I agree with Seriha. I've rage quit so many times because of frustrating issues in this game. I play to have fun, not to "work" for the game. I already work at a job every day of my life, to feel like I have to do ANOTHER grind when I get home, is not why I play games. This weekend was a real treat with the double XP. I was able to solo as much as I wanted to. I don't like partying, sometimes it's too demanding to be in a party. Particularly if you wait HOURS to get into one, and then you're in it and suddenly something happens in RL and you have to bail. You feel like a heel, for one thing, and for another you've wasted all that time waiting to get into a PT.
I returned last Oct starting over on new account. I hit level 50 in a week playing 4 hrs if that daily. So you are complaining about long party waits and only having gotten back this past weekend. I quit playing around when FoV was first put in and the pages did not refresh. It is incrediably easy, and fast, to level now. Only thing slowing you down a bit is getting yoru genkai done. For me it wasn't as big a joy to hit 99 as it was to hit 75 before.
The second thing was how hard it was to earn any significant quantitiy of gil to pay for my items without having to spend huge amounts of time crafting.
Yeah that tends to suck until you are higher level. Join he book burns and you will see people leveling nude. Gear for low to mid level is npc mostly. You may find a few peices here and there.
I would just like to ENJOY this game and see everything there is to see, go everywhere there is to go, and experience the storytelling this game has to offer.
Only thing that ever, and still, will keep you from enjoying this game is yourself. I didn't rush through the game at its release and enjoyed the cs's and story. Now it is far easier as everything pre abyssea is soloable/duoable and you can sit and watch the cs's.
Enjoy the game on your terms, if you are one of those that wants to rush to endgame then do so. Not difficult at all now. If you want to enjoy the storys, cs's and exploring do that. No one will rush you through a cs now, usually cause you are doing it solo or with a friend that has done it already.