
But before I could even make the suggestion, the tank starts ripping into me. He was convinced we lost because I was moving the skeletons together, or as he put it, "running away from them." And of course, the girlfriend chimes in, calling me a "dumb *****" for wasting their time. I tried to explain my intentions, but he insisted I use Surecast and stop moving around. So to humor him, I did just that, just to demonstrate the folly of the idea.
And of course, we did worse. Now we had two bunches of skeletons to kill and I was tanking one of them which meant I couldn't keep up with healing both the tank and myself and the DPS couldn't keep up with their demands either. So after we wipe again, before I can point out how we did better the first time, the tank and the BLM queen gang up on me again and have me vote-kicked out.
I suppose in a way, that spared me any more of that hell I was in, but really, I wish there was a way abuse of the system like that could be stopped. It's just plain bullying.